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boyscout482
March 30th, 2015, 05:01 PM
So, I have 2 FTM transgender friends. They are dating. However, they are not gay, but they both like guys...and girls...and transgender people. They've also told me that they are not pansexual either. Is they're another term to define this?
There's also a Cisgender girl in my school who I thought was lesbian, but she's dating a FTM guy. So, since I was under the impression that there are 2 types of "gay": attraction to a person the same genitals and attraction to a person with the same body, I asked one of my trans friends if she'd still be considered lesbian. Apparently I was 100% and completely stupid and oblivious for considering that to be gay. When i asked him how he'd define that, he said its a straight relationship.
I know this whole thing isn't just black and white, but its really freaking confusing when we're talking about sexual orientations and I am accused of using the wrong definitions.
I'm gay, but i like the male body. The genitalia doesn't really matter to me. I would identify myself as being a Panromantic Androphilic Cisgender Male. Which means that I was born male and identify as such and that I'd date and be able to love someone from any gender, but only have sexual attraction people who identify as male.
If I'm incorrect on how to define my sexuality, please correct me.
I know not everything is black and white, but this question has caused fights within my friend group. I feel like i walk out of the conversation more hurt than my friend because of the backlash. If you could also provide a list or location of a list that contains all sexual orientations and definitions, that would be great. I know this probably makes me sound ignorant, but I do know that not every sexual orientation has been or ever will be defined.

DoodleSnap
March 30th, 2015, 06:26 PM
Personally, I think the whole obsession with using labels is overblown. They can be useful to describe yourself in a word, but they shouldn't confine, confuse, or stress people out. They are there for quick and easy identification, so we should all treat them as such. If you like boys, girls, trans-boys, trans-girls, or anyone else, then that is cool. People should focus more on being comfortable with who they like, and having a good relationship, rather than worrying about the labels associated. Basically, just like whoever you happen to like, and don't let labels worry you. Just my $0.02.

Abhorrence
March 30th, 2015, 06:34 PM
It's all fucking stupid, be who you wanna be and like who you like and don't think about it. Simple.

SethfromMI
March 30th, 2015, 07:52 PM
It's all fucking stupid, be who you wanna be and like who you like and don't think about it. Simple.

very well said Jack very well said :yes: