Broken up with my BF!

[rachel_ballet]

I have been broken up with my BF for well over 36 hours!
I broke up with him for reasons that I've mentioned in another post!
It's not getting any easier than it was the second after I broke up with him!
I wish someone could tell me when it does get easier!
He just texted me sating that he loves me! And of course this isn't helping right now!
Any advice from anyone o how to get through this painful heartache would be really appreciated!

[fidder]

Distract yourself to get your mind off this. Watch movies, sing, dance, clean, nap, or anything you love doing. The less you think about it the easier it will be to move on

[StarSan]

Depends on how close you two were. Along with how long you two were dating. I dated my ex for about a year and a half and it took me about 4 months and I'm still not completely over it but it's a ton easier now than it was.

I really do know it's not easy, but like the above poster said, distract yourself. And I did read your other post and yeah. He was a bit too old for you. I know he was probably a great guy but still. Just try and be strong about it.

An important thing at any age, but especially yours, is to have friends. Trust me~

[fairmaiden]

A few people including myself have already told you that due to your boyfriend being over the age of 18, your relationship would have been categorised as illegal. It's for the best.

[Uranus]

I figured this would happen.
I'm sorry to hear about this. But you really should look for someone closer to your agem

[rachel_ballet]

Starting to get depressed about this!
Sorry to keep posting about this, but I'm really considering going back to him!
He's not going off to college or going off to anywhere else. In spite of the age difference, we do have a lot in common. We both like classical music and I have taught him how to appreciate the art of ballet. He really hasn't pushed sex a lot. We have a lot more in common than anyone could understand!
He was sooo good to me and spoiled me.
Maybe if I explain things to my parents, they would understand!
Or I'll just have to sneak out to see him.
No guy my age could treat me as good or love me the way he did!

[SethfromMI]

but that age difference was way too big. it was illegal big wasnt he in his 20's or whatever)

it is going to take some time. your not going to get over it very quickly

[Uniquemind]

Starting to get depressed about this!
Sorry to keep posting about this, but I'm really considering going back to him!
He's not going off to college or going off to anywhere else. In spite of the age difference, we do have a lot in common. We both like classical music and I have taught him how to appreciate the art of ballet. He really hasn't pushed sex a lot. We have a lot more in common than anyone could understand!
He was sooo good to me and spoiled me.
Maybe if I explain things to my parents, they would understand!
Or I'll just have to sneak out to see him.
No guy my age could treat me as good or love me the way he did!

Nah your just thinking with your heart.

Think logically.

The wisest course of action is to bide your time.


If he fixes his problems FIRST and addresses the reasons why you broke up with him in the first place ONLY then consider returning to him.

Research says after a breakup it takes 6 months to adjust.

So hang with friends, grow some life skills and hobbies that will make you a more well rounded adult.

My advice specifically is learn to cook 5-8 really good full course meals from scratch.

You have to distract yourself in a big way to get through breakups.

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However I will say the fact that a grown man is showing "clingy" qualities like his life is ending because his minor (and illegal) girlfriend broke up with him is deeply concerning.

It suggests you played too big of a chunk of his life that gave his life meaning, and that's dangerous even if the relationship continued. Even as an adult that's a personality danger sign to look out for in others.

[SilverP]

It really isn't easy I broke up with someone once and it tore me apart then one day I caught a glance of something that reminded me of a childhood ambition and before long I was every day thinking about that instead