Advise on a friend

[CWteen]

Okay so about a year and a half ago me and this friend of mine got pretty close and comfortable with each other. And then one day we were hanging out I convinced him to trade HJ with me
We did. And then afterwards we still talked and hung out and it wasn't weird


Well then about a month ago he texted me and asked me if I wanted to do stuff like that again and this time around we did HJ and then BJ
But after this time it's like he hates me
He won't talk to me or hang out with me anymore
We're both straight/curious but like I dont understand why he avoids me no since it was his idea the second time..
Any advise or ideas??

[Vermilion]

He mite be scared you'll tell people or bring it up when talking, I'd remind him that he wanted it and that you won't say anything.

[Zachary G]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

[Vermilion]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

Much better than my advice

[vboy]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

What he said

[Thomas01]

Just tell remind him that you two are still friends and if something is wrong, you're there for him. Also remind him that whatever you two did was cool, nothing weird, and stays between you two

After that, it's basically up to him to stay in contact with you. You would have done what you could

Like oyhers said, he might be questioning himself so he will come back to you when he feels comfortable

[sdude]

Yeah, no doubt he enjoyed it and is feeling the major guilt trip. Be the bigger man and tell him no matter what, it's between u two forever and if he ever wants to talk, u are there for him. No guarantees on it getting better though, I've been through it with friends and lost friends...it sucks, they can't accept themselves, so it's just too easy to pin it on the guy they did it with.

[SethfromMI]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

this is probably a pretty good guess. people react for different reasons. the one way to know for sure is by trying to talk with him

[Canadian Dream]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

Pretty much that is what I think.

[CWteen]

It's just tough since he's the only one I ever felt comfortable enough to talk about this let alone even do it and now we don't even talk

[TalenD]

it could be that by doing it he really liked it a little more than he anticipated and is having trouble trying to figure things out. his not being in touch with you might be more about him coping than it has anything to do with you. give him some time and space and let him come to you when he has figured things out. dont push him because you will lose him and jeopardize your friendship.

Yeah I agree with him.

[TalenD]

It's just tough since he's the only one I ever felt comfortable enough to talk about this let alone even do it and now we don't even talk

Don't worry dude. I'm sure he'll come around. If it's been like more than a couple months than it should be ok to talk to him. Don't push it though. If he needs a little more time than he needs a little more time. I'm sure he'll be ready to hang out again though. Just act like nothing happened the next time you talk to him. I'm sure he'll go along with it

[TSUNAMI]

never happen to me cant help you sorry

[Hideous]

Okay so about a year and a half ago me and this friend of mine got pretty close and comfortable with each other. And then one day we were hanging out I convinced him to trade HJ with me
We did. And then afterwards we still talked and hung out and it wasn't weird


Well then about a month ago he texted me and asked me if I wanted to do stuff like that again and this time around we did HJ and then BJ
But after this time it's like he hates me
He won't talk to me or hang out with me anymore
We're both straight/curious but like I dont understand why he avoids me no since it was his idea the second time..
Any advise or ideas??

Ask him, talk to him. Ask him if anything's wrong. My guess would be that he's over the "hj and bj" sessions, and he finds the relationship between you both awkward. You don't really know what he's thinking so it's best to contact him.

[Lskillz]

Okay so about a year and a half ago me and this friend of mine got pretty close and comfortable with each other. And then one day we were hanging out I convinced him to trade HJ with me
We did. And then afterwards we still talked and hung out and it wasn't weird


Well then about a month ago he texted me and asked me if I wanted to do stuff like that again and this time around we did HJ and then BJ
But after this time it's like he hates me
He won't talk to me or hang out with me anymore
We're both straight/curious but like I dont understand why he avoids me no since it was his idea the second time..
Any advise or ideas??

He probably just feels embarrassed and awkward around you I did around my mate for a while