Circumcised in NZ? Help?

[jonosbro]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono

[gui0506]

1) Why don't you ask your parents about the circumcision? Are you embarassed?

2) Some girls even like the look of a circumcised penis, so I really doubt that there'll be any negative effect.

Anyway, I guess you should get over it because it's not a big deal after all.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Maybe you are not over thinking this - I guess its normal to feel that you are different and it worries you.

Maybe you can ask your parents then and find out. I agree that rates of circumcision have fallen in NZ. I really dont know what else would help you - but accept that you are and maybe you will find its not such a big deal with your friends. But add to this and post again if you want -

[Meh Guy]

You are different, but you're treating this as if it were some curse or disease. Your father (and/or mother) did not "willfully make you an outcast" by having you circumcised. Just because you are different doesn't mean it is a bad thing. Circumcision is becoming quite rare, you are correct, however, there was a time where being uncut was very rare, and those people got by just fine. You don't have to hide it as if you're plagued with some deadly disease.

[NewZealand]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono

From my name, as you can tell I'm a kiwi. Your parents didn't throw you in the deep end on purpose dude, the soul purpose of the circumsision wasn't to make you an out cast, perhaps your dad was and that is just what he thought was the common thing, because at one point it was. Most of his generation was cut.
My advice for you to you is to just own it. My whole year at school was pretty open about all that sort of shit, and I know that out of my year 2 guys were cut. And they just owned it, like the flashesr cellphone that no one else has, or can have ahaha! Because there is nothing that you can do about it, no one is going to judge you for it. So really you just have to get over it, harsh but the truth.

[Straya]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono

your overthinking this way to much. i know two of my friends are cut and they dont keep it a secret if anything people had questions for them about what its like so i dont know why your hiding it, and the only way to know why your parents had you cut is to ask them and finaly girls dont care if your cut or uncut and if thats a deal breaker with them then you probably shouldnt be dating that girl in the first place.

[hockeyfan]

To get the answer to ur first question u Would need to ask ur parents.

No girl I have met cares about circumcision, stop worrying.

Who cares if ur different? I have a friend that is cut and no one cares even though its not common where I live (Canada)

[ChrisA1998]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono

The truth is most people dont care if you are cut or not. Honestly, I know a bunch of guys, I dont mind if they are cut or not. If they were , that wouldn't change a thing ;)

[lancezer]

[QUOTE=jonosbro;3080768]Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono[/QUOTE
The girls don't mind ask if you want and there are more cut people than you think its just you don't know them most for medical and some at birth I had quite a few cut friends I wasn't at the time but medically had to have it so me counted out of 8 friends 4/8 cut and overseas friends 100% all nearly all but one are cut and I am from new Zealand I lived there for 18 years of my live born raised and only just left and when we were born it was still common do you want your boy cut they asked a lot and the mother like mine normally says no and stops it but if the father is normally was done so he is more like father because the father complains I had no dad so I wasn't cut mom said no because she saw how it effected her brother and her moms brother playing around but they all have wives and gfs a lot

[jordanhardy]

There's nothing wrong with being circumsized or different dude. As for why you were cut, you'll have to ask your parents. It could have been for a number of reasons. Being circumsized will not affect your sex life.

[lancezer]

your overthinking this way to much. i know two of my friends are cut and they dont keep it a secret if anything people had questions for them about what its like so i dont know why your hiding it, and the only way to know why your parents had you cut is to ask them and finaly girls dont care if your cut or uncut and if thats a deal breaker with them then you probably shouldnt be dating that girl in the first place.true

[nklarke]

Hi everyone,

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture?

It's a bit strange that you ask us why did your parents have you circumcised, you've to ask them.

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Of course NOT. You don't have a foreskin, but you have your PENIS.

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Just deal with it accepting who you are. You don't walk on the street naked so if it happens that your friends realise you are circumcised, that's you and that's it. You can ask them what they are doing looking at your dick. You're part of the 35% of men who are circumcised around the world.

[Dreamer98]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the personal question, but here it goes:

I am 14 years old (nearly 15) and I live in New Zealand.

I was circumcised at birth. I have recently begun questioning this practice and I noticed when I was young that I was different. In New Zealand nowadays circumcision at birth is rare. Among Islanders (Samoans, Tongans etc) it is almost universal and it is also universal among Muslims, but for white boys like me it is quite rare. Whenever the topic of circumcision comes up (and it does occasionally, like after health lessons etc), or even about sex related topics in general I have to speak very little because I might say something that might suggest I am circumcised. I hate the feeling of being different and having to be careful about opening up personally to other guys whenever certain topics come up. Try as I might there is just no conceivable reason in this day and age in New Zealand for a european bot to be circumcised, while his peers are not.

Now I have two questions:

1: Why did my parents have me circumcised when it is so rare in our country and culture? Our family are evangelical Christians, which might have played a role, but as far as I know my other christian friends arent circumcised so what gives? Also doesn't the Bible say there's no need for circumcision anymore? I am certain that it was my dad's decision. But what kind of dad would wilfully make his son such an outcast?

2: Will there be any effect on my relationship/sex life? Do NZ girls mind?

Also how do you recommend I deal with this? This is very hard for me living in a country where this is so rare. Should I just get over it or is there something I can do?

Americans, please try to put yourselves in my shoes where circumcision is not the norm. You feel as if you are 'different' from everyone else which is just horrible. I know I'm over thinking it but this has been on my mind and bothering me for some time now.

Thanks in advance,
Jono


1) Ask your parents . Circumcision is normal in today's times .
2) No . I think that if girl loves you , she loves you with all her heart , so girls don't mind about that ..

[Mercy99]

im greek, so im afraid i cant offer any help on a NZ matter