My brother is NOTHING to me

[hyperdude]

my older brother, well hes my halfbrother, hes 16 and im 13 and he is nothing to me anymore, he isnt there for me at all, and now in the last year hes giving me nothing but shit and making fun of me for stuff related to puberty and my body growing up. it's gotten to the point i'll cry myself to sleep wondering why my brother can be so mean all the time and he doesn't seem to understand one bit what his behavior feels like.

i hoped that when i got older my brother was one i could get information and learn stuff from, especially now with stuff happening to my body, i hate my body enough as it is now but he'll make sure i hate it even more with his remarks and comments ("you stink!", "youre growing a unibrow", "your voice sounds retarded") and he'll make jokes to people about me doing sex-stuff with myself in my bed when i havent done so. my life is embarrasing enough as it is but he is making it a Hell. i've tried to get back at him, once i told him he was just being a dick because he was jealous because he's ugly and he never had a girlfriend, it wasn't a nice thing to say and i still regret it but his response was punching me in the face, not a slap, he actualy PUNCHED me in the face and the side of my face hurt for like 24 hours.

if he died i wouldnt care. :cry:

would probably be even better if i died myself, thats what im thinking at least sometimes.

[hyperdude]

I'm sorry to hear about that.
You should talk to your parents about this because what's happening isn't right and they might find a solution

i cant talk to them about it, much of the bullying and what he is doing and how he is making fun of me is related to my body and whats happening to it, and if i tell my parents all of this it will be like opening up about all puberty-stuff. i don't know whats wrong with me but i can not get myself to be open up about my body with my parents, i get sick to my stomach thinking about it. i will never go shirtless around my parents anymore after puberty hit me because i dont want them to see all the hair under my arms (im a freak!), when i shave my face i'll wait until they're out of the house because i dont want them to hear the sound of my electric razor etc, i know, i'm sick in the head, theres something wrong with me. i think i want them to think nothing has happened yet, i'm afraid they'll make stupid jokes as well, like "oh he's growing up, omfg!"

i'll take more crap from my brother instead of risking that..

[NickTheStar]

Its fucked up that he was insulting you. But you disrespected him I can see why he popped you. Its sounds like brotherly love with the picking on each other. Don't take it to heart. It might just be his way of communication. Just tell him what he's saying hurts your heart. Try to confront him and tell him how you feel. Don't let him punch you again. Defend yourself. Dont hesitate just swing.

[Leprous]

my older brother, well hes my halfbrother, hes 16 and im 13 and he is nothing to me anymore, he isnt there for me at all, and now in the last year hes giving me nothing but shit and making fun of me for stuff related to puberty and my body growing up. it's gotten to the point i'll cry myself to sleep wondering why my brother can be so mean all the time and he doesn't seem to understand one bit what his behavior feels like.

i hoped that when i got older my brother was one i could get information and learn stuff from, especially now with stuff happening to my body, i hate my body enough as it is now but he'll make sure i hate it even more with his remarks and comments ("you stink!", "youre growing a unibrow", "your voice sounds retarded") and he'll make jokes to people about me doing sex-stuff with myself in my bed when i havent done so. my life is embarrasing enough as it is but he is making it a Hell. i've tried to get back at him, once i told him he was just being a dick because he was jealous because he's ugly and he never had a girlfriend, it wasn't a nice thing to say and i still regret it but his response was punching me in the face, not a slap, he actualy PUNCHED me in the face and the side of my face hurt for like 24 hours.

if he died i wouldnt care. :cry:

would probably be even better if i died myself, thats what im thinking at least sometimes.

Well buddy, first of all, 11/10 you would care if he died. Trust me. Wanting to die because of this is just wrong, yes you're in a bad situation but still. If I was insulted the way you did to him, I would've punched someone too, and I have.

His behavior may, and is probably caused by either puberty or he just feels like shit all the time and needs to take his frustration out on someone. The way I'm seeiing it, your brother is trying to act like the boss over his little brother. Opening up about puberty to your parents is completely fine, and if with doing sex things to yourself in bed you mean masturbating, there is literally nothing wrong with that.

I don't get why you're emberassed about growing up and having to shave your face because I shave it every 2 days and my parents don't care. You're basicly overreacting about all the puberty stuff to be honest. It's all natural, you think your brother didn't go trough it yet? There is nothing wrong with talking about your body. You do realize your parents know you're going trough puberty right? You can't change anything about it and you shoulf just deal with it.

