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appleboy1
March 24th, 2015, 09:01 AM
I'm 18 and girl in question is 16, met through her sibling.

I asked a girl out to an event as a friend. The day was great and I felt instant connection and felt there may be something else in it. I texted the day after and we had a chat, all good.

Texted a few days later and basically a late reply (by a few days), and after a few texts, again no reply. I thought, okay, maybe she needs some space so I left it.

I asked her by text (I don't see her in life) if she wanted to hang out 2 weeks after the event, she said she would and sounded excited about this. We hung out and was great, we have lots in common and we have the same humor so we get on great. I texted the day after at lunch time and she didn't reply 'til after tea, but we had text convo all evening, basically straight back and fourth until 10pm.

I don't know what to do next, I want to ask her out (as in like dinner this time rather than hanging out), but I don't want to make myself look like a fool by being presumptuous.

What do you think?

I've asked a friend (girl) their opinion and they said wait for her to initiate contact to see if she's keen - would you agree?
JamesSuperBoy
March 24th, 2015, 09:16 AM
Maybe you could offer a date and then ask her if she can suggest something then you suggest dinner Before you ask sort out what times/days you could make a date for - you could suggest she picks the venue.
appleboy1
March 24th, 2015, 04:30 PM
Maybe you could offer a date and then ask her if she can suggest something then you suggest dinner Before you ask sort out what times/days you could make a date for - you could suggest she picks the venue.

Thanks for the advice.

Please keep it coming.
appleboy1
March 25th, 2015, 04:45 PM
Bump...............
churris
March 27th, 2015, 09:18 PM
Just ask her out! :) If you like her, and she seems to like you back, just do it, ask her on a date. If you don't want this date to be like ~too much, you could suggest dinner but also a movie or just hanging out wherever to keep your options open, and see which one she likes the most.

Have fun, and tell us what happens!
DoodleSnap
March 30th, 2015, 06:04 PM
From what information you have provided, she clearly seems excited and interested to speak to you, so further dates could go down well. My best advice would be to take her somewhere where you can speak to each other, but nowhere too dressy or high-brow, just somewhere where you feel comfortable chatting, as that seems to be your strong point. I personally think that is great, as communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship, so being able to speak and share things, no matter how big or small, is great for breaking down barriers and becoming closer. Maybe lunch would be appropriate, but whatever venue/medium you choose, you should be able to pick up hints and see whether a more serious date would go down well. Good luck.
SethfromMI
March 30th, 2015, 07:20 PM
ask her if she wants to go to lunch or dinner with you sometime
ally-mai
April 1st, 2015, 02:18 PM
Ask her if she wants to see a film (that can be taken either way)(but don't pick anything really romantic. Maybe Insurgent) and if she says yes then put your hand on the armrest between your seats. If she puts her hand on yours then you're good and if not then no friendship ruined.