Does the wrong hair style attract the wrong crowd?

[annehill310]

I have a friend who is 15 and she wants the scene look, the scene look is all about the hair. She wants to dye her hair different colors, she wants to layer it, and have side bangs. Her parents are concerned that if she does this that she is going to be like a magnet to attract the wrong crowd. And her parents don't wanna deal with the crowd that she attracts based on this look. But however, since I am her best friend, I do believe in the freedom of expression and that she should have the freedom to express herself. Her parents are really protective and keep her under control. Her parents won't let her dye her hair and do anything with her looks that grabs attention. They are ultra conservative and anything outside of the "norm" is unacceptable in their household. Any thoughts? Thank you for your feedback.

[SethfromMI]

I guess there might be some who see her hair, will like it, and will be interested in having a convo with her, but hair does not change a person or is what controls a person

[Hideous]

Her parents are going to have to deal with it. That's her, that's how she wants to express herself. I don't see how scene hair does any harm. It's sweet of you to look for help.

[Babs]

Not necessarily. It might attract certain people a small amount but it probably won't change how people see her substantially.

[Desuetude]

The way people dress will supposedly have an impact on who they're friends with. The kid with the band shirt will see someone else wearing a shirt they like and might go say hi, it works similarly with hair. Its just a common ground for people to walk on. I cut my hair to my chin and dyed it blue (I wanted to go with the couple inches of hair and shaved on one side thing too but having curly hair inhibits any cool cuts -_-) and sure my hair attracts the attention of people I might not usually speak to but it's a persons personal pereference, how they should look. I'm still friends with exactly the same people I was 3 months ago before I changed my hair.

You're her best friend and that should unlikely to change anytime soon. Why should a new haircut mean that she's going to get into a whole new crowd? Hair doesn't completely define a person, sure it might give you an incling about the person they are but she'll still have the same personality. You're right that she should be given the freedom to express herself and do things that make her feel comfortable in her own skin.

However sometimes you're just going to have to deal with parents. Mine were really against my hair and definitely said I had to wait until I was 16 to dye it so, at 15, they should still have some control but they should at least allow her to cut and style it as she likes. She's the one living her life, not them.

[Abhorrence]

I guess it can. Sometimes people that portray themselves a certain way end up meeting others who are portraying themselves similarly. It is usually their own choice to be involved with these people though and I don't think it can attract badness.