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TheRedViper
March 17th, 2015, 03:08 AM
So I've been 18 for a month now but have not ever had a girlfriend. I don't think it's a social issue or anything, since I get along very well with several girls at my school and was even best friends with a (extremely attractive and popular) girl a couple of years ago. We were extremely close, even at the point where we'd say we loved each other, we were always at each others' houses, we always hugged and talked all the time, etc. She had a boyfriend though so nothing came of that.

However now it's becoming quite depressing that I don't have a girlfriend. Pretty much all my friends do, and a lot of what is talked about at school is the relationships they're in. I don't consider myself a jealous person at heart, but this really does make me jealous to quite a strong degree. I don't really have a particular attraction to or liking to any girl at my school, though, so there aren't really any opportunities there for me. I also don't have a job, despite many attempts to get one, so broadening my social circle that way isn't happening.

I guess I'm really worried that I'll complete high school without having had a girlfriend. It just seems like I have no idea how I could go about finding a girl that I like enough for this. I don't go to parties very often at all, and I don't use Facebook, so I guess I'm really limiting any areas I could find someone, but parties and Facebook just aren't really to my liking at all. I'm really worried that I'll end up at university or something and I won't really have any experience with having a girlfriend. I'm pretty friendly and have a good sense of humour, or so people have told me, and I'm not unattractive or anything like that. I guess I'm just not as outgoing or extroverted as some of my friends who do have girlfriends are. I really have no idea what to do, and it's lingering in my thoughts always that I don't have a girlfriend. I feel that since I'm 18 this is the time I absolutely must get one or else I won't be prepared for life outside of high school.

Saint of Sinners
March 17th, 2015, 03:37 AM
Dude. There is no hurry to get a girlfriend before leaving high school. It happens when it happens no? Whats the point in rushing into it and ending up in a shitty relationship that makes both people unhappy? You're only 18, you still have a long way to go. Don't feel pressured to rush into a relationship because you're afraid of missing out.

DoodleSnap
March 17th, 2015, 05:35 PM
Getting a girlfriend should be because you love each other, not to 'tick-a-box', or fulfil some sort of status challenge. Be patient, and you will eventually find someone. When you find someone you can love and be loved by, you will realised that rushing to be in a relationship is actually kinda futile. Hope all goes well.

SethfromMI
March 17th, 2015, 10:13 PM
don't worry, the time will come and you will have one