bf is being weird

[tasminsmith]

okay so the other day me and my bf went to a shopping centre and at the three shops he bought stuff he kept asking me to pay, like he would give me the money then ask me to pay for him so I asked him why and he was like "there scary" he's not strange or anything just this confused me, he couldn't even pay for his mcflurry in maccies I had to get it, whats up with him??

[Uranus]

I ain't got no idea why he can't pay for whatever he wants, when he has the money. Sounds like he's going crazy or something

[CharlieHorse]

you should start asking him to pay for stuff until you're both equal :P

[SethfromMI]

you should start asking him to pay for stuff until you're both equal :P

but he is paying for it, he givers her the money to go up to the counter and stuff. it is like he is scared to go up there himself

[CharlieHorse]

but he is paying for it, he givers her the money to go up to the counter and stuff. it is like he is scared to go up there himself

that could be. I could imagine myself doing that. Or maybe he likes seeing her do that? idk. I knew someone who had an obsession with women when they read magazines... dunno

[SethfromMI]

that could be. I could imagine myself doing that. Or maybe he likes seeing her do that? idk. I knew someone who had an obsession with women when they read magazines... dunno

hmm interesting theory. I did not think about anything like that being a possibility

[BuryYourFlame]

Sounds like he's going crazy or something

This trait is very common in people with social anxiety (google it or look around these forums) and it is far from 'crazy'.
You should probably have a proper talk with your boyfriend about why he does it. Only bring it up if you're willing to support him though if he does have some kind of social anxiety.

[tasminsmith]

This trait is very common in people with social anxiety (google it or look around these forums) and it is far from 'crazy'.
You should probably have a proper talk with your boyfriend about why he does it. Only bring it up if you're willing to support him though if he does have some kind of social anxiety.

thanks for your reply, I would support him obviously, but how would I bring it up :/

[SethfromMI]

thanks for your reply, I would support him obviously, but how would I bring it up :/

you could gently ask why he asks you to pay and go from there

[smff]

thanks for your reply, I would support him obviously, but how would I bring it up :/

Next time he does it, just ask him why. Don't make it a big deal, that could make it worse. I can kind of understand what he's doing, I usually get my friends to do that sort of thing for me cause I'm so awkward. But yeah, just ask him politely and gently.

[Abhorrence]

I am the exact same, I cannot pay for stuff. It is a horrible experience when I'm forced to, I worry that I'm going to look like a fucking idiot and not have the right money or something. It's really stupid but it's anxiety.

[DoodleSnap]

My guess is that he gets anxious about speaking to cashiers, and finds that situation stressful. Don't take it badly, it is not too uncommon. Just be supportive, and if you feel you should, ask him about it.

[SethfromMI]

It def sounds like some type of social anxiety. just try to support him and be there to help him

[crazyBoyjJ]

Maybe he's not a people person, he doesnt like to be seen closely or pay for stuff where u have to talk, sometimes I'm like that, but I don't ask for ppl to buy my stuff.

[NickTheStar]

Give him xanax.

[Rallo]

okay so the other day me and my bf went to a shopping centre and at the three shops he bought stuff he kept asking me to pay, like he would give me the money then ask me to pay for him so I asked him why and he was like "there scary" he's not strange or anything just this confused me, he couldn't even pay for his mcflurry in maccies I had to get it, whats up with him??

My girlfriend is exactly like this. She has a bit of a fear of talking to shopkeepers, she simply gets major anxiety when paying herself. Whenever we go to a shop she'll hand me the money and ask me to pay. It's always been that way with her, I actually find it kinda cute.. :)

Now in your case, I'm not entirely sure though it seems like this is only a recent thing; he hasn't always been this way? If that's the case, it's an entirely different situation, that is a bit more confusing then. That been said though, it could still be anxiety.