How to make relationships after being stupid

[eugaurie]

I don't really know if this is a relationship issue or not but here it goes:
Basically a couple years ago a couple of friends and I smoked pot a couple of times and essentially were labelled immediately by my schoolmates and shunned as weird 'druggy' outcasts. I quickly quit and upon reflection realise I was acting as someone who isn't myself, that or I've changed a whole lot.. Regardless, during that period I was so shunned and also scared that school would find out and kick me or out something that when someone brought it up (which happened essentially whenever someone talked to me at the time as essentially nobody knew me well) I panicked and got extremely scared and nervous. Two or three years down the line it's almost never brought up anymore but there's still residual effects of panic when I'm in social situation (though not nearly as bad as someone shouting out what I did across a bus of about 60 people as at the time I remember being so scared and not to mention older boys like 3-4 years older blackmailed me with this simply to get me scared)

Can anyone suggest how I can get over this social anxiety that's plagued me and make relations with anyone? However as an aside is this my fault I hate myself because of what happened and I've never said anything before to anyone about this because I always saw it a shameful thing... Any advice would be appreciated.

Furthermore

[DoodleSnap]

I think that the first step is to b sure of yourself. Learn to love yourself (as sappy as that may sound), and build up your confidence. People will simply follow someone else, and if you are the one brave enough to have confidence in yourself, and make it clear that you don't care what they think, they will become the sheep, and you the leader. Just get out there and look at the situation from their perspective, logically and rationally, and you will see that if you make a situation a casual one, they will follow. If your nerves are getting to you, try wiggling your fingers and toes, cutting down on adrenaline. Try finding somewhere, before whatever it is you are nervous about, and stand big, legs wide apart and hands wide up in the air, like a starfish. Feel free to ask for any more help if need be. Good luck.

[Nico11]

Since it has not been brought up, you can virtually accept that it has been forgotten. Now all you need to do is accept the situation, rebuild your confidence, and come out of your shell a renewed person. Tbh nobody remembers these things after a certain period. It is us who hold on and refuse to get over it. Feel free to ask for any other help. Take care

[OSUBuckEyes]

I don't really know if this is a relationship issue or not but here it goes:
Basically a couple years ago a couple of friends and I smoked pot a couple of times and essentially were labelled immediately by my schoolmates and shunned as weird 'druggy' outcasts. I quickly quit and upon reflection realise I was acting as someone who isn't myself, that or I've changed a whole lot.. Regardless, during that period I was so shunned and also scared that school would find out and kick me or out something that when someone brought it up (which happened essentially whenever someone talked to me at the time as essentially nobody knew me well) I panicked and got extremely scared and nervous. Two or three years down the line it's almost never brought up anymore but there's still residual effects of panic when I'm in social situation (though not nearly as bad as someone shouting out what I did across a bus of about 60 people as at the time I remember being so scared and not to mention older boys like 3-4 years older blackmailed me with this simply to get me scared)

Can anyone suggest how I can get over this social anxiety that's plagued me and make relations with anyone? However as an aside is this my fault I hate myself because of what happened and I've never said anything before to anyone about this because I always saw it a shameful thing... Any advice would be appreciated.

Furthermore

You need to feel secure in who you are NOW bro. that's what matters. The present. If its still rough you may want to talk to someone about it.