Can I ask her out on facebook?

[Shimolis]

Hey!

So there is this girl that I like ALOT. We recently started biology class toghether and what I've done so far is only that I've introduced myself to her and a few of her friends. The problem is she just disappears from the classroom as fast as the class is dismissed. I have her added on facebook, I think she might be intrested in me since we've kind of shared eye contact, but we've never really spoken to eachother. Can I just greet her like this on facebook?
Me: Hey!
(wait for response)
Her: Hi!
Me: How are you?
(she answers hopefully)
Me: I've never gotten a chance to talk to you since you always disappear from the classroom so fast after the lessons, and I really want to get to know you better :). Wanna hang out after school, perhaps go and eat somewhere nice?

That's pretty much what I had in mind, but is it legitimate? If she rejects me I plan on asking why, she would probably say that she doesn't know me so well. And that's where I will say that is why I asked her out, to get to know her a little better.

What should I do...?

[tret123]

Don't do it on Facebook, just do it in person... Trust me

[JamesSuperBoy]

Perhaps she is busy with other things maybe an after school job or help her family and that why the rush away. If you are going to chat on facebook I would not rush to ask her out on facebook but chat first and get to know her first.

[Shimolis]

Don't do it on Facebook, just do it in person... Trust me

Even if I manage to make it really freaking awkward in person? And since she's surrounded by people I don't know, wouldn't it make it even wierder?

[ImCoolBeans]

Even if I manage to make it really freaking awkward in person? And since she's surrounded by people I don't know, wouldn't it make it even wierder?

I would ask her in person. It shows a lot more confidence and she will appreciate that.

[CanadianJake]

Personally I do think you should ask her in person besides on facebook, when you ask her out on facebook it has very little meaning and shows no effort in even trying but when you do it in person, it shows you made the effort and shows you do want to take her out. However from what I'm reading and what you've said, she disappears when class is nearly done and is surrounded by people you don't know. What you could do is ask her on facebook by saying you want to talk to her sometime in school when she isn't busy and that you want to talk to her alone. That's one possibility you could do or just before class starts and she's in the class room why not just go up to her and ask her then? that's another option, either way I'm not sure if that would help much but personally I don't think you should ask her out on facebook.

[tret123]

Just pull her out to the side

[Emerald Dream]

I honestly can understand wanting to avoid an awkward situation, and wanting to be in an environment where you can respond/ask/chat at your own pace (and be able to breathe and calm down, and think things through). Trust me, I am pretty awkward in regards to a lot of things myself.

However, I do think that asking someone out - even if it's just a date - probably should be done in person or at least with a phone call (not a text unless you have already been dating awhile). The personal interaction is pretty necessary, because it's a very important thing. I know it may be embarrassing or weird or difficult, but doing something like that over Facebook or other social media may not be taken seriously.

[Shimolis]

I honestly can understand wanting to avoid an awkward situation, and wanting to be in an environment where you can respond/ask/chat at your own pace (and be able to breathe and calm down, and think things through). Trust me, I am pretty awkward in regards to a lot of things myself.

However, I do think that asking someone out - even if it's just a date - probably should be done in person or at least with a phone call (not a text unless you have already been dating awhile). The personal interaction is pretty necessary, because it's a very important thing. I know it may be embarrassing or weird or difficult, but doing something like that over Facebook or other social media may not be taken seriously.

Would be a good idea to get her number on facebook throught a normal conversation and then calling her perhaps a few days later?

[Emerald Dream]

Would be a good idea to get her number on facebook throught a normal conversation and then calling her perhaps a few days later?

I wouldn't see a problem with that at all. That's just speaking for myself and my own experiences, though. :)

[Zarakly]

Speaking from own experience DONT ask through facebook. do it in person. Shows more confidence and looks better. If you do it in front of a bunch of her firends even more confidence! just do it in person, takes like 2 seconds and if she says no its done and over with. On facebook it would last until the site is taken down so you can always look back at that message and cry

[JamesSuperBoy]

Would be a good idea to get her number on facebook throught a normal conversation and then calling her perhaps a few days later?

A call a few days later would be ok I think. If you did want ask her out on the call maybe you could say something - like how you would love to ask personally but it might be awkward at school.

Be ready if she says no to say you can chat later and ask if anytime other time to meet would be good.

[KaraaaHope]

I wouldn't reject someone ONLY because they asked over fb...but I'd def be more serious about my answer and find it cute to be asked in person.

[DoodleSnap]

I would ask her in person. It shows a lot more confidence and she will appreciate that.
^^^This. Speak to her in person, make it casual and it won't be awkward. If you look at it from her POV, you will see that she won't view the situation as weird or awkward. If you are feeling freaked out, wiggle your fingers and toes; it'll help to get rid of adrenaline. Try to find a room on your own beforehand (ie the bathroom), and stand really big, with your legs wide, and your arms up high; like a starfish. But most importantly, try not to think about it too much. I can understand the feeling of over analysing everything, but try not to, so as to cut down on stress. Hope it all goes well.

[SethfromMI]

try to ask her in person

[PinkFloyd]

Believe me, asking someone out on Facebook is a really shitty idea. If I were you, I'd casually do it in person.

[Straya]

Hey!

So there is this girl that I like ALOT. We recently started biology class toghether and what I've done so far is only that I've introduced myself to her and a few of her friends. The problem is she just disappears from the classroom as fast as the class is dismissed. I have her added on facebook, I think she might be intrested in me since we've kind of shared eye contact, but we've never really spoken to eachother. Can I just greet her like this on facebook?
Me: Hey!
(wait for response)
Her: Hi!
Me: How are you?
(she answers hopefully)
Me: I've never gotten a chance to talk to you since you always disappear from the classroom so fast after the lessons, and I really want to get to know you better :). Wanna hang out after school, perhaps go and eat somewhere nice?

That's pretty much what I had in mind, but is it legitimate? If she rejects me I plan on asking why, she would probably say that she doesn't know me so well. And that's where I will say that is why I asked her out, to get to know her a little better.

What should I do...?

defiantly try and ask her in person a few times but if you can then resort to fb and be like hey iv tried talking to you a few times to ask you something would you like to meet up after school or on the weekend so we can get to know each other better

[Abhorrence]

Sometimes online stuff is easier but then when it comes to in person stuff it's extremely awkward.

[Uranus]

I'd stay away from asking through Facebook, or any form of social media for that matter. Yea, if she says no it wouldn't be as awkward or embarrassing as it would be in person.
Doing it in person will show a sign of confidence which she will definitely appreciate. Trust me on this. Ask her in person.

[MeliWelli]

Don't do it on Facebook, just do it in person... Trust me

Think everyone is thinking the same thing here.