So I need advice

[Esimmons95]

Okay here's the sum of our relationship. My girlfriend and I are both 19 and have been dating for 3 years. We were complete best friends and fell for each other. Our arguments can get bad like any other persons but we usually make up quick. She's really stubborn and I have a very low tolerance for stuff like that. Not only that but she has a very bad friend who tries to encourage negativity in her life. I dont like him and have been vocal of it in a nice manner. He has instigated many arguments between us. Her mom and sister dont really like me and are vocal to her about it which she doesnt like. I just feel like we're drifting because its all arguments these days or dry conversation. I dont know what to do :what::confused:

[Thunderstorm]

You were friends first? If so, that's the problem. It's easy to be friends and fight- friends often have differing personalities. Sometimes couples do too. However, if you're dating someone who is the opposite extreme as you, you'll have differences. You might just have to accept them. Otherwise, it won't work out. Don't argue over little things; try and look at all the good things in your relationship.

Also, you shouldn't care about other people and what they think, regardless of family or not. If she still loves you, that is all that matters.

[DoodleSnap]

You were friends first? If so, that's the problem. It's easy to be friends and fight- friends often have differing personalities. Sometimes couples do too. However, if you're dating someone who is the opposite extreme as you, you'll have differences. You might just have to accept them. Otherwise, it won't work out. Don't argue over little things; try and look at all the good things in your relationship.

Also, you shouldn't care about other people and what they think, regardless of family or not. If she still loves you, that is all that matters.
^^^This is good advice. Although I have said it many times before, I will say it again: Communication is key. Try to speak to her, calmly and neutrally, and share your feelings. If you can be honest with her, you will be closer. Secrets and lies widen the gaps in a relationship, so speak to her, and you will both find a way to make it work. However, no matter what happens, don't let your friendship be compromised.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Okay here's the sum of our relationship. My girlfriend and I are both 19 and have been dating for 3 years. We were complete best friends and fell for each other. Our arguments can get bad like any other persons but we usually make up quick. She's really stubborn and I have a very low tolerance for stuff like that. Not only that but she has a very bad friend who tries to encourage negativity in her life. I dont like him and have been vocal of it in a nice manner. He has instigated many arguments between us. Her mom and sister dont really like me and are vocal to her about it which she doesnt like. I just feel like we're drifting because its all arguments these days or dry conversation. I dont know what to do :what::confused:

Maybe you are drifting apart - what to do - maybe organize a special date and communicate. You cannot make her dump friends just because you do not like him. But can you do anything with her family. why do they not like you? But that is for them. Tell your girlfriend how you feel but avoid taliking about her family or friend it all about you two being together.