He's mad at me!

[Aiken]

I'm angry and very confused, basically my friend got a bit weird on me, I think he was trying to kiss me, he came so close, I didn't react cuz I wasn't sure what he was up to, I thought he was messing around, then he pulls away and starts hurling abuse at me, calling me gay, and worse.
At school he has told people I tried it on with him and now a lot of people are calling me a shit load of names, I have no idea what's going on :what:
I ignored him for over a week, I eventually talked to him and he says he was wanting to see what it was like, I'm assuming he means kissing guy, I still didn't know what to say, and again I get the gay insults from him and friends at school, he's so mad at me and I am confused as f*** why, I didn't do anything!
I want to be able to talk to him, he is/was a good friend
I am so so so confused what I have done wrong, if anything its me that could have been insulting him with everyone, id not do that.
Help?
I don't know how to fix this, I'm getting crap from people at school for nothing and him being mad as f*** at me, I don't understand him at all, its not right is it :what:

[Vermilion]

It's not right the way he's treating you, you've done nothing wrong. I'm sure he is acting like this as he's in denial of what happened, he can't be comfortable with what he went to do. I don't think you should do anything in school but when on your own with him ask him why he's acting that way. Just ignore the people at school, you could ask other people if your friend has tried it on with them. If he's really your friend he will apologise to you maybe not tomorrow but he will.

[Zachary G]

hes treating you bad because of his own insecurities and confusion. its easier to take things out on other people than it is to deal with our own issues. just give him some time and space and see where things go. if he was really a good friend, he wouldnt have started rumors about you in the first place, and he would have been the first to apologize for being such a dick. while you are giving him his space and time, you might want to re-examine your friendship with him.

[DoodleSnap]

hes treating you bad because of his own insecurities and confusion. its easier to take things out on other people than it is to deal with our own issues. just give him some time and space and see where things go. if he was really a good friend, he wouldnt have started rumors about you in the first place, and he would have been the first to apologize for being such a dick. while you are giving him his space and time, you might want to re-examine your friendship with him.
^^^This. Internalised homophobia is the fear/hatred of same-sex attraction coming from the person's own feelings. This is likely what your 'friend' is experiencing. He probably started to feel attraction for you, and when he began to get scared at the idea, he likely decided that to counter his own worries he would lash out at you, as you are the one he is attracted to, thus representing his own same-sex attraction. As a way of dealing with this he is clearly trying to make out that you are the one who is 'gay'. He is probably having a hard time from internalised repression, and not necessarily fitting in with what society has told him he has to fit in with, and so feels the need to lash out. I would suggest you follow zack.zack 's advice, and give him some distance until he is able to work out what he is feeling. Good luck.

[SethfromMI]

he is just angry about his own insecurity. unfortunately you cant stop him from talking or making stuff up. you will just have to address stuff as it comes up and hope those who know you believe you over him