alphus
April 4th, 2015, 10:06 AM
Not sure if this should be posted in penis size thread or not but whatever, mods can bump me if necessary :)
Prepare for a bit of a rant.
Recently I've developed what I would describe as 'crippling' penis anxiety. I'm 6" long (which I'm fine with) but my girth is below average at about 4.5". When I look at it from the side, in a mirror or something, I just get so demoralised because it is so thin in my opinion.
If you went back and read some of my old posts on this site, you would find all sorts of 'Am I normal' questions regarding my size, but it was never an issue like it is now. 2 years ago, I was sleeping with women without a care in the world and I had re-occurring sex with a number of them, one of which outright told me that she enjoyed having sex with me, so I must have been doing something right...
Now though it's got to the point where I'm performing poorly in the bedroom, like being unable to maintain an erection, because I'm just so self-conscious about it.
I know you can say to me - it's what you do with it that counts - and of course I know that's true. But I had this absolutely awful experience with this one girl in November 2014 where she basically explicitly told me I had a good length but a small girth. That really fucked me over because I know girth is often more important to a woman's satisfaction.
I'm trying to rationalise it in my head, I know there are people out there with way smaller than me and I know that porn skews the perception of what a normal size is. Only one person has ever even commented on my size, although obviously you don't know what people say when you're not around. But I also know that my girth is inadequate. No girl is ever going to look at me and go 'oh wow, look at that! Big boy' etc etc lol.
How do I get over this? It's so difficult to talk to anyone about it and equally it's affecting my quality of life, not only in the bedroom but in general because I spend way too long worrying about it.
Prepare for a bit of a rant.
Recently I've developed what I would describe as 'crippling' penis anxiety. I'm 6" long (which I'm fine with) but my girth is below average at about 4.5". When I look at it from the side, in a mirror or something, I just get so demoralised because it is so thin in my opinion.
If you went back and read some of my old posts on this site, you would find all sorts of 'Am I normal' questions regarding my size, but it was never an issue like it is now. 2 years ago, I was sleeping with women without a care in the world and I had re-occurring sex with a number of them, one of which outright told me that she enjoyed having sex with me, so I must have been doing something right...
Now though it's got to the point where I'm performing poorly in the bedroom, like being unable to maintain an erection, because I'm just so self-conscious about it.
I know you can say to me - it's what you do with it that counts - and of course I know that's true. But I had this absolutely awful experience with this one girl in November 2014 where she basically explicitly told me I had a good length but a small girth. That really fucked me over because I know girth is often more important to a woman's satisfaction.
I'm trying to rationalise it in my head, I know there are people out there with way smaller than me and I know that porn skews the perception of what a normal size is. Only one person has ever even commented on my size, although obviously you don't know what people say when you're not around. But I also know that my girth is inadequate. No girl is ever going to look at me and go 'oh wow, look at that! Big boy' etc etc lol.
How do I get over this? It's so difficult to talk to anyone about it and equally it's affecting my quality of life, not only in the bedroom but in general because I spend way too long worrying about it.