How To Fall Out Of Love?

[The Faulted]

Before I even start this, I want to point out that I made an advice post about this kind of problem a while ago, and this is going to make me sound like a huge hypocrite, but I am completely hopeless and I don't know what to do..

I'm in love. I'm actually and completely in love. I know I'll get the whole "you're too young" thing, but I really don't want to hear that. This guy.. I care so much about him. I worry about him all the time and I always hope he's okay, and I care about everything he might be going through. I try to make sure he's okay, and I just want him to be happy. I want nothing more then for him to be happy.. and he is.

But I'm really not.

He's not gay.. I have to accept that. But I honestly just can't. I really can't. I can't accept the fact he will never feel the same for me.. We're friends. me and this guy are really good friends, and one night I was drunk and ended up telling him I loved him. we didn't talk for like two weeks.. and then he texted me and told me that he had been in a relationship with some girl at one point and ever since they broke up it had completely ruined their friendship, and they still don't get along. He was honestly really comforting. Things were better for a while.. then this other chick came along, and now they are wheeling (dating, but not dating in case you've never heard the term). I have such a hard time being around them and it's so.. hurtful to see it. I just want to not be in love with him, but I can't help that I care about him and want to be there for him.. I just don't know what to do anymore.. and any advice would be really awesome..

[WanderingHeart]

Oh god that feeling - it really does suck, doesn't it?

One way to fall out of love is to kind of...distance yourself from him? But you guys seem really close, so not too sure. I'm only 14, wtf do I know about love lol.

Well you could always try turning him gay...

Sometimes, actually, what you need to do is just hear it from him that he doesn't feel the same way about you.

Maybe venting out your feelings, whether on here or not, might help.

(I am obviously listing whatever comes to mind)

Come on guys, let's help him out here.

[Ridonks_CB]

I would go to what you said about venting your feelings out, and though it is tough, usually I think the best is to say it to him. That can either be face to face or in a letter I suppose. I'm no love guru myself, I've never had any feelings like this actually (except for when I was like 11 but that doesn't count :P) but in context of other situations, it's good to let things out because it's then easier to move on once the weight is off of you.

[The Faulted]

I talk about him a lot.. Even out loud to myself. I don't want to distance myself at all, because it's too hard and I've tried and it just doesn't work. Venting helps a little.. But for some reason it's extremely temporary, and sometimes I just pretend it helped. Even when it didn't.

:/ I'm sorry guys, I appreciate it a lot. I've just been trying for a long time..

[Hudor]

I talk about him a lot.. Even out loud to myself. I don't want to distance myself at all, because it's too hard and I've tried and it just doesn't work. Venting helps a little.. But for some reason it's extremely temporary, and sometimes I just pretend it helped. Even when it didn't.

:/ I'm sorry guys, I appreciate it a lot. I've just been trying for a long time..

Look I know a crush on a straight guy can get very painful because even apart from the unrequited love there is the point of it being hopeless. I understand what you are going through and I understand you wouldn't want to distance yourself from your friend. But in the end the fact remains that he is straight and there is a zero scope of a relationship with him and you need to embrace that.
Also it is essential you distance yourself a bit from him because the longer you stay around him the more hurt you will feel. Though you may feel he is the perfect person for you now effectually I'm sure you will meet someone who loves you back as much as you love him. You just need to keep up the hopes. Think of what all you used to do before you met him, what all you enjoyed doing. You could try picking up those hobbies or spending time with your other friends. You don't have to stop spending time with him altogether boy try to reduce it gradually and try increasing the time you spend away from him both physically and mentally.
Also if you need to talk, vent or anything, feel free to pm me. :)

[WanderingHeart]

I agree with Hudor. The fact is he is straight and has no romantic feelings for you.

Grab a bucket of icecream, whatever you want and just let it out.