Guy at work.

[Curious24]

So I work with this guy and I'm gay. I really like him but I don't know if the feeling is the same. I know it's love because my glassis fox uf when I see him, I get toung tied when we have conversations. The signs are their. In my four years knowing him he had never had a girl friend and always hangs with guys. I need help. What to do or how to proceed.

[James Dean]

I'm going to move this to sexuality forum.

I'm happy that you have feelings for him and it's always nice to find someone who you are attracted to.

However you need to make sure he is gay. Just because he doesn't have a girlfriend, doesn't mean he's gay.

Also, if he is gay, that doesn't mean he might have the same feelings for you. I understand it's hard.

You don't need to flat out ask him if he's gay, or if he wants to go out. You can slowly get to that point if you haven't already by just asking him a few things other than that. What you need to do is probably ask if there is anything he likes to do for fun, music he likes, television and movies that he watches. Ask him what his views on gay marriage are. See if he is religious. Those should probably make you more comfortable on gaining a friendship with him.

Good luck. :)

[SethfromMI]

try hanging out with him just as a friend and then in the course of hanging out eventually try to see how he feels about gays, etc. and see what happens from there

[Zachary G]

try hanging out with him just as a friend and then in the course of hanging out eventually try to see how he feels about gays, etc. and see what happens from there

This^. the best way to know about him is to become friends with him first, this way you can know what his views are and what hes like outside of the work environment. good luck.

[Thomas01]

Honestly, and I know it's hard doing it, you can go up to him and just say you think he's really attractive.

I mean, sure, it might be best to find out his views on the LGBT community. If he's cool with it, you'll be safe. If he's not, there is more risk, but I doubt he would be anything rash.

It's hard going up to strangers or people you like and telling them you like them/think they are attractive but practice makes it easier. You could always go up to a random guy on the street and compliment him on his looks. I've done this several times, it's usually a confidence boost. I have received a reaction of awkward "yeah, i'm not gay" but also I have just received a "thanks."

A compliment is a compliment. So even if the guy isn't gay, he should be able to see it as a nice thing. Even if it is a guy who compliments him, it should be just as good as anyone.

Anyways, I digress. The point is, you could always try to go up to him (maybe after some practice) and start small like "that shirt really looks good on you" or "you know, For the longest time, I have been meaning to tell you that you are really acctractive"

From there, he will know where you lie on the spectrum and he can proceed with things if he is up for it. If not, at least he knows, and maybe later he might come back abd give it a go.

Message me if you want more advice. I hope this helped, good luck! :D