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EssentialAspiration
March 18th, 2015, 04:01 PM
Rite, my girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We love each other and she's wanted to get sexual for a while but I've put it off because I'm new to all this sort of thing (first real relationship) and a bit nervous. But now I've decided I want to get sexual.

But how do I make this known and get on it?

I'm thinking just asking to go round hers this weekend to play around a bit.

"play around a bit" - I mean get sexual

Will that put the message across? Because obviously she's not expecting anything because she knows I haven't felt ready to be sexual so I don't want to shock her. I could go for pleasant suprise, but that's a bit too risky for me and could go badly/

Anyway, any advice is appreciated, nice one.
Nico11
March 21st, 2015, 03:39 AM
If your girlfriend has consented to it, then there is no harm in going direct. Call her up, make some plans and DO NOT GET NERVOUS. if she senses hesitation, she might refuse. Also, do a little bit of homework. You don't want to be her one time wonder. Since this is your first time, you can also work out a little bit to get the adrenaline and testosterone under control. Just talk to her and make it known that you have decided to go one step further. You wanna make it enjoyable for both of you. Hope it goes well
KaraaaHope
March 23rd, 2015, 03:53 PM
I think you're overthinking this! If you both want to do more and she's already agreed, it'll happen naturally if you're alone and have the time for it. Just kiss her, it'll lead to everything else eventually if you don't stop it. But still...make sure YOU want it first because you can't take it back.
Vexste
March 23rd, 2015, 04:28 PM
I think you're overthinking this! If you both want to do more and she's already agreed, it'll happen naturally if you're alone and have the time for it. Just kiss her, it'll lead to everything else eventually if you don't stop it. But still...make sure YOU want it first because you can't take it back.

Agreed. It's a big step, but hormones tend to have a funny way of taking over when the time is right. It'll work out. And remember, if you're not sure, not doing it is usually the safest route. You'll be able to get over a lot of things in your life, except for the things you can't ignore or forget.