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Reundlovu
March 31st, 2015, 04:19 PM
So.. my aunties all work a lot of hours and so does my father. Three(i'll refer to them as A,B or C to make it easy to understand) of them live near us and have 4 children. Aunty A has one child, Aunty B has one child and Aunty C has 2.

Something has recently been pissing me off. They literally make absolutely NO attempt of organising a child minder to look after their children. They usually leave it up to me, my father or/and my brother to look after their children. My, my father and my brother live in a 2 bedroom house and most of the time they drop off ALL 4 children for us to look after.

To be honest, only one aunty(A) makes an attempt to help us around. She gives us money for groceries and even gives me and my brother pocket money. I am not too angry at aunty B because we have a close relationship.

But Aunty C drives me insane!!. She barely makes an attempt to pick up her children from school or even pick up her children from MY house. She usually expects one of us to drop off her children-To get this straight, she expects to look after her children hour upon hour AND to drop of her children at her house whenever it's convenient. Like right now, she's sleeping while her children are at my house and have not seen her today. Even when she has a off day, she goes to the city and drops her children at my house. To make matters worse, she only talks to one of us when she needs a favour and she does not offer any favours back.

As if things couldn't get worse, it's awkward because they go to my church. How do l bring this up to them(bearing in mind i'm only 14)?

ally-mai
March 31st, 2015, 05:15 PM
How old are the kids

Reundlovu
March 31st, 2015, 06:53 PM
How old are the kids
Aunt A's kid is 7
Aunt B's kid is 3
Aunt C's kids are 7 and 11

jordanhardy
March 31st, 2015, 07:04 PM
Does your dad feel the same way as you do? Let him know how you feel and maybe he can have a word. If not speak to aunt that your close to and see if she can help

Reundlovu
March 31st, 2015, 07:07 PM
Does your dad feel the same way as you do? Let him know how you feel and maybe he can have a word. If not speak to aunt that your close to and see if she can help

My dad pretty much feels the same way but is not willing to bring it up to them. I have hinted towards the aunt i'm closest to that l do not like doing so much babysitting but hey ho.

jordanhardy
March 31st, 2015, 07:10 PM
Well it should be down to your dad to say something, not you. Just tell your aunts that you have plans and can't babysit

ally-mai
April 1st, 2015, 06:54 AM
The suggestions above are good, but if all else fails try to get the kids to say they don't like it. Pull at your Aunts' heart strings.