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[Rallo]

Wanna keep this kinda short, so I'll get straight into it..
My girlfriend who I've been with 2 years now is going to her friends (female) party tonight.. Apparently there's going to be a fair few guys there and she's going to be drinking. Originally the plan was for her to stay over for the night though her dad said she's not allowed to, so that part's not happening.
I trust her, I really do.. Though I'm still really worried something may happen with guys there, scared they'll try something or she will do something with one of them. :(
To make things worse, she's not going to be able to message me much while at the party.. She needs to call her mum when she's ready to go home and her phone has extremely terrible battery life (this is true, it last like 20minutes when using it>.>) so she can't message me too much. :(

I just want someone to reassure me nothing's going to happen, someone to tell me she's not going to do anything unfaithful.. I wanted to talk to her about it though she's been busy all day. Firstly her dad lost his job today so she was at his house being there for him and now she's getting ready for the party, leaving in an hour or two. I'm worried as fuck and I have no one to talk to. :(

[ImCoolBeans]

Is there a reason why you don't trust her? Has she shown you before that she is unfaithful or untrustworthy?

I can't say for sure that she won't do anything, because crazy things happen sometimes, but if you two have a good relationship and trust each other, then I don't think you need to worry so much. Couples can't always be together at all times, and that's where trust comes in. If you're so worried why don't you go to the party with her?

[SethfromMI]

ok you said you trust her right? If you do, then don't worry about her doing anything. I am sure everything will be ok. just make sure she def has a ride so she doesn't try to drive home drunk or let someone who has been drinking drive, even if you have to pick her up I know you said her mom, but just making sure)

I can never make guarantees, but I am sure it will go all ok. It sounds like though you are having some issues of trust and it is something you may need to talk to her about

[Rallo]

Is there a reason why you don't trust her? Has she shown you before that she is unfaithful or untrustworthy?

I can't say for sure that she won't do anything, because crazy things happen sometimes, but if you two have a good relationship and trust each other, then I don't think you need to worry so much. Couples can't always be together at all times, and that's where trust comes in. If you're so worried why don't you go to the party with her?

I'm overseas at the moment, though I sure as hell wish I could go with her. :(

She's never exactly shown me a reason not to true her, she's never done anything unfaithful while dating me. Before dating me though (despite being a fair while ago) she was quite a naive sort of girl, she would go quite far if a guy gave her the attention she wanted. I know she's with me and I trust her, though her past coupled with the fact she's going to be drinking and I can't physically be there to look after her is always in the back of my mind. :(

ok you said you trust her right? If you do, then don't worry about her doing anything. I am sure everything will be ok. just make sure she def has a ride so she doesn't try to drive home drunk or let someone who has been drinking drive, even if you have to pick her up I know you said her mom, but just making sure)

I can never make guarantees, but I am sure it will go all ok. It sounds like though you are having some issues of trust and it is something you may need to talk to her about

Her mum will defiantly pick her up, even if she ends up having to borrow a friends phone to call her if hers dies. That part I'm not too worried about, she's quite responsible with that side of things when she drinks. I'm just worried because of how many guys are going, I know how guys can be when around an intoxicated female, they try things. :mad:

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[SethfromMI]

Her mum will defiantly pick her up, even if she ends up having to borrow a friends phone to call her if hers dies. That part I'm not too worried about, she's quite responsible with that side of things when she drinks. I'm just worried because of how many guys are going, I know how guys can be when around an intoxicated female, they try things. :mad:

well i there any way you can go to the party?

[Rallo]

well i there any way you can go to the party?