If you need some more advice, feel free to let me know using a visitor message on my profile.

[SethfromMI]

Its fucked up that he was insulting you. But you disrespected him I can see why he popped you. Its sounds like brotherly love with the picking on each other. Don't take it to heart. It might just be his way of communication. Just tell him what he's saying hurts your heart. Try to confront him and tell him how you feel. Don't let him punch you again. Defend yourself. Dont hesitate just swing.

people can only take shit for so long. the older bro is giving him nothing but shit. maybe the older brother needs to grow some balls and realize you treat people like shit, your going to get it back eventually.

as far as to the OP I am sorry about your situation. but if you won't go to your parents, there is not much you can do (since talking to your brother obviously won't probably work in this situation)

[Hideous]

Okay, there's one thing to verbally abuse someone and another to physically abuse someone, the fact that he punched you, that's a no no. Tell your parents what's been happening, let them know. I'm sure you're not the only one in this situation.

If he keeps on giving you shit, brush it off and don't mind him at all. Be the bigger person, do not stoop down to his level and throw some shots because you'll only make it worse. I wish you the best.

[hyperdude]

To the one who said i deserved being hit, he has been doing this for like a YEAR and it was in february i said what i said that made him hit me and that was the first time i did anything bad back. Next time i'll punch his face and hopefuly break his nose and see what he does then.

and today: i come home from school, mom and dad arent here i thougt i was alone and then he is in my room reading on my bed, why would he do that when he has his own room and bed? i asked him why and he didnt answer, i didnt go over to him and went to the bathroom instead because i had to change for basketball practice. When i had changed and went to my room again he wasnt there, he wasnt in the house but why would he be on my bed in my room at the time he KNOWS i would be home? he is trying to create situations where he can do something, i don't know what i just know he is after something. It's making me very stressed! but I think i would like it more if he punched me instead of verbal abuse and jokes about me. i've read about puberty and how were suppose to develop and the body on boys and everything, ive read also on several websites about it but nothing fits me. everything is wrong compared to what i'm reading about how its supposed to be and i can not talk to anybody about that, i cant tell them "this is happening and this" and i cant ask "is this normal because nothing seems normal from what i read and hear!" If i was lucky i could have had an older brother i could have talked to but my older brother is Lord of the DOUCHEBAGS. ANd i cant talk to parents, you say its so easy to talk to them.. how can i talk anything to them about this when i hate everything about it?? if you hated yourself would you just run trallala to your parents and talk about yourself to them?

[Leprous]

To the one who said i deserved being hit, he has been doing this for like a YEAR and it was in february i said what i said that made him hit me and that was the first time i did anything bad back. Next time i'll punch his face and hopefuly break his nose and see what he does then.

and today: i come home from school, mom and dad arent here i thougt i was alone and then he is in my room reading on my bed, why would he do that when he has his own room and bed? i asked him why and he didnt answer, i didnt go over to him and went to the bathroom instead because i had to change for basketball practice. When i had changed and went to my room again he wasnt there, he wasnt in the house but why would he be on my bed in my room at the time he KNOWS i would be home? he is trying to create situations where he can do something, i don't know what i just know he is after something. It's making me very stressed! but I think i would like it more if he punched me instead of verbal abuse and jokes about me. i've read about puberty and how were suppose to develop and the body on boys and everything, ive read also on several websites about it but nothing fits me. everything is wrong compared to what i'm reading about how its supposed to be and i can not talk to anybody about that, i cant tell them "this is happening and this" and i cant ask "is this normal because nothing seems normal from what i read and hear!" If i was lucky i could have had an older brother i could have talked to but my older brother is Lord of the DOUCHEBAGS. ANd i cant talk to parents, you say its so easy to talk to them.. how can i talk anything to them about this when i hate everything about it?? if you hated yourself would you just run trallala to your parents and talk about yourself to them?

Buddy, if I managed to tell my parents about my self harm problem, you can tell them about your brother, you just have to tell them he's a jerk, you don't have to say what he's doing so specificly. Oh and don't trust all the internet stuff on puberty, I can assure you, what you're going trough is completely normal. If you mean me, I never said you deserved it...

[hyperdude]

Buddy, if I managed to tell my parents about my self harm problem, you can tell them about your brother, you just have to tell them he's a jerk, you don't have to say what he's doing so specificly. Oh and don't trust all the internet stuff on puberty, I can assure you, what you're going trough is completely normal.

people are different.. so its not just to say because you managed to tell then i should be able to tell when you don't know the total picture.. how long did you have a self harm problem before telling them? i'll cut myself sometimes as well.. if it hurts bad when i slice my skin then it hurts less inside ..in my heart and mind for a short time.

But i'm told i must be so happy because i'm blond and have blue eyes (thats a true quote from an old friend of mom), blond hair and blue eyes must equel happyness! also i apreciate you want to help me and saying everything is normal but nothing is normal.

everything is unnormal but i should be so happy.

[Drummer Ben]

He's trying to get under your skin, find every little thing that bothers you. He's amused by your discomfort. Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Don't let him affect you. That's how bullies work, if you brush it off like it's nothing than he'll most likely leave you alone. He senses your insecurities and he's playing on them. He wants to see you dance tears. I bet he's got problems of his own and making you upset is his way of dealing with them. Don't start punching him in the face, don't fight fire with fire. Have you ever tried being the better man and doing something nice for him. I know you hate what he does but it will get him to realize that he's being pretty shitty to an awesome brother. I think your older brother needs some loving help.

[Leprous]

people are different.. so its not just to say because you managed to tell then i should be able to tell when you don't know the total picture.. how long did you have a self harm problem before telling them? i'll cut myself sometimes as well.. if it hurts bad when i slice my skin then it hurts less inside ..in my heart and mind for a short time.

But i'm told i must be so happy because i'm blond and have blue eyes (thats a true quote from an old friend of mom), blond hair and blue eyes must equel happyness! also i apreciate you want to help me and saying everything is normal but nothing is normal.

everything is unnormal but i should be so happy.

You shouldn't listen to that friend of your mom, one question, are you from Germany?


I have had the problem for years. Tell me, why is it hard to tell your parents that he's being an asshole? You don't even have to tell them he's making fun of you going trough puberty! Just tell them he bullies you. Also, if people don't know the entire picture of what's going on, we also can't give advice because it may be wrong because we have no idea what's going on.

Also, Drummer Ben Thank you. It's obvious that guy has problems of his own because otherwise he wouldn't be acting like that.

[hyperdude]

thank you Ben the drummer. I guess he can have some problems of his own but hes been doing this for so long now.

it's the middle of the night, i slept from 8 in the evening until 1 and i'm still up, and i can hear him snore in the next room. i should press a pillow over his face when he's sleeping!

You shouldn't listen to that friend of your mom, one question, are you from Germany?

I have had the problem for years. Tell me, why is it hard to tell your parents that he's being an asshole? You don't even have to tell them he's making fun of you going trough puberty! Just tell them he bullies you. Also, if people don't know the entire picture of what's going on, we also can't give advice because it may be wrong because we have no idea what's going on.

Fine. Here - know the entire picture: i have an asshole older brother who seemed normal up until .. i started getting in puberty 2 years ago and about 1 year ago he started making comments about the hair under my arms because it started to get a lot, and he said i was a freak because i wasnt suppose to have that so early, and i started reading about things about puberty everywhere and also now ive read it places on this website and it says that first you get hair between your legs and only much later do you start getting hair under your arms, but for me BOTH started at the same time, nowhere does it say this is suppose to happen.. so he is right that there is something wrong with me there. i dont have much body hair elsewhere at all, i dont have any hair on my arms or legs, i just have between my legs (and a LITTLE bit near my bellybutton) and under my arms and under my arms its gotten so bad he'll say things like youre a freak, grown men dont have so much hair under their arms and tell me my armpits smell and that i should put on more deodorant and he'll be like dude what is in your drinking water? and i know hes right about that too because i've seen how other peoples armpits look and mine are worse. the last and worst bit is another thing that i have not read any place about puberty that ive started to get and thats all this dark hair growing around my nipples, nowhere else! just around my nipples and it looks crazy! and my brother saw that one time and he flipped out, he laughed his ass off and said i needed to see a doctor. nowhere have i read that you can get long hairs just like that around your nipples, ive tried to count and its now like 50 hairs around each nipple.

i am not comfortable one bit thinking of mom and dad knowing or seeing that my body is so crazy.. id much more have them think i'm still like before puberty, because of it i dont go shirtless around them anymore and i dont use tank tops anymore i use t-shirts, and when i play basketball i used to just wear my basketball shirt but now i wear a t-shirt under it too so the audience dont have to think eww whats up with that freak!?

