Social Anxiety Crush

[gracien13]

About two weeks ago, I asked this guy that I really like if he likes me back. We had been talking/texting/snapchatting every day for about a year, and he is friends with some of the same people I'm friends with. I was seeing signs of interest, like he sometimes complimented me like saying I was cute or my eyes were pretty. We would always stay up super late talking, and I really liked him. I was getting pretty fed up with not moving anywhere in our relationship, because he knew I liked him, but he has social anxiety kind of. He rarely talks in person because he is really shy, but when he does talk he flirts with me, or at least my friends think he does. He would steal my food and walk faster to catch up to me in the hallway. But, when I texted him because I wanted some answers, he told me he likes me in a way. I have no idea what that means, and when I asked he said he likes me in some ways. So I told him I was done being just friends, so it's up to him now. And now we haven't talked for two weeks, and have just exchanged some awkward eye contact at school. Now I need advice. I want to talk to him, but I don't want to seem desperate? What should I do? I still really like him. :confused:

[JamesSuperBoy]

Maybe you already seem desperate having already said you were done with being just friends. Perhaps you just have to realize he was comfortable with your friendship and maybe your friends were wrong about him flirting with you. Is it possible he misunderstood what you said and thought you did not want any contact?

[Daniel2]

I'm just like the guy you are on about, shy in person but not... out of person (kinda makes sense )

Anuway, he is probably scared, if he does like you he will be nervous about the extra attention he will get (from friends etc) and if he just wants to be friends he won't want to upset you..

I think he probably likes you, if he's been texting snapchatting etc for a year, and the walking quicker, stealing food etc.. then chances are that he does. People who are shy/social anxiety don't give those kind of compliments lightly, especially if he has said it out of the blue (I.e. he has complimented first, not reacting to your compliment)

However you should try not to force an answer out of him, at least not in person. I know I would panic in that situation whether I liked the person or not. I'd end up regretting whatever I said.

Maybe you could try talking to him again, for example if something you know makes him laugh or something happens or there is a film he likes etc do it and Snapchat him about it (as soon as possible after the event, ideally during) this will show that you are thinking of him, and generally, i suppose, impress him... However it will show that you still want to be friends at least


Hope it goes well for you!

[fairmaiden]

I think it's kinda mean to try and force him to give you a decision about whether he wants to date you or not. You already identified that he had social anxiety and this might have made it worse ;/

He most likely does like you, but can't express it very well. Next time you guys exchange awkward eye contact, go up to him and ask him how he's been, and talk normally. Don't bring up the dating thing unless he wants to. If you guys don't bring it up after a few weeks or so, you should ask him again.