I'm overseas currently sadly, otherwise I would have :(

[SethfromMI]

I'm overseas currently sadly, otherwise I would have :(

ah. well have a friend go with her, so she has someone with her (even if it i another girl) and they can watch out for each other

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm overseas at the moment, though I sure as hell wish I could go with her. :(

She's never exactly shown me a reason not to true her, she's never done anything unfaithful while dating me. Before dating me though (despite being a fair while ago) she was quite a naive sort of girl, she would go quite far if a guy gave her the attention she wanted. I know she's with me and I trust her, though her past coupled with the fact she's going to be drinking and I can't physically be there to look after her is always in the back of my mind. :(



Her mum will defiantly pick her up, even if she ends up having to borrow a friends phone to call her if hers dies. That part I'm not too worried about, she's quite responsible with that side of things when she drinks. I'm just worried because of how many guys are going, I know how guys can be when around an intoxicated female, they try things. :mad:

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I don't think it's unreasonable for you to feel that way. In fact, it's a pretty normal response to a situation like that. But in this case you're just going to have to trust her, especially since she is definitely going. I hope it all turns out well for you. But like Seth said, if you have issues trusting her, perhaps that is something that you should talk to her about and work out.

[DoodleSnap]

I don't think it's unreasonable for you to feel that way. In fact, it's a pretty normal response to a situation like that. But in this case you're just going to have to trust her, especially since she is definitely going. I hope it all turns out well for you. But like Seth said, if you have issues trusting her, perhaps that is something that you should talk to her about and work out.
I couldn't have said it better myself.
Try to trust her, as over-analysing the situation will often make one anxious. Look at the situation rationally and objectively, and you will see that the fear is one of the unknown. Good luck.

[SethfromMI]

Did everything end up going ok?

[NickTheStar]

If she loves you she will stick with you. Don't worry about cheating until it is brought to your attention. It will only cause relationship problems.

[Rallo]

Did everything end up going ok?

I'm not 100% sure if I'm honest.
She hasn't talked to me much lately.. The day after the party we talked a fair bit and things were defiantly fine then, though since then she's some what pushed me away... Now (sorry for the TMI) I'm quite sure it is that week for her currently, it's usually around this time of the month.. And she does have a tenancy to push people away around that time. We were fine the day after, so I'm just putting it down to that for now. We'll see what happens I guess.

As for the party its self, she said it ended up just being 6 guys there anyway. Four were immature guys that she wouldn't really bother with even if she was single and the other two were in relationships and actually quite mature, not much to even worry about there anyway. If the immature guys tried anything, she'd know how to sort them out. :yeah:
But yeah, she said nothing happened (other than her friend drinking a bit much and vomiting.. :D) and I believe her, I think.

[SethfromMI]

I'm not 100% sure if I'm honest.
She hasn't talked to me much lately.. The day after the party we talked a fair bit and things were defiantly fine then, though since then she's some what pushed me away... Now (sorry for the TMI) I'm quite sure it is that week for her currently, it's usually around this time of the month.. And she does have a tenancy to push people away around that time. We were fine the day after, so I'm just putting it down to that for now. We'll see what happens I guess.

As for the party its self, she said it ended up just being 6 guys there anyway. Four were immature guys that she wouldn't really bother with even if she was single and the other two were in relationships and actually quite mature, not much to even worry about there anyway. If the immature guys tried anything, she'd know how to sort them out. :yeah:
But yeah, she said nothing happened (other than her friend drinking a bit much and vomiting.. :D) and I believe her, I think.

well there is no reason not to. and if she is on her period then you already know how that goes

[onewingedangel666]

well there is no reason not to. and if she is on her period then you already know how that goes

He goes through all that work to be sensitive, and then here comes this guy. I literally lol'd hahaha XD

[SethfromMI]

He goes through all that work to be sensitive, and then here comes this guy. I literally lol'd hahaha XD

haha well I mean to be fair, unless she gives him a reason to doubt, then he should trust her haha

[onewingedangel666]

haha well I mean to be fair, unless she gives him a reason to doubt, then he should trust her haha

I was talking about the period. He says "It's her week" You say "on her period." I just thought that was funny.

[SethfromMI]

I was talking about the period. He says "It's her week" You say "on her period." I just thought that was funny.

oh lol well it is what it is :D haha