Trust Issues

[Anastaysha Marie]

It's no secret that I have trust issues. The way I was brought up made me the way I am. But now I have trouble staying in relationships. It's not because I don't LIKE the person it's just that I feel like I can't get too close because I'll get burned. It's not like it hasn't happened before, you know? I've been cheated on three times (and, okay, maybe it was my fault) but there's this guy and I AM into having a serious relationship with him. How do I do that? How am I supposed to throw away all my fears just like that? Is it even possible? Help please.(I know I sound desperate. It's probably because I am.)

[Uranus]

This is something a lot of people go through, including myself. I have trust issues and I don't want to rush into relationships because I don't want to get hurt. That feeling is just horrible to experience. You can't just throw those feelings away, because they are always there. What you have to do is take baby steps, one step at a time and try to get past it. I know it's hard but it's something we must do if anyone wants to get somewhere in a relationship.

[Nico11]

I'm somewhat a skeptic. And that is not good. It actually is good if you don't want to rush in a relationship. You have to achieve a level of comfort until you become you become sure about him. If you've been cheated on three times, you actually might wanna talk about it to the guy and make it known that you trust him fully. Communication is the key. This might your once in a lifetime chance. You don't wanna look back and say "I wish I'd done that". Regret is a long term pain

[Selestine]

If you really want to have a serious relationship with him then be ready to put your card down. Trust him. That's the only way to know if he's worth it. I've been cheated a lot of time before too. But each time I gave my trust, I give 100%. I know it's hard but that's your only choice at the moment. Trust him and if later on he'll break your trust then leave him. At least you've tried. I'll give you a quote. "Feel the fear, do it anyway." Be afraid of giving him your trust but give him anyway. It's now or never. :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

It's no secret that I have trust issues. The way I was brought up made me the way I am. But now I have trouble staying in relationships. It's not because I don't LIKE the person it's just that I feel like I can't get too close because I'll get burned. It's not like it hasn't happened before, you know? I've been cheated on three times (and, okay, maybe it was my fault) but there's this guy and I AM into having a serious relationship with him. How do I do that? How am I supposed to throw away all my fears just like that? Is it even possible? Help please.(I know I sound desperate. It's probably because I am.)

I dont think you can just throw away all your fears but you can be open and talk about them relationships take time to develop and build so maybe as you get on you will feel better and be able to trust.

[SethfromMI]

This is something a lot of people go through, including myself. I have trust issues and I don't want to rush into relationships because I don't want to get hurt. That feeling is just horrible to experience. You can't just throw those feelings away, because they are always there. What you have to do is take baby steps, one step at a time and try to get past it. I know it's hard but it's something we must do if anyone wants to get somewhere in a relationship.

perfect answer. start with the small, but a relationship has to be built on trust, communication and love, otherwise it is not going to work

[churris]

First of all, if someone cheats on you it's NOT your fault. You can be the worst girlfriend in the world, and even then, every person should have the decency to break up with you before getting involved with someone else. So don't blame yourself, they chose to cheat.

That being said, and repeating everyone else, communication is key. Talk to this guy about these previous persons so he can see why you're scared, and take it slow. Trust builds itself over time.