Boyfriend Getting Into Fights

[SmokyChica]

My boyfriend got into this big fight today with this other idiot in his class... He knows I have a big problem with fighting, given the household and family I come from, but he still did it because he said "it had to be done". He keep apologizing, but I kept crying when people told me and he's suspended now for five days... I really like him, but I am starting to have second thoughts. I don't know what to do about him doing this knowing I have a problem with it... What do I do?

[tret123]

If it wasn't self defense and he didn't provoke the fight I say give him another chance, but if he purposely got into the fight, give him one more chance... Fighting in school is so stupid, now he is suspended and missing his education and shit... That's unacceptable... But if it's for real don't let it go so easily... One more chance?

[JamesSuperBoy]

My boyfriend got into this big fight today with this other idiot in his class... He knows I have a big problem with fighting, given the household and family I come from, but he still did it because he said "it had to be done". He keep apologizing, but I kept crying when people told me and he's suspended now for five days... I really like him, but I am starting to have second thoughts. I don't know what to do about him doing this knowing I have a problem with it... What do I do?

Is it just this fight in school that is making you have second thoughts. Has it happened before.
Maybe you have to think this over and decide.

[Melodic]

People react to situations in different ways. His way is to use violence. If he is willing to change this for future situations, he will. However, you can't change his actions yourself. That is something he's going to have to do for himself.

[Straya]

you need to learn that sometimes theres no way to avoid a fight. i would prefer not to fight but i WILL defend my friends and family in an instant and i have done it in the past and i will do it again. obviously you have issues that you need to deal with and there shouldnt be a problem unless he is actively going out looking for fights

[DoodleSnap]

Your boyfriend may have been told before, but you need to speak to him. He can't read your mind, and so may not understand if you make any sudden moves. Communication is super important in any relationship, so speak to him, and allow him to understand how you feel. If you work together to find a solution to the problem instead of ignoring it, then you can maybe have a chance to stop it. Maybe look at anger management lessons, or something else, but just speak to the guy. Hope all goes well.

[SmokyChica]

I talked to my boyfriend. He's promised to help me get over my issues with fighting, and that he won't fight any more unless it is an absolutely necessary thing. We've talked about the fight, and he's looking out for me and telling the people who keep talking about it to back off. He's been really supportive about it and I'm glad I gave him another chance. Thank you everyone for the advice!

[JamesSuperBoy]

I talked to my boyfriend. He's promised to help me get over my issues with fighting, and that he won't fight any more unless it is an absolutely necessary thing. We've talked about the fight, and he's looking out for me and telling the people who keep talking about it to back off. He's been really supportive about it and I'm glad I gave him another chance. Thank you everyone for the advice!

Thats good not sure about him helping you get over the issues he should understand your opinions and how you feel. lets hope it all works out.

[matt_tgr]

The foghting-types are usually not the sharpest knives in the drawer. If I were you, i'd end it as quickly as possible. I just feel like those guys are just dumb af, if they can't solve their problems by using brain -.-

[tasminsmith]

you carn't fall out with him because he got into a fight

[SethfromMI]

why exactly did he get into the fight? sometimes, I can see where it can be justified depending on the situation. but break up with him over it? are you sure you are not just looking for any excuse you can find?

[CRH99]

when it comes down to it, in a relationship, you have to, at the very least accept the negative attributes of the other. if you feel like you cant, then you need to move on.

[gothy]

As long as he doesnt hurt you or tries to pick fights over you, I'd give him a chance. Because right now, hes just fucking up his life more than yours as he is missing school.

Though considering the emotional impact this had on you....
I guess I'd just go with what my gut tells me. And maybe think it through a bit.

Best wishes

[Nico11]

If he didn't provoke it, and some other idiot got him involved, give him another chance. While short temper can be an issue, it can also be overcome. You have to talk to him and make him understand your position and opinions about him fighting. Maybe he has some pent up aggression or the other guy did something that lit him up. Whatever the case may be, you don't wanna make hasty decisions and then regret.


Good Luck