SO if i tell my parents about what hes doing they will hear that everything he is doing and all his jokes is about all thats wrong with my body, so its impossible for me to tell this to mom and dad.. im crying, thanks.

its impossible to tell this to mom and dad without them hearing everything thats wrong with my body - im not ready for them to know this yet.. if they hear about the bullying they will hear everything!

i thougt about trying to shave of everything to shut him up but i know it wouldnt shut him up, hed find something else to say and if i did so it would be like letting him win so now 1. i dont want to remove it just because of what he says but at the same 2. i also dont want to be such a freak. its like my mind is split in two!

and i saved the worst thing he did for last: one time last year his friends was over and theyre all 3 yrs older then me and he tried to pull my pants down in front of them because he said they had to see what a freak i was down there and i stopped him but then it ended with ALL of them forcing me down and pulling my pants down while they were laughing.. afterwards nobody of his friends made jokes and they havent made jokes to me since, they all went home so i think they felt like shit! but my brother doesnt have the brain capacity to feel like an actual human so he continues with the jokes and sometimes also in front of them.

and the worst thing i did back was one time i told him he was ugly and reminded him he didnt have a gf. I had a gf when i was 10-11, and another one when i was 11-12 and ive never seen him with a real gf so i told him he didnt have a gf and he was ugly (at least he has an ugly soul). and then he punched me for real, that was a PUNCH i heard my entire head say SMACK. he has done 99 percent horrible stuff to me, ive done maybe 1 percent back.

now i had to go thru all the emotions of thinking of all the crap from him in all the last year in such a short time for writing this and i feel more depressed then ive done in a long time..

i also feel like changing my avatar.. i dont feel comfortable now showing my real face telling all this, i feel like i wanna throw up. im going back to sleep

and i didnt even tell about how he'll call me "unibrow" just because my eyebrows have gotten thicker but theyre not unibrows!

theres so much i dont even remember everything!

[Vermilion]

and i didnt even tell about how he'll call me "unibrow" just because my eyebrows have gotten thicker but theyre not unibrows!

theres so much i dont even remember everything!

There is nothing wrong with you every one develops at different times. I had hair down stairs at 11 and armpit hair by 12 and hair around my niples as well as hair on my stomach. I was shaving my face fall time by 13. You've done another post about sweating, I have the same problem. And finally there is nothing wrong with you eyebrows. You are a normal teenage boy just an early bloomer like a lot of people on here. It's normal not to feel comfortable with your body at your age I didn't wear shorts for 4 year's plus or take my top off in front of my parent's. Your brother is just being a dick to you, he mite even be jealous that he was a late bloomer.
If you want to change your profile picture do so but your a good looking 13 year old boy that's not comfortable with his body yet. Anyone that saids otherwise is just being like your brother.
Just stay strong :metal:

[hyperdude]

Thanks.. I understand you being nice and all but I still feel Im a bit of a freak. If not why would my brother say stuff and also class mates make jokes about it? Its happening all the time so there must be a reason. Well whatever... im tired of it all.

[Seahawks15]

I would be tired of it also.I was also an early bloomer.I got hair down there and facial hair at 12,pit hair at 13.5.Now,I almost never wear a tank top because I have bush in both arms(dark hair).Your brother is just trying to get you mad,that's what brothers do.He may stop doing it if he doesn't get a reaction from you because that's what he wants.My sister does that and I just ignore her.As for your classmates,go to a school counselor if it gets really bad.Don't let them get on your nerve either because that's what they want to see.They want you to get in trouble.They'll stop soon after they think that teasing doesn't affect you anymore.They are either teasing you just to make you mad or they are jealous about you being an early bloomer.No one likes to admit they're jealous so they won't tell you that they are.I hope I helped a little.Just gave my input on this situation.

