Do I like her?

[Awakened Sin]

Hey guys! First of all I'd like to say thank you for clicking and reading this! It means a lot to me! The name I am going to use for the girl is Anne. Note this is not her real name! Warning may be long!

First of all, I hate when I have crushes or like someone because I know it will not work out. Therefore I crush the crush or I at least try to. Anyways, I started liking Anne around November. We were friends before this and texting buddies since September. When I noticed I started like AnneI went to my old self and wanted to crush this crush, because I know it isn't going to go further. I confess my feelings to Anne in person in December. Anne's answer was like that she wasn't really looking for a relationship and had to know the guy for like two years. I was happy at this point because I could actually crush this crush. Couple of weeks later we still talk like normal but I still have feelings for her. I tell her about it and ask is it possible that you could like me in the future. She said yes. Now the reason why I asked this because if she said no I could stop liking her more easily.
-------I eventually "stopped" liking her and I was happy. This is in late January. Starting in mid February I started to think about her a lot! I found myself always looking at her snap chats. My heart is always sinking while looking at them. Just yesterday I had a dream about Anne. I don't remember much about the dream but all I remember was us sharing a hotel room for some reason. Also that it was not sexual at all. Now, just thinking of her while typing this my heart is beating as fast as a horse at a derby. After typing this I do realize I like Anne. The problem is I know nothing will develop. I want to stop liking her and that's all I want. And why I want to stop liking her is simple, I don't want to be hurt. I've done everything to looking online on how to stop liking someone and it does not help! Someone, like help me please.

[tret123]

You are in love haha... Jk maybe... But just get to know her on a more personal level

[Nico11]

"Y u so apprehensive?"
Give it a chance to develop and if it is meant to be, it'll happen. :)

[Awakened Sin]

"Y u so apprehensive?"
Give it a chance to develop and if it is meant to be, it'll happen. :) No. I cannot do that. I dont like the feeling of being in love. Reasons why is a long story. I dont want it to develop because it fails Im back at phase one knowing it would not work. I'd rather not take the risk of letting it develop. I need tips to stop liking her. Maybe I should have stated that more clearly. I am sorry.

[Nico11]

No. I cannot do that. I dont like the feeling of being in love. Reasons why is a long story. I dont want it to develop because it fails Im back at phase one knowing it would not work. I'd rather not take the risk of letting it develop. I need tips to stop liking her. Maybe I should have stated that more clearly. I am sorry.
Dude you gotta let go. Texting buddies, as you mentioned means that you have her Whatsapp or Kik or whatever. Just stop opening those apps. Put them in app lock set a random password. If you find yourself looking at her Snapchats, well you do like to some extent, but trust me you'll eventually get over that too (been there, done that).

Maybe you can just stay friends and confess it. Either way, you gotta wait it out.

[fairmaiden]

Whatever you do, don't ignore Anne! She may just not be ready for a relationship, or she may not be as interested as you want her to be; but there's no reason why you can't be friends with her. Talk to her normally and whenever you feel like you want to be with her, try and block out those thoughts with music or whatever makes you happy.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hey guys! First of all I'd like to say thank you for clicking and reading this! It means a lot to me! The name I am going to use for the girl is Anne. Note this is not her real name! Warning may be long!

First of all, I hate when I have crushes or like someone because I know it will not work out. Therefore I crush the crush or I at least try to. Anyways, I started liking Anne around November. We were friends before this and texting buddies since September. When I noticed I started like AnneI went to my old self and wanted to crush this crush, because I know it isn't going to go further. I confess my feelings to Anne in person in December. Anne's answer was like that she wasn't really looking for a relationship and had to know the guy for like two years. I was happy at this point because I could actually crush this crush. Couple of weeks later we still talk like normal but I still have feelings for her. I tell her about it and ask is it possible that you could like me in the future. She said yes. Now the reason why I asked this because if she said no I could stop liking her more easily.
-------I eventually "stopped" liking her and I was happy. This is in late January. Starting in mid February I started to think about her a lot! I found myself always looking at her snap chats. My heart is always sinking while looking at them. Just yesterday I had a dream about Anne. I don't remember much about the dream but all I remember was us sharing a hotel room for some reason. Also that it was not sexual at all. Now, just thinking of her while typing this my heart is beating as fast as a horse at a derby. After typing this I do realize I like Anne. The problem is I know nothing will develop. I want to stop liking her and that's all I want. And why I want to stop liking her is simple, I don't want to be hurt. I've done everything to looking online on how to stop liking someone and it does not help! Someone, like help me please.



No. I cannot do that. I dont like the feeling of being in love. Reasons why is a long story. I dont want it to develop because it fails Im back at phase one knowing it would not work. I'd rather not take the risk of letting it develop. I need tips to stop liking her. Maybe I should have stated that more clearly. I am sorry.

I think your first post was clear - I don't think you can just suddenly stop liking a person so maybe the first step is to realise that and and the choice you have made. Remind yourself of that when you even think about her.

[Awakened Sin]

Dude you gotta let go. Texting buddies, as you mentioned means that you have her Whatsapp or Kik or whatever. Just stop opening those apps. Put them in app lock set a random password. If you find yourself looking at her Snapchats, well you do like to some extent, but trust me you'll eventually get over that too (been there, done that).

Maybe you can just stay friends and confess it. Either way, you gotta wait it out.
By texting buddies I actually mean texting buddies. I have her number haha.

I like the advice so far guys thanks keep it up.

[DoodleSnap]

Do not look at love as a situation of attrition and efficiency; that would be missing the point. My best advice is to try again, speak to her, get to know her, and allow your love to blossom. Bottling it up and attempting to suppress it is rarely good for anyone. Learn to love the feeling of being in love, and give it a chance. As long as you guys speak to each other and communicate well, nothing bad can happen. If it doesn't work out you'll still be on good terms and you won't have the same crush on her anymore. As far as I can see, the only way is forward with this one.