Dealing with a divorce

[joaopgt15]

My parents are getting divorced and I've noticed that I'm starting to lose interest in studying and karate.Is this a sign of depression? I honestly don't feel depressed I just feel like I have a lot of mixed feelings and that I should use my free time to just do what I really want to cope with the divorce.

[Magenta]

Hey, divorces are hard. My parents divorced 12 years ago and guess what? I'm still dealing with lawyers and other crap from it. Of course, my case is a bit extreme but anyway, just saying, it totally sucks and I get it.

I can't really remember how I reacted, personally, because I was really young and I sort of saw it coming, believe it or not. But it was a big change and any big change can affect your mood and emotions and that's perfectly okay. Your mind is on other things and you're probably not in the best place right now.

What you should do is talk to your parents. If you trust one or both of them, try to let them know how you feel. It's hard on them too so be patient but you're going to need support and they should be there to give it to you, their differences aside because you're their kid.

Divorces can trigger depression, yes, but I think what you're going through right now is just normal for the situation. What you should do is try to keep occupied and keep the same routine you did before. Routine is a good thing during something as major as a divorce. It forces you to keep stability in your life while everything else is upside down.

If you ever want to talk, let me know.

[Just JT]

My parents divorced years ago. And like what Magenta said. It's complex and hard to understand. I'd just keep the lines of communication open with mom and dad. And stay busy. Even if it's hard to get motivated to do the stuff you like a lot, just do it. Your friends there will be a support system for you. As well as other adults. If you let them.

If talking with mom or dad don't work/help then talk to a guidance counselor at school (when you get back) or your minister or a good friends parents.

Yeah divorce can lead to depression. But is also avoidable. So do your best to avoid it.

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[azurzg]

My parents are getting divorced and I've noticed that I'm starting to lose interest in studying and karate.Is this a sign of depression? I honestly don't feel depressed I just feel like I have a lot of mixed feelings and that I should use my free time to just do what I really want to cope with the divorce.

If you parents are getting divorced, that is probably a good thing. They have reached a point where they've made a mature decision and whee they think their lives would be better if they separated.

My cousin was 13 when his parents divorced. He felt very bad about it. He had a lot to process. He behaved as if he can somehow reverse their divorce. Two years later, everyone involved is happier and nicer to the others.

Keep your chin up. Do your school work and keep your hobbies and sports. Your parent's lives are going to change, perhaps so will yours, but keep things you can control in order. Besides, school and sports give you something else to do and think about other that your parents divorce.

[Living For Love]

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