[Vermilion]

Thanks.. I understand you being nice and all but I still feel Im a bit of a freak. If not why would my brother say stuff and also class mates make jokes about it? Its happening all the time so there must be a reason. Well whatever... im tired of it all.

Your not a freak!! And it's normal for children/teenager's to make fun of each other. Just remember when they catch up with you in puberty they will be nervous about there body's and when that happens you can be the bigger person and help them out. Keep your hopes up high and your head down low :)

[nklarke]

about 1 year ago he started making comments about the hair under my arms because it started to get a lot, and he said i was a freak because i wasnt suppose to have that so early, and i started reading about things about puberty everywhere and also now ive read it places on this website and it says that first you get hair between your legs and only much later do you start getting hair under your arms, but for me BOTH started at the same time, nowhere does it say this is suppose to happen.. so he is right that there is something wrong with me there.

No, you have understood it wrong.

On AVERAGE, men start puberty having pubic hair and armpit appears only later but that's NOT a strict rule. Everyone' body is unique with different growing times.
Let's say that if we take 100 boys, 80 would have pubic hair at first but it doesn't mean the other 20 are freak, alien or sick, there are just not as the majority , that's it, that's all.

[nklarke]

i am not comfortable one bit thinking of mom and dad knowing or seeing that my body is so crazy..!

Firstly, your body is not crazy, your body is becoming a body MEN and that's 100% normal.

And secondly, you can't hide from your parents the rest of your life. What are you going to do when you start having a beard or a mustache? Are you going to wear a niqab at home?

[hyperdude]

ive never read anything about it being normal, everywhere it says first you get pubes then you get armpit hair...

Firstly, your body is not crazy, your body is becoming a body MEN and that's 100% normal.

And secondly, you can't hide from your parents the rest of your life. What are you going to do when you start having a beard or a mustache? Are you going to wear a niqab at home?

i shave often enough so they dont have time to see a mustache.

but im gonna start wearing a niqab, thats the best advice ive gotten so far. From now on my name is Fatima Al-balalaika

[Seahawks15]

People go through puberty at different rates,it's okay to have something before others and something doesn't always come before something else.It's most definitely normal.

[hyperdude]

im just so tired..... i probably shouldnt have written so many private things and about my brother on the internet even if hes an asshole..

[nklarke]

i shave often enough so they dont have time to see a mustache.



How did you manage to get a razor?

[hyperdude]

my uncle works at a big store that sell electric stuff and he gave us lots of stuff one time and in the package was a electric razor, i was 10, they gave it to me and we laughed. but now i use it : P

[itsalex]

but im gonna start wearing a niqab, thats the best advice ive gotten so far. From now on my name is Fatima Al-balalaika

That's kinda funny :D

But to the problem at hand: you're completely normal! I was an early bloomer too and it was hard and I got comments from classmates but that all went away after 1-2 years when they started puberty themselves.
I also started talking to my mum about it and she really helped me! You know, your parents can talk to you about solutions that might make you feel better, like my mum was the one to supply me with my first shaving kit etc and we talked about whether shaving or not (depending on where, too) was the right way to do it or nah and all that stuff.
Literally nothing is wrong with your body. At least in the biological sense, so don't worry.

As for your brother problems: I know how it feels, I have a brother who terrorized me up until we were 14 and 16. And even then it has gotten only gradually better, but trust me, it will get better.
And I know how hard it is to see all these people telling you to "just ignore" him. That's what I have always been told. It just doesn't seem fair, does it? He's treating you poorly and in an unfair way, yet you are expected to be the "bigger man". It's hard, it's tough, and honestly all this "ignoring" or rather "just letting it happen without response" has been hard on me, and I don't know why everyone thinks it's the best thing to do, but it's also the only solution that worked for me. It took time, but it brought results.

But all in all I think you should talk to your parents. I know it's hard! I've been there. I've had soo many situations in my life where I had to tell my parents huge things, sometimes life changing things where I could've gotten kicked out maybe, but I pulled through. I made myself tell. Because parents are there to try and help you. They have once been through puberty themselves, they can understand! And since you're an early bloomer (as it seems), maybe that runs in your family, so you really have someone to talk to there. Look, I really really truly understand why it's hard to speak up, but in your situation that would be best. Take all the courage you have and tell them. If you're not courageous enough to do it face to face, maybe write a letter/email? Or talk to your school's guidance counselor (if you have such thing) and they will help you with it, be it with your problems at school or just by helping you clear up the problems at home. They are trained for exactly such things.

