Age Difference

[MadMatt959]

What do you think a good age difference is for dating? Is 5 years is too big of a difference!

[WanderingHeart]

I think it depends.
For example if it were a five year difference between a 19 year old and a 24 year old (yes, I had to count on my fingers for that) then I think it's okay.
But let's say like a 13 year old and an 18 year old...I don't think that's okay.
If you're an adult then age difference doesn't matter at all to me but if you're under 18 then it does.

[BuryYourFlame]

It depends on the maturity of the people involved and what they want to get out of the relationship.
A thirteen year old is not at all going to have the same values as an eighteen year old, they're not going to share the same goals or ideas about what the relationship should be. Even without getting in to the fact that the thirteen year old is still a child, this relationship would be a bad idea.
This continues basically until the adult years. The values and goals of (most) eighteen year olds are again different to that of a 23 year old. There's always the possibility of mature older teenagers but there is so much change in the teenage years that it makes it very hard to date anyone who isn't in the same age group.

[SethfromMI]

I am 23 and she is going to turn 18 this year.

well I would wait till she turns 18 before you two start doing anything

[Uniquemind]

It depends on the maturity of the people involved and what they want to get out of the relationship.
A thirteen year old is not at all going to have the same values as an eighteen year old, they're not going to share the same goals or ideas about what the relationship should be. Even without getting in to the fact that the thirteen year old is still a child, this relationship would be a bad idea.
This continues basically until the adult years. The values and goals of (most) eighteen year olds are again different to that of a 23 year old. There's always the possibility of mature older teenagers but there is so much change in the teenage years that it makes it very hard to date anyone who isn't in the same age group.

I second this opinion.

I also give you respect for acknowledging exceptions do exist, but that as a general rule this holds true.

Lots of people don't even acknowledge outliers.

[Zachary G]

It depends on the maturity of the people involved and what they want to get out of the relationship.
A thirteen year old is not at all going to have the same values as an eighteen year old, they're not going to share the same goals or ideas about what the relationship should be. Even without getting in to the fact that the thirteen year old is still a child, this relationship would be a bad idea.
This continues basically until the adult years. The values and goals of (most) eighteen year olds are again different to that of a 23 year old. There's always the possibility of mature older teenagers but there is so much change in the teenage years that it makes it very hard to date anyone who isn't in the same age group.

Though I am in a relationship with an age difference, I must say that I agree with the above statements, but at the same time I do say there are exceptions to the rule at times.

[Babs]

It depends on how old the younger person it. For example, a 13 year old with and 18 year old is no good, imo. But, say, and 18 year old with a 23 year old is different.

[SethfromMI]

well he said she is almost 18. def wait mate, at least before you do anything which could be considered illegal

[fairmaiden]

It depends what age they are. A 13 year old having a relationship with an 18 year old is quite predatory on the 18 year old's part. Whereas a 19 year old dating a 24 year old is fine imo.

Maturity really matters though. The average 15 year old won't have the same amount of maturity as a 20 year old, not to mention that it's kind of illegal for a relationship to happen between the two of them.

[Luminous]

The OP is banned. :locked: