Everyone I need your help. Fast!

[AlisterPSG]

Okay, my Girlfriends friend or whatever told her shes still going out with her ex or something and it's heartless that she goes out with me as well (she doesn't even like him) Anyway she's quite the gullible person and believes her and we talked (over texting) and she is saying she's stressed and also said " I'm scared I'm going to f*ck up" which I can't understand. So basically someone said mean things to her she thinks they're true and can't bear to go out with me. It got to the point where she said let's just be besties and me trying to do everything I can to stop her changing her mind I went along with it which I now regret.

So I desperately need advice or something to help me get her back, so if anyone does please tell me.


Quite a big amount of writing there :3

[mopper]

Well despite your sentence structure hindering my ability to read this, I am assuming she is too embarrassed to go out with you and she doesn't want to ruin your relationship. The best thing to do would be to tell her that you don't care and you will support her. If she truly doesn't feel that she can be in a relationship with you, just be her friend and maybe she will change her mind in the future. She was put in an uncomfortable situation and maybe she just needs time to cool down. She's human too remember. Have you ever freaked out about something that you probably shouldn't have? Probably. She is just doing the same thing.

[ManyPearTree]

In all honesty, she doesn't deserve your time. She made a decision to breakup with you based on what lesser individuals said. If she truly cared about you, she wouldn't even consider what others have to say.

She doesn't deserve to have you as a friend either. As much as she meant to you and how quickly she was to dismiss it tells me that she is immature and irrational. I wouldn't make ANY contact with her for a period of time. When you feel the time is right, bluntly express to her that you want no place in a friendship.

I think letting her go would be a good decision. If you want to talk about it more let me know man. I can definitely relate.

[DoodleSnap]

Well despite your sentence structure hindering my ability to read this, I am assuming she is too embarrassed to go out with you and she doesn't want to ruin your relationship. The best thing to do would be to tell her that you don't care and you will support her. If she truly doesn't feel that she can be in a relationship with you, just be her friend and maybe she will change her mind in the future. She was put in an uncomfortable situation and maybe she just needs time to cool down. She's human too remember. Have you ever freaked out about something that you probably shouldn't have? Probably. She is just doing the same thing.
Could not have put it better myself. Support her, and show her that you care. She is clearly having some issues with people pressuring her into certain moves because of their perception, so tell her how you feel about that. Communication is one of the most important aspects in any relationship, so speak to her, and tell you that there is no need to feel pressured. Socrates said we should base our decisions from logic and rational thinking, not what the majority or those in positions of authority might say. She sounds like she may be having some maturing issues regarding social life, so instead of burning your bridges with her (like suggested above), try to support and strengthen her. If you feel that the relationship is not for you by the end of it, you can feel good knowing that you have made her a better person.