What do I do

[cvoio]

ok so first of all I am a 17 year old bisexual male. About a year ago I started to really like one of my guy friends but it seemed more like an unhealthy attachment than a crush or anything. He is straight, homophobic even, but he was my best friend at the time. I told him about what was going on and everything and he basically ended the friendship. We've worked things out pretty well now though. Anyway, it's sort of happening again with another one of my friends. Even though I'm bisexual I consider myself heteroromantic, so I don't see myself being in a relationship with a guy, but there's definitely a sexual attraction and an emotional attraction because he's my best friend and we share everything about our lives (well pretty much everything). He's straight, although he's pretty lenient about it. He's never done anything sexual with someone else, and neither have I. He knows I am attracted to him, and he's not totally repelled by the idea of me being sexually attracted to him. We talk about it pretty openly with each other, and basically he takes the position that it would be weird because we know each other. I wouldn't want to put our friendship in jeopardy, but it's annoying because he also says that if we didn't know each other too well he'd be fine with us "fooling around". I'm the exact opposite when it comes to that though, like I'd rather know the other person pretty well as opposed to pretty much a stranger. I guess I just feel like I'm at a disadvantage because I'm his best friend, and I totally understand where he's coming from, but I'm afraid of the situation becoming like the one I was talking about earlier. I'm a fairly horny guy so I always feel some tension around him and I'm afraid of that affecting our relationship because it's pretty much one sided. I guess I have the control to not let anything happen to the friendship, but wanting more than the awesome friendship we have have now makes me really afraid of losing him as a friend. I want to find some way to control my desires.

[Hudor]

Are you sure he's straight? If you are then you have to believe it, actually believe it and not just think that you believe it. Unless you understand completely that nothing could ever be possible with him, you would keep wishing which may spoil your friendship if you cross your boundaries some day. I guess for the sake of your friendship it's best if you maintain a little distance from your friend and not attach feelings with him because the restraint you mentioned is tricky to maintain in my opinion.

[cvoio]

Part of the problem is that I'm not completely sure he's straight. He says he is, but he keeps mentioning possibilities of him with another guy. I don't know, but yeah I think I'll "keep my distance" for a while and see how that goes. It's just hard to really believe he's straight with his somewhat mixed messages.

[Danny_boi 16]

I'd try ignoring them. Your emotion should mess up a friendship, and that's what you trying to avoid. Like you said, keep you distance, but still be friends. And how know, he might develop or already have feelings for you.

[Hudor]

Part of the problem is that I'm not completely sure he's straight. He says he is, but he keeps mentioning possibilities of him with another guy. I don't know, but yeah I think I'll "keep my distance" for a while and see how that goes. It's just hard to really believe he's straight with his somewhat mixed messages.

I guess the course of action you have chosen would be best for now.

[Iam_1]

I've been in the exact same position man. I know it may seem really hard to do, but if you really care about him as a friend then let the sexually part go. With my good friend I had a secret crush on him and wanted to experiment with him but he really did not like the idea and I didn't want to break our friendship. So I had to make a hard decision, which now was a good one. We joke around now and are closer . Goodluck man. Message me if you have any further questions.

[DoodleSnap]

Part of the problem is that I'm not completely sure he's straight. He says he is, but he keeps mentioning possibilities of him with another guy. I don't know, but yeah I think I'll "keep my distance" for a while and see how that goes. It's just hard to really believe he's straight with his somewhat mixed messages.
(You need to quote someone for them to get a notification, so they know to reply.) I am going to guess that he is likely somewhere within the wide spectrum of bisexuality, but prefers to use the "Straight" label. Considering how open you guys are, and how much you speak, then maybe you could ask him about how he feels using that label?

[SethfromMI]

Part of the problem is that I'm not completely sure he's straight. He says he is, but he keeps mentioning possibilities of him with another guy. I don't know, but yeah I think I'll "keep my distance" for a while and see how that goes. It's just hard to really believe he's straight with his somewhat mixed messages.

that def sounds like he is at least bi-curious.

at any rate, have a serious convo with him. if he doesn't want to do anything, you will just have to respect that and not do anything with him

[Zachary G]

there are no way to control those desires, they will always exist for you. if you want to retain him as a friend, then you have to draw the line and never cross it. he sounds like a pretty good friend to have and you should cherish that, what you have. who knows, maybe in time he will feel comfortable enough to fool around with you, but in his own time.