If you want to talk about all this more privately, feel free to PM me.

[Desuetude]

Honestly, I'm really really sorry to say this, but I think its just a sibling/clash of ages thing. My sister and I were kind of like that a couple of years ago when I was around 15 and she was 12 and we wouldn't get along at all. Im pretty disgusted at how I treated her, I was a complete douchebag. 3 odd years later though and we're so close now its unbelievable.

I'm hoping that your brother will grow out his need to control something in his life because that's what it was for me. Take out all my shit on my sister because she's the only one that I knew I could without any backlash. Hes honestly just saying all that shit because he wants to make himself feel better and you're his easiest target. There tends to be a period in siblings lives where they just clash and shit happens and I know its got to feel like shit for you.

The only thing I can think of doing, which I'm thinking would have worked for me, is talk to him and tell him that he's making you feel like shit, scream it at him if that's the only way to get through to him. I know 2 brothers probably don't have the same dynamic as 2 sisters so I'm not sure how that would go down but there doesn't seem to be any other way of getting through to him how he makes you feel. He's your older brother and should be protecting you, not making you feel like complete crap.

[Adventure boy]

i cant talk to them about it, much of the bullying and what he is doing and how he is making fun of me is related to my body and whats happening to it, and if i tell my parents all of this it will be like opening up about all puberty-stuff. i don't know whats wrong with me but i can not get myself to be open up about my body with my parents, i get sick to my stomach thinking about it. i will never go shirtless around my parents anymore after puberty hit me because i dont want them to see all the hair under my arms (im a freak!), when i shave my face i'll wait until they're out of the house because i dont want them to hear the sound of my electric razor etc, i know, i'm sick in the head, theres something wrong with me. i think i want them to think nothing has happened yet, i'm afraid they'll make stupid jokes as well, like "oh he's growing up, omfg!"

i'll take more crap from my brother instead of risking that..

I'm sad to hear about your brother but I'm the same with the puberty stuff just say like you were on puberty before to and that stuff I still don't wear singlets or shirtless around my parents because because I have not gotten the talk yet but I found at myself by researching and friends

[Rania]

my older brother, well hes my halfbrother, hes 16 and im 13 and he is nothing to me anymore, he isnt there for me at all, and now in the last year hes giving me nothing but shit and making fun of me for stuff related to puberty and my body growing up. it's gotten to the point i'll cry myself to sleep wondering why my brother can be so mean all the time and he doesn't seem to understand one bit what his behavior feels like.

i hoped that when i got older my brother was one i could get information and learn stuff from, especially now with stuff happening to my body, i hate my body enough as it is now but he'll make sure i hate it even more with his remarks and comments ("you stink!", "youre growing a unibrow", "your voice sounds retarded") and he'll make jokes to people about me doing sex-stuff with myself in my bed when i havent done so. my life is embarrasing enough as it is but he is making it a Hell. i've tried to get back at him, once i told him he was just being a dick because he was jealous because he's ugly and he never had a girlfriend, it wasn't a nice thing to say and i still regret it but his response was punching me in the face, not a slap, he actualy PUNCHED me in the face and the side of my face hurt for like 24 hours.

if he died i wouldnt care. :cry:

would probably be even better if i died myself, thats what im thinking at least sometimes.



You can always ignore him, and defend yourself.

[Axel_]

I was in the same situation as you about 2 years ago. My brother would always put me down, hurt me, and make me feel insecure. He is 19 now and in college. He gotta lot better and actually likes to spend time with me. I think once your brother matures he will stop. Another reason why is because my mom didn't tolerate any shit from him either so that helped. Tell your parents or just have a talk with him. Be the bigger person. And finally, if you don't tell your parents your brother will keep torturing you for awhile.

[hyperdude]

i should stab him with a knife.. i wont be punished.. criminal legal age here is 15. and he'll have the scar to remember me by.

[SethfromMI]

i should stab him with a knife.. i wont be punished.. criminal legal age here is 15. and he'll have the scar to remember me by.

well if you go around stabbing people, don't think you will just get off Scott free, I don't care where you live

[kev99]

Knife? Don't do this, really. You seem way too fun to get to that point. Don't let him crush your personality and confidence. I was being made fun of because of my body too so I understand how difficult to endure it is, and how awful it feels.

