F.e.a.r.

[Giannaras]

I believe we all have felt it,some of us more than the others some of us less than the others.The think is fear(or anxienty for some people) can destroy happines,relationships(all kinds of) and many other areas of your/our lives.So recently I came to realize that fear is just in our heads,its only there if you let it be.I have tried multiple times getting rid of it but it still remained there or even kept becoming worse.Thats when I understood that you have to act upon it,if you fear of doing something because you fear of failure then go try this thing and even if you fail you will not have lost because you TRIED,you will just have gained an experience more and a fear less.I proved it to myself and believe me you feel more peacefull after doing so even if you fail.

So I wanted to say that I made this thread thinking that we can help each other by posting here something we fear of even trying doing and then go do it in real life (except if this thing is really harmfull for the individual doing it :P ).

[Abyssal Echo]

According to my mom fear is:

F - false
E - evidence
A - appearing
R - real

I have a fear of heights/falling. Last summer I helped with the repairs to the roofs of our out buildings. I was very anxious and nervous about going up on the roofs but, I went. Point is the repairs got done and I didn't fall.

[Karkat]

Hate to burst your bubble, but anxiety is a legitimate medical condition. Sometimes, it isn't even caused over anything in particular- it's just a rush of adrenaline triggered by something that wasn't supposed to trigger it.

You can't just 'make' yourself stop being afraid. It takes time. You have to rework the way you think and accept that there will still be worry and fear.

You don't get rid of it, you learn to deal with it in a healthier way.

[thatcountrykid]

I do have to say some people with "anxiety" are just overly sensitive people who whine and stress over nothing important. They can totally control it. My poor helpless church girl cousin who just got married "has had such a stressful life" and that's complete bull shit. She had nothing to fear.

It's ok to be afraid of somethings. Whether it's a test or being out on the streets or whatever it's ok. You just have to shove it down, and push. Whining won't get you anywhere.

[DylanDanger]

I do have to say some people with "anxiety" are just overly sensitive people who whine and stress over nothing important. They can totally control it. My poor helpless church girl cousin who just got married "has had such a stressful life" and that's complete bull shit. She had nothing to fear.

It's ok to be afraid of somethings. Whether it's a test or being out on the streets or whatever it's ok. You just have to shove it down, and push. Whining won't get you anywhere.

Honestly you don't know that. You don't know everything about that person. There are a lot of things that people go through that they don't talk about. and honestly it isn't always that easy for people to shove it down and push on.

as for my fear it isn't anything physical. My fear is being underestimated and not being given an chance to prove myself, and also have a fear of not being accepted. I deal with those fears all the time, and they don't bother me or affect me everyday, but they are still fears, and still always in back of my mind.

[thatcountrykid]

Honestly you don't know that. You don't know everything about that person. There are a lot of things that people go through that they don't talk about. and honestly it isn't always that easy for people to shove it down and push on.

as for my fear it isn't anything physical. My fear is being underestimated and not being given an chance to prove myself, and also have a fear of not being accepted. I deal with those fears all the time, and they don't bother me or affect me everyday, but they are still fears, and still always in back of my mind.

Yes I'm pretty sure I know my cousin who I saw nearly every day for years.

She had everything in life handed to her by her grandparents and parents and didn't have issues. She didn't have to get a job. She didn't have to go without anything ever. What's she having anxiety over? Nothing reasonable that's for sure.

[DylanDanger]

Yes I'm pretty sure I know my cousin who I saw nearly every day for years.

She had everything in life handed to her by her grandparents and parents and didn't have issues. She didn't have to get a job. She didn't have to go without anything ever. What's she having anxiety over? Nothing reasonable that's for sure.

not saying this is true, or anything but who knows, people have had things happen to them without telling everyone like being molested, or raped, or being physically or verbally abused. anxiety is also a mental issue that sometimes isn't caused by anything you went through, it just happens. you would be surprised by things people you think you know have gone through, but havent told anyone.

[Vlerchan]

What's she having anxiety over?
It can be something contained in people's genetics:

It doesn't need to be caused through experience(s).

[ImCoolBeans]

What's she having anxiety over? Nothing reasonable that's for sure.

Anxiety implies an irrational fear or concern, while fear itself is a response to a perceived thread. They are not the same thing, and you are using the terms interchangeably. So yes, your cousins anxiety being over something you have deemed as unreasonable makes sense, as most peoples' anxiety is over something unreasonable, or irrational. I really don't know your cousins situation, and tbh am not really interested either, but I think you should at least consider that you are not 100% right, and your understanding of anxiety may be a little off.

[Babs]

Yes I'm pretty sure I know my cousin who I saw nearly every day for years.

She had everything in life handed to her by her grandparents and parents and didn't have issues. She didn't have to get a job. She didn't have to go without anything ever. What's she having anxiety over? Nothing reasonable that's for sure.

So I guess your cousin represents every person in the world with anxiety disorders.
Most mental illnesses are caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain, which is something beyond people's control. The person's life sometimes has nothing to do with it.
I suggest you stop looking at certain things as black and white, and also stop making assumptions about things you don't understand.

[thatcountrykid]

So I guess your cousin represents every person in the world with anxiety disorders.
Most mental illnesses are caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain, which is something beyond people's control. The person's life sometimes has nothing to do with it.
I suggest you stop looking at certain things as black and white, and also stop making assumptions about things you don't understand.

I never said she did now did I?

Yeah I understand MOST mental illnesses are snd yes anxiety can be a legit disorder however do never be diagnosed with one or anything, no self diagnosis is 100 percent right.

What makes you so qualified to suggest that huh? When you get down to it this are black and white. Either it's legit or it's not.

I'm not assuming anything here.

[Babs]

I never said she did now did I?

Yeah I understand MOST mental illnesses are snd yes anxiety can be a legit disorder however do never be diagnosed with one or anything, no self diagnosis is 100 percent right.

What makes you so qualified to suggest that huh? When you get down to it this are black and white. Either it's legit or it's not.

I'm not assuming anything here.

You used your cousin as an example to back up your belief that people with anxiety are all whiny babies. You made a blanket statement.
Self-diagnosis has nothing to do with what you said.
I never claimed to be qualified. But I'm not the one delegitimizing people's issues without making an effort to understand them.
I'm not saying it's not black and white in terms as to whether or not their illness is legit.
What I mean is mental illnesses in general are complicated and cannot be reduced to blanket statements.
You are assuming that people's issues are trivial when you do not know what is going through their head.