Jealousy/ best friends

[Trimmy52]

Hi guys.
Im in middle school and I have a lot of friends.. but the problem are the ones who I count like closer..
when they talk to others I get a extreme level of jealousy because I feel like I would lose them...

any tips?
people who went thru this?
thanks! :D

[Magenta]

Here's the thing: friends in middle school and high school come and go. Jealousy isn't particularly healthy because you may in fact lose them and it just happens. What you can do is enjoy the time you spend with them and remember, they are your friends right now. Some people keep friends their entire lives, some people don't. But they're not gonna just up and walk away because they're talking to other people.

I lost a lot of friends in high school and I rarely speak to anyone from middle school. We all grew apart and we're different people than we were say eight or ten years ago. When you're in middle school, you don't really realize how much time is gonna pass and how many things are gonna change. I had plans to go to university and move in with my friends from middle school and now I live in a different city and have entirely new friends. And that's not a bad thing, I just grew up. However, my best friend in the world is a girl I met in my freshman year of high school. So the rest of our friend group disbanded... eh, we're still friends and we're glad that we still have each other, even if it's long distance now. Those are the friendships you cherish the most because they last through the good and the bad.

Don't worry about what might happen. Start talking to new people as well, have fun with your friends, and don't let it get to you so much. It does hurt losing friends but we all do and at your age it's very common and very normal. So I don't blame you for how you feel.

Just try not to dwell on it. :) Middle school should be fun, as should high school in the future. The more you learn to just take things as they happen, the easier it gets.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hi guys.
Im in middle school and I have a lot of friends.. but the problem are the ones who I count like closer..
when they talk to others I get a extreme level of jealousy because I feel like I would lose them...

any tips?
people who went thru this?
thanks! :D

Seems to me that jealousy and the fear of loss are two different things. But what you can do is join in with these conversations. School is always going to be just a mix of people and its good you have close friends.

[Abhorrence]

Throughout secondary school I've only kept three of the same friends since the second year. The rest have all come and gone. I'm now drifting apart from these three people because of things that have happened and at the end of this year I'll be moving school and I doubt I'll speak to them ever again. I don't overly care anymore though.

[Trimmy52]

Thanks for the responses, guys, you made me thinking... yet im afraid of losing her because she is the only close friend i have :)

[tasminsmith]

I used to be jealous about all my friends to the point where I would be horrible to any people I thought would try and "steal" my friends I don't get jealous anymore but everyone in school thinks im a bitch oh well

[LiamC]

I had that! Especially when I really fell for one of my best friends - luckily he didn't realise. It just passed for me as I matured (i was in year 10 when like that) so hopefully same for you :D