chores, rules

[tasminsmith]

I never have chores, curfew or many rules I love it tbh, I was watching the news this morning with this psychiatrist saying children love and need rules im like wtaf do people have loads of rules and do you like it or do you not but would like them?

[davidsp]

Hi Tasmin.
We've got rules here and chores we are supposed to do. Dad says is all part of helping to make the family run. We all chip in and do our part. Dad says rules and laws and proper ways of behaving towards each other are what hold society together and we need to learn that as kids. Otherwise we won't be good productive members of society. Dad says if you don't show up for work on time and give 100% to doing the best job you can that you will get fired and they will find someone else who will. I think it's partly just how the world works. I also think that it is good for kids to have boundaries. Some kids I know don't have any and they are selfish, inconsiderate brats. Hmmm. I guess I need to work more on not being judgmental.

[JamesSuperBoy]

We have chores but it is always fun and good to help everybody else. Room tidy laundry
chop fire wood help with shopping wash up etc. It really does not take that long and we enjoy it.

[Beth]

I also have chores and rules by babysitting my 6 year old little brother. I don't really mind cause in return I receive a roof over my head room and board, and so much more to list.

[Jackrabbit7]

My parents are so chill about stuff like that ~ so chill that the house will go to shit if im not on top of things. They work a lot so I end up taking on all the jobs they cant do. But they never check up on my computer or worry about what time I get home. I think the rule things kinda true, I mean I make my own rules on how i act around my family and live my life, but other peoples rules are stupid and usually don't have reasons.

I don't understand how some parents can be so controlling... it requires so much extra work and energy.

[Babs]

A certain amount of structure is needed. No one LOVES chores or rules, but chores are needed so your kid knows how to do laundry when they're a teenager.

[Straya]

iv been in charge of my own life the moment i hit 13 my parents let me decide what i wanted to do. i no longer had a time i had to be home or tell them where i was all the time and sure i went crazy for the first few weeks then i settled down and i still do what i want and as long as im not hurting anyone my parents leave me to it. as my parent said ill have to make my own decisions sometime so they might as well do it when i still live with them and they can guide me when i do things wrong and im never late to anything i organize myself so i get everything i need to done on my own

[tasminsmith]

I don't understand how some parents can be so controlling... it requires so much extra work and energy.[/QUOTE]

agreed

[juliet]

i have loads of rules and i hate it!! you're right i really don't see the point... but my parents are really old school :(

[Abhorrence]

I don't have many rules or chores either. It's great having the freedom to do what I want. The way I see it, having freedom and independence shows trust.

[Emerald Dream]

I don't have rules that I have to follow, and what I do I don't exactly consider "chores." It's more of a case of - if I don't do things around my house (laundry, vacuuming, cooking, cleaning, yard work), there's literally no one else here to do it for me. I am here often times a lot more than my mom, and we are the only two living here.

[Cognizant]

I live in a "take care of yourself, your room, and your stuff" kind of household. It's been that way since my parents divorced and my mother, who was the stay-at-home type and did the housekeeping duties, moved out.

But honestly, I kinda wished my parents pushed us to do chores when I was a kid. Our communal areas of the house tend to get neglected except when we do a "deep clean" of the house a few times a year. Our backyard is embarrassingly dirty, simply because nobody feels the need to take care of it. When I'm a parent, I'm going to give my children chores, because I won't always be around to help them keep their house or apartment clean.

[LiamC]

I am 18 and still have too many rules and chores and all that shizz. Obv I don't want to just do NOTHING but it makes me feel like i'm being treated like a 10 year old with all the control etc.

[pjones]

my brother and me have chores. we share doing our own laundry, help cook and wash up after, clean the house and whatever needs being done outside like mowing lawn. it's a way to become responsible