Stuck in a weird situation

[EmbraceX]

So one of my friends, who I am romantically interested recently has been really flirty. Now normally this would be great, but she is seeing someone else. So yesterday I told her that I really do want to be with her, but not while she has a boyfriend. She told me that she was sorry she was being so flirty and that she could see us being in a relationship later down the line but wants to stay in her relationship. Now that's fine and all but right now I need some space, but now she is texting me all the time and asking to hang out constantly. I don't want to be rude and tell her that she needs to back off, but I'm not sure how to handle this.

[CosmicNoodle]

She really likes you and you like her, I don't think it'd hurt to hand out with her as much as YOU want to, so long as a relationship isn't on the table there's no problem.

[jordanhardy]

Just tell her how you feel bro, explain to her that you really want to be with her and that if she's going to stay in a relationship with her boyfriend then you need some space. Tell her why you want space, i'm sure she will understand.

[Abhorrence]

You need space, she's being horrible to her current boyfriend if she is trying to pretty much get with you.

[Tesserax]

Ok, here's my idea. Be nice, don't tell her to stop, because it will hurt her. Hang out with her when you want, but when you don't feel like it tell her you don't feel like it, when she starts texting you and you don't feel like talking tell her you're busy, or you're trying to deal with something (games busy works too, but might come off as insensitive).

The main thing is, she's showing an interest in you and you want to keep that going, while also having her give you enough space, and letting her stay with her boyfriend. If you're hanging out and she goes to kiss you or something, THINK OF EXACTLY WHAT I'M GOING TO SAY NEXT!!!

SAY NO! Tell her "We really shouldn't be doing this, I'm sorry", or word it however you want, but just make sure that she doesn't do it and see her reaction. If she looks disappointed or annoyed at you, you have to try and forget her because it means she's likely to cheat. If she appears sincere and apologizes, then she's perfect, but you have to wait for her to drop her current boyfriend and just wait. Time is the most important thing, of all time, and you just have to wait

[NickTheStar]

Dude I can tell u what to do but I would get banned.
Just remember if her boyfriend was doin his job she wouldn't be tryna get at you. I wouldn't feel no remorse taking his chick.

[Uniquemind]

My advice is to keep busy with real tasks not made up excuses. Hopefully your choosing to invest time in yourself to develop skills that make you an appealing person for life.

1. Learning not only how to cook but cook WELL is a time consuming task but will benefit you greatly later on in the dating arena or not.


It is sadly possible you are being used as a rebound guy. Some girls like to ensure they have guy B ready before breaking up with guy A, so they don't have to go through that scary "I'm boyfriend less" stage which society tells us is "oh so all important".

My best advice is give yourself a set amount of time you need space from her like 21 days...then after that give her the okay to socialize with you as friends again provided she keep that flirty side of her with you in check.

If she continues tell her she can't show that side of her with you because you feel it's too intimate for not being your boyfriend, and it seems for you you need that one-on-one dating style.


Keep in mind though, many people go through a "I date many people all at one time" before selecting one as BF or GF, and this is not considered cheating as long as all are upfront and honest.

[SethfromMI]

Just tell her how you feel bro, explain to her that you really want to be with her and that if she's going to stay in a relationship with her boyfriend then you need some space. Tell her why you want space, i'm sure she will understand.

you can't go wrong with a simple, honest answer in this situation

[Mil1dreded]

Yeah I'd be honest say how much you like her but you can't date her while she's still with this other guy because that's just cruel I'd be fuming if that happened to me still hang out with her though just let her know where you stand on it

[DoodleSnap]

First up, I don't think that she is being fair on her current boyfriend. Arranging a succession of romantic interests to date isn't morally right in my book.
Answering your question, kindly tell her straight up that you are not hurt, not angry, but simply need some space at the moment. I would be incredulous if she doesn't understand.

[Uniquemind]

First up, I don't think that she is being fair on her current boyfriend. Arranging a succession of romantic interests to date isn't morally right in my book.
Answering your question, kindly tell her straight up that you are not hurt, not angry, but simply need some space at the moment. I would be incredulous if she doesn't understand.


I'll go so far as to say that if she doesn't understand this then she's selfish and a horrible friend.