need sum1 to talk 2

[BOB_BOB]

i am 14 year old bisexuel/gay and i really need sum1 to talk 2 hu is gay cause none of my other friends are. so plz message me with your msn address or i will send u mine

thxs

[TheWizard]

You are only 14. you shouldn't label yourself so soon. Give it a chance and things will work out.

[kevin]

http://forums.teenguidance.net/content.php?do=article&id=8

There's an article I wrote for coming out, I think you should read it, and rethink labeling yourself, like josh said.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

who said labeling? Sometimes u just no. Im almost 14, and im gay. I know that.

[BOB_BOB]

yeah

[///James///]

and i AM 14, and i know it too, but you no DAMN HORMONES!

[kevin]

You really shouldn't say you definetly know. Anything can happen.

[what the?]

uh im 14 and im gay! im not saying things can't change, but if the boy thinks he gay then he's gay at this particular moment in time. its not about labels, its about sexuallity and i think some people forget that sometimes. sorry if that was a bit outspoken but i thought it needed to be said.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

exactly. ANd we never said we no for sure, but at the preasent moment that is what it seems like

[BOB_BOB]

Exacty because at this moment in time. I am attracted to guys and even if in a few years time the attraction might end. At the moment i wanna do guys! and thats all there is to it

[kevin]

No not well put, he's 14. Sure he can think what he wants, but regardless, sexuality is not what it is, if you're gay just for the sex, then most likely you're gay for the wrong reason.

[what the?]

who said he chose to be gay? sexuality is not just about sex its about emotions and LOVE. i didnt just say "oh i wanna fuck a guy, so i'll be gay"

[Rowan1011]

Meh, if you're attracted to dudes and want to have sex with them you're gay :\.. I have best friends, I love them, but I'd never want to have sex with them because they're guys.. So when you think about it, sexuality like the name says, is all about sex..

It's not like if you're attracted to guys, but there's this girl that's real nice to you you're going to get with the girl just because she's nice to you.. If that was the case I'd of married my friends.

[kolte]

quoting myself

"just because you look at gay porn doesnt make you gay or bi. you really need to think about who you are. Dont just think "I'm gay" because you look at gay porn, you may just be curious and hormonal, dont lable yourself just because your curious."

" Being gay is not a bad thing. But its a very important desision to make. You can't just say that by looking at gay porn that makes you gay. No not at all, being gay is about love not lust. If you love men, can picture yourself dating them, loving them, spending your life together with them, chances are your gay. But if you cant, then its just hormonal. Your at a stage where your very vunerable to outside intake. You have to think about who you really are. Don't make rash desisions about who you are because you could really make a mistake. Just thinkg about it and NO it does not make you gay to look at gay porn."

You really need to think about who you are.

[kevin]

who said he chose to be gay? sexuality is not just about sex its about emotions and LOVE. i didnt just say "oh i wanna fuck a guy, so i'll be gay"

"Exacty because at this moment in time. I am attracted to guys and even if in a few years time the attraction might end. At the moment i wanna do guys! and thats all there is to it"

I just wanna do guys? What does that sound like.

[what the?]

Meh, if you're attracted to dudes and want to have sex with them you're gay :\.. I have best friends, I love them, but I'd never want to have sex with them because they're guys.. So when you think about it, sexuality like the name says, is all about sex..

It's not like if you're attracted to guys, but there's this girl that's real nice to you you're going to get with the girl just because she's nice to you.. If that was the case I'd of married my friends.

when i said love thats not what i meant.

storge- the love of things

eros- being in love

philos- the love between family and friends

agape- unconditional love

it may be greek or something like that, but it makes sense, yes? people love people in different ways. let me rephrase. sexuality IS about being in love but also about physical attraction. also there are too many 'decision' words floating around. yeah you can decide to experiment, but i dont think you make a decision about being gay or strait or bi. you kno what you are. live with it, dont fight it.

[Rowan1011]

In my opinion there is one type of love. The love that you love your friends and family. Why do you love them you may ask? Because they've always been there for you, been your friends and helped you through hard times in your life.

If you love someone you just met, it's merely physical attraction and the want for sex. However, after having sex, you subconciously start to associate this person with pleasure, so when you think of this person you feel happy. For example, I love Doritos, they're not really good for me, and sometimes they don't even taste good.. But if I find them in the house, I'll eat them regardless. Not the best example but still..

But yeah, I've put lots of thought into this thing we call love. I started to get confused about marriage and sexual companions... I mean, why can't I love a friend just as much as a sexual companion? If I can, then why do you get married to someone who you want to get sexual with? And if I can't, then this thing we call 'love' is only shallow physical gratification :\...

Confusing, I know.

[what the?]

to be frank, i dont really care anymore. i kno my opinion and no one's is gunna influence it.