Mom who's opinion on everything about you must be known?

[Drummer Ben]

Does anybody else have a mom who likes to tell you her opinion about the way you dress, laugh, talk, music you listen to, activities you partake in. It's super annoying to the point where I try to avoid her knowing anything about my personal life at all costs. She has an opinion on everything I do. Of coarse her opinion is god. She tries to control everything I do, tries to figure out everything I'm doing. For once I would love her to leave me be.

[SethfromMI]

lol my mom does sometimes (not all the time). she doesn't try to control me though and I know she always means the best even if I do not agree with her

[WanderingHeart]

LOL you're lucky you have a life. Because of my mom, I can't even take a walk around my neighborhood. I can't even go outside :'D...
My dad doesn't let me listen to music so I had to stop.
My only access from the internet is a Nintendo 3DS which I am on right now.
So, no, it's not just your mom.

I support you, anonymous person on the internet.

[rachel_ballet]

Does anybody else have a mom who likes to tell you her opinion about the way you dress, laugh, talk, music you listen to, activities you partake in. It's super annoying to the point where I try to avoid her knowing anything about my personal life at all costs. She has an opinion on everything I do. Of coarse her opinion is god. She tries to control everything I do, tries to figure out everything I'm doing. For once I would love her to leave me be.

This is exactly how my father is

[jordanhardy]

It's just a motherly instinct to try and know everything about their kids. My mum does the same, but understands that I dont want her to know everything about me. She does try to control certain things, but isn't always that successful at it.

[Uranus]

lol my mom does sometimes (not all the time). she doesn't try to control me though and I know she always means the best even if I do not agree with her

This is pretty much my mother as well.
But it's just a motherly instinct. No surprise there.

[Bull]

You are 18. It is time to take your mom's opinions as just that, her opinions. Be polite, don't be argumentative, respond with "that is an interesting thought, thanks for sharing." and then go about your business. Good luck.

[Mil1dreded]

Nope my mum isn't like that she let's me do what I want but I don't really push limits anyway apart from occasionally getting drunk so that's why

[SethfromMI]

You are 18. It is time to take your mom's opinions as just that, her opinions. Be polite, don't be argumentative, respond with "that is an interesting thought, thanks for sharing." and then go about your business. Good luck.

I didn't realize he was 18. OP, while your mom does still mean the best for you, at age 18, you're old enough to make your own decisions . however, if you are still living at home, I would be respectful of some of her wishes because she can also make you get out

[CuteGuy889]

better than my mom..Some moms do not get what privacy is and that their son is growing up....
Until I was 14 mine used to take my pants off when I fall asleep. She used to do this outside home too..Imagine you fall asleep tiered after play, woken up to go home, and your pants are gone and you're in your briefs for all (incl girls) to see...super embarrassing.

Also at home if I fall asleep dressed she'd undress me.. and if she thinks my undie is dirty she takes that off too letting me sleep nude...leaves the door half open...few of my girl cousins saw me.

And at such times if she finds "skid marks" in my undies she'd take her liberty to take tissue & wipe my rear...whn I'm asleep.ugh..
At 14 I had to cry and throw a tantrum to get these to stop.
Since putting on sm weight after being skinny all my life she frequently brings this up in conversations infront of me..with freinds/relaitns. She'd go on about how skinny I used to be, how cute I look now and that I'd probably get fat in college like my dad...It is soo embarrassing I get red in face.

[jordanhardy]

better than my mom..Some moms do not get what privacy is and that their son is growing up....
Until I was 14 mine used to take my pants off when I fall asleep. She used to do this outside home too..Imagine you fall asleep tiered after play, woken up to go home, and your pants are gone and you're in your briefs for all (incl girls) to see...super embarrassing.

Also at home if I fall asleep dressed she'd undress me.. and if she thinks my undie is dirty she takes that off too letting me sleep nude...leaves the door half open...few of my girl cousins saw me.

And at such times if she finds "skid marks" in my undies she'd take her liberty to take tissue & wipe my rear...whn I'm asleep.ugh..
At 14 I had to cry and throw a tantrum to get these to stop.
Since putting on sm weight after being skinny all my life she frequently brings this up in conversations infront of me..with freinds/relaitns. She'd go on about how skinny I used to be, how cute I look now and that I'd probably get fat in college like my dad...It is soo embarrassing I get red in face.

You win. That's just creepy. I'd kick off big style if my mum started trying to wipe my arse.

[Abhorrence]

No, my mum comments some stuff which is annoying but not overly. I tend to keep my private life away from my home anyways.

[Drummer Ben]

That's the thing, it's almost like my mom can't stand the fact I don't want to rely on her anymore and doesn't let me have a private life or makes it as difficult as possible. Yeah they can kick me out anytime and I have to place to go so I can't complain. Believe me would love to have a place of my own. Anyways I just have to work on not letting her comments bother me. Every time she figures me out I try to change as to always be one step ahead of her. Maybe I should just stop trying and live with the fact that until I move out, this will happen.

[Snydergate]

My mom does that from time to time, but its not a regular thing

[Uniquemind]

It's still a horrible parenting style because of the manipulative aspect to it. It probably dooms you to years of therapy as an adult.

I am told this is why a lot of young people go wild in college because they're desperate for freedom they never had as a kid growing up...but because they go wild they don't always make the most logical or wisest course of actions because their wound up like a spring.

[CuteGuy889]

But all these are done with good intentions apparently. When confronted my mom claimed she took my pants off 'cos jeans are uncomfortable and if I am ok with swimming in my speedos/undies in public whats wrong is sleeping in a friends house in one?? And she argued she let me keep my tee on...I had to give up..

[Kacey]

I guess I'm lucky in that my mom does speak her opinion, but knows it probably won't affect my decision. Like if I'm going out to get firewood (we live in a cabin, it's needed.) without a coat on, she'll tell me that it's cold. I acknowledge her, and then proceed to walk out into freezing weather without a coat.
But seriously, I couldn't imagine my parents trying to control my life...