My mother is ruining my life!

[JDarling]

I've grown up with my mother being MASSIVELY overprotective. I've never been to a friend's place on my own, I've never been on a sleepover and the only time I've been away from her was when she was hospitalized. One of my friends invited me on a sleepover, and I finally convinced her to let me go, but now she's changed her mind and said that I'm not allowed to go because "she doesn't want to be alone for the night". Both my father and brother will be there with her, so she's not going to be alone at all. I've had issues with friends before not wanting to hang out at all because they don't want her around/looking over our shoulder constantly. Any ideas on what I can do?

[amgb]

First of all, I'm sorry to hear that she had been hospitalised : (

I can definitely relate to a lot of this. A lot of parents are like yours, including mine, and a lot of the times they don't understand that their overprotectiveness (not sure if that's even a word) can overwhelm us and make us feel powerless to make our own decisions and choices. It's hard for parents not to worry about their kids, but that's not to say that they need to be totally controlling over everything. It's hard for them to let go and let their kids be independent people because they love their kids and they only want them to be safe and to be able to make the right decisions on their own. I understand it's very frustrating for you when you don't get the freedom that some other kids do and I know it's not fair and it's not a nice feeling. I think you need to tell your parents about this. Tell them they need to start letting go a bit and letting you live your social life. Having a social life can be a really positive thing and is in fact healthy when the social interactions come in moderation. So long as you have a good balance of everything in your life, that's healthy. I think you are old enough to be able to spend time with your friends without your parent's supervision. Talk to your Mum about it, let her know you understand her concerns but you also want to be trusted to do things on your own. I hated it and I can understand that you pretty much hate this too, but I hope it works out. And sorry if I wasn't able to help you very much..

[CuteGuy889]

She is better than my mom..Some moms do not get what privacy is and wont understand that their son is growing up....
Until I was 14 mine used to take my pants off when I fall asleep. She used to do this in outsider homes too..Imagine you fall asleep tiered after play, woken up to go home, and your pants are gone and you're in your briefs for all (incl girls) to see...super embarrassing.

Also at home if I fall asleep dressed she'd undress me.. and if she thinks my undie is dirty she takes that off too...leave the door half open...few of my girl cousins saw me.

If at home if she finds "skid marks" in my undies she'd take her liberty to take tissue & wipe my rear..ugh..
At 14 I had to cry and throw a tantrum to get these to stop.