Help!!!!!!

[halloweenboy31]

At school we just had to watch a movie about pueberty. Then they asked if we had any questions. So everyone asked about masturbation. So kids start askingother kids if they do. so I when they asked me i told the truth. Then they went over and told my girlfreind. When she confronts me I lie and said no. Now I dont know if she beleives me and she thinks its sick. what do i do?

[Mzor203]

Just remember that just about every sinlge boy in the whole world does it, and most girls too! So if someone questions you about it, just know that they probably masturbate too, and if they're being jerks, just pay no attention to them.

As for your girlfriend, she should understand, and if she doesn't like you for something as small as that, she isn't a very nice person.

[notsure101]

yea dont sweat it she probly does it to and really if she does not like u any more over that she has a problem

[AmericanBoy6116880]

Its ok.
Btw, how do I start a post of my own?

[Gavin]

here

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=18

[MoveAlong]

if your girlfriend doesn't like you because you masturbate then yeah right, I would dump her because frankly every guy masturbates even if they're married, and it's a personal thing so she shouldn't worry about it at all.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Woah there we don't have to tell him to DUMP her just because of a trivial thing like this do we? The fact is masturbation is a pretty taboo subject; and a lot of people (like his girlfriend) have just always been taught their whole life that it's dirty, shameful, or harmful etc.

All you need to do is explain to her why we do it, and why its absolutely normal. If you have to tell her this you can say that you think of her while you do it (depending on the girl it might make her feel better as long as you've convinced her that it isn't "sick").

[MoveAlong]

Woah there we don't have to tell him to DUMP her just because of a trivial thing like this do we?

I never said he should do that. But I would dump her.
Seriously you need to have a talk with your girlfriend if she's that worried about it, that's just sickening to me.

[dogman]

If she thinks your weird if you masturbate, then odviously she is either extremly religious, or totally naive to think no one does it

[sir_WANK_JACKOFFalot]

well 1 off man i love ur screen name but 2ed well just explain it to her if she dosen't care ur good but if she dose try to explain that there is not a huge diiference between u mastuerbating and u not doing that

[Requin]

ABout every boy masturbates and i bet she does it aswell, it's nothing wrong, it's not a crime, if she thinks it's weird then you should dump her.
btw. Ask her if she masturbates i bet she does even she says no.

[scatman]

I think if you told her that you think of her when you do it that would make her even more uncomfterable and think its even more dirty then she already does

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Agreed with scatman. If you're of the age where they're showing these videos (junior high, right?) then she's not likely to be flattered at all by the thought of you masturbating while thinking about her. Her female mind is going to over analyze and turn that into you wanting to have sex with her which, if she can't handle the thought of even masturbation, she's really not ready for. Explain to her that it's normal, and that a lot of guys (even girls!) do it. She's probably been raised the way a lot of kids, especially girls, have: to think masturbation is dirty or wrong. A lot of parents expect boys to masturbate, but they teach their girls not to do it because it's more taboo for them. This could be a good way for you two to sort of bond--she's always going to remember you as the guy who taught her that sexuality is not a bad thing--but don't push the subject.

Tell her that yes, you do it, but you're not obsessed with it or anything and it's a very common activity for a lot of people. Try not to be ashamed, that's just reinforcing her assumption that it's bad. Why else would you be afraid to talk about it if it wasn't terrible, right? So, inform her, answer any questions if she asks them, and move on.

[Close102]

Ask her what see thinks about it. then decide.

[Sugaree]

At school we just had to watch a movie about pueberty. Then they asked if we had any questions. So everyone asked about masturbation. So kids start askingother kids if they do. so I when they asked me i told the truth. Then they went over and told my girlfreind. When she confronts me I lie and said no. Now I dont know if she beleives me and she thinks its sick. what do i do?


Well she obviously thinks it's gross and hey people have different views on the subject of masturbation. To be frank, I would dump her because she is being shallow.

[halloweenboy31]

ok i'll talk to her
but how do i bring it up?:confused:

[Sugaree]

Just say "Listen, I know that people spread the word that I masturbate and you think it's repulsive. So if you're going to be that way then I guess that we can't go on this relationship."

Or something close to it. If it pisses her off then it does.

[Techno Monster]

EVERYBODY masterbates it was immature for them to tell your gf that you do

[silentc0re]

Dude we all do it you do it i do it your girlfriend probably does it everyone does it, its nothing to be ashamed of.

[Sugaree]

he's right. She probably does it to but she thinks if you do it, it's wrong and disgusting.

Just break up with her. She's obviously too shallow about the relationship

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

I don't think he needs to break up with her right off the bat. I think her views on masturbation are due to how she's been raised, and they can be changed. There was a time when I myself thought it was gross and now I couldn't care less what people are doing under the covers at night. If halloweenboy calmly explains to her that a majority of people experiment with it at some point, it's normal, and it's not going to affect their relationship in any way, she could get over it and the relationship could go on fine. If, after the little talk, she still can't accept it, then he'll need to consider a break-up. But I think there's always a way to talk things out before you just dump someone over a clash in beliefs.

[Areus]

She probably does it, and so maybe she thinks that if she acts like it's O.K., other people will think she does it, and so by saying she's opposed to it, nobody will think she does it. (Except me, obviously...) I might be wrong, but it's just a thought...

[halloweenboy31]

he's right. She probably does it to but she thinks if you do it, it's wrong and disgusting.

Just break up with her. She's obviously too shallow about the relationship

shes not shallow!!!!:guillotine::furious: