Questions on Love...

[mariozplaze]

Can teenagers even fall in love, or is it just disguised lust? I been with this one girl for over a year now (but known her for longer than that) and I can never get my mind off of her, I have dreams of her and I always long for her company, (We go to separate schools). She feels the same way about me based on what I've witnessed. We've never done anything sexual, (except for a little touching), we're waiting for the right moment when we're both ready. My family is very unsupportive, my stepdad thinks that me (and all teens in general) don't really know what real love is and we just emulate it with lust and hormones.

I don't know, I think I know what I feel and if it doesn't last after we graduate than so be it, I've had crushes and desires before but this feels more than just "puppy love" or lust. It feels like something different from anything I have ever felt before.

What do you all think? Have any opinions or experience in this?

[Melodic]

I'm a hopeless romantic so of course I have the belief that teenagers can fall in love. However, I know a bunch of relationships aren't based on love and are based on lust. But if you think about it.. how many adults do you see nowadays completely in love?

[mariozplaze]

I'm a hopeless romantic so of course I have the belief that teenagers can fall in love. However, I know a bunch of relationships aren't based on love and are based on lust. But if you think about it.. how many adults do you see nowadays completely in love?

That's another thing my dad talks about a lot. Why does it seem like teens seem to be more emotionally attached to their significant other than adults?

[diaearls]

Melodic has a point. I'm 18 going on 19 and I've thought I was in love before. Yes we are young but we're the only ones who can understand our feelings. So if you feel like you love her then you love her. You shouldn't let your parents tell you how to feel.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Can teenagers even fall in love, or is it just disguised lust? I been with this one girl for over a year now (but known her for longer than that) and I can never get my mind off of her, I have dreams of her and I always long for her company, (We go to separate schools). She feels the same way about me based on what I've witnessed. We've never done anything sexual, (except for a little touching), we're waiting for the right moment when we're both ready. My family is very unsupportive, my stepdad thinks that me (and all teens in general) don't really know what real love is and we just emulate it with lust and hormones.

I don't know, I think I know what I feel and if it doesn't last after we graduate than so be it, I've had crushes and desires before but this feels more than just "puppy love" or lust. It feels like something different from anything I have ever felt before.

What do you all think? Have any opinions or experience in this?

Because adults will forever claim teens don't know or understand love or life or much at all.

I am happy for you.

[tret123]

Of course teens can fall in love....!but just like anyone of any age, doesn't mean that they'll stay in love... But hey go take that chance in love before it's too late you only get 1 or two shits or more if Ya lucky

[MeliWelli]

Think teenagers definitely fall in love for real. It doesn't always work out, but that has nothing to do with age...

[DoodleSnap]

I think that making a huge generalisation about a huge portion of the population like that is wrong. Many teens may not experience true love until they grow older, but that doesn't mean that true love should be ruled out. In this case (with all due respect) I wouldn't listen to your step-father, as it sounds like he may be basing his knowledge off of one particular occasion. As Socrates says (I paraphrase); base your decisions off of logic and rational thinking, not what those of authority and the majority tell you to do. All in all, make your own decision, and try not to doubt yourself, because love is ultimately subjective.

[Akatosh]

Yes, teenagers can fall in love. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I love him. I know that many like to say that I don't know what "real love" is based on my age, but that's a bunch of -- pardon my French -- bullshit. There is no single age at which a person suddenly becomes worldly and cultured and knowledgable in the ways of romance. Some teenagers will be able to experience romantic love, some will not. It's an individual thing based on emotional maturity which is extremely varied and not the least bit objective.