But don't believe any single word he may be saying about you. You are certainly not a freak, he's saying that just because he wants to humiliate you, nothing more. There is zero truth in what he said. Zero. Be proud of what you are and don't be fooled by his lies. He is the one who feels insecure and inferior!

Stop hiding yourself and enjoy! You need to shave and your parents will do silly comments about it? Most probably do in such occasions, but that's just their way to say "damn we're so proud he's not a kid anymore!" So if they say anything, just act as if it is no big deal, and they'll not comment about it after that.

And if your brother keeps going too far, just talk to your parents, really. If it goes at such extremes you are frightened by yourself, then it is bordering mental torture, and that's definitely not something you can deal with by yourself.

Always remember - Whatever people say do or think, there is a single truth you should always keep in mind: You are wonderful.

I really hope things will get better for you. Be strong and be yourself.

[Swimmer98]

Hey buddy, I don't know if your still reading your topic but I just want you to know your going to be fine. You're normal, I got hair downstairs and armpit hair in like 6th grade. I was the only one at my school so I was embarrassed about it and even tried to shave it. But after awhile you realize that everyone is going through the same process, we're just a bit faster than them. Most of the time people are actually jealous of early bloomers compared to being a late bloomer. And about cutting yourself, one of my best friends used to self harm until I got him to stop and to get some help. Cutting yourself isn't going to help you, if you ever feel sad or you want to talk to someone feel free to pm me or do a live chat with the suicide line. It's not bad, they'll talk to you about anything and they're just there to help you, my friends have been on it and I have talked to the people there a few times. And your brother is being a dick sure, but it's not worth hurting yourself or someone else over. I know it feels like he's torturing you and I agree he's going overboard but he might be going through some stuff himself and he's trying to vent or he's just jealous. The best thing I ever did was tell my parents, I know it seems impossible but they're there to help you, I can't tell you how many times I've been afraid to tell my parents about that kinda stuff but they aren't going to make fun of you or anything. They went through it too, and they won't treat you any differently, I still get treated like a baby at my house lol. And don't worry about the Internet stuff about puberty, when i first hit puberty I was so confused and I looked all over and I didn't match what they had said about it. Everyone develops at different times at different parts. I just want you to know you're not alone and that you're Normal, you're not a freak. Hope you feel better and things get better for you soon, feel free to talk to me any time :)

[CallumLikesBoys]

Yeah at least your brother isn't black and racist to you cause your brown like mine is #interRacialFamily

[hyperdude]

Yeah at least your brother isn't black and racist to you cause your brown like mine is #interRacialFamily

that's such a great argument. Thank you. That made my life SO much better. Totally. :no:

[Snydergate]

I can understand the feeling, my brother is similair to that, but not nearly as vicious as yours. I thought my bro would be the one i could talk to as well, but he makes a joke out of it all whenever I used to speak to him. I do completely understanding the feeling of not giving a crap if he died tho. There are people in my life that I wish death upon, primarily my father but I don't want to get into that right now haha. Although i did have a dream once where I tortured him to death and I woke up in a very good mood, it was a good night

[hyperdude]

I can understand the feeling, my brother is similair to that, but not nearly as vicious as yours. I thought my bro would be the one i could talk to as well, but he makes a joke out of it all whenever I used to speak to him. I do completely understanding the feeling of not giving a crap if he died tho. There are people in my life that I wish death upon, primarily my father but I don't want to get into that right now haha. Although i did have a dream once where I tortured him to death and I woke up in a very good mood, it was a good night

if i dreamt about my brother it'd be a nightmare.. :pop2:

[Jaffe]

Thanks.. I understand you being nice and all but I still feel Im a bit of a freak. If not why would my brother say stuff and also class mates make jokes about it? Its happening all the time so there must be a reason. Well whatever... im tired of it all.

Are you asking why would he say it, if it wasn't true? Is he a Doctor? What does he know? Where did he get his education about such things? ... From his loser friends maybe? Or from his jealousy?

Some people have to pick on somebody to be happy, to lift themselves up in their own minds. I know that doesnt help you, but I'm just hoping that maybe understanding that he is really insecure and has no real knowledge of life, might help you bear through it for a while.