First Time Friend Zoned?

[Ryuun]

So I am 19 and I have never been friend zoned but I have put people in the friend zone before, I now know how it feels haha.

As much as id like to just move on from this girl I simply can't, she means way to much to me, We had the best summer and new years together, She saved me from my stupid self I'm not going to get into details but I feel as if my life is now hers and will do anything she wants.

I know she has or had feelings for me at least, When i asked her out, she didn't say yes or no. She didn't know what to say so I just said think about it and get back to me. She said If I say no I just know that later on I'm going to ask you out anyway... not much more was said on that... and still no answer I think...
She has also said other things like "I'm the one"

Tonight I asked so how do you feel about me now? and she replied in her innocent hyper way "with you know your friend zoned right"

So now I'm not sure what I should do, I want to get a fake girlfriend because I know she gets jealous when girls get too close to me, Which i kind of like tbh. But i know thats wrong... well I think it is at least.... Or if I should keep going with how I am, Which feels like it's getting me no where any time soon.

any thoughts on what i should do?:metal:

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[JamesSuperBoy]

Could be when you asked her she wanted time to think it over but at least she is saying no now and I think you have to accept that. But maybe thing change and you can at least stay friends.

[Ryuun]

Could be when you asked her she wanted time to think it over but at least she is saying no now and I think you have to accept that. But maybe thing change and you can at least stay friends.

Yeah but even if we stay as friends im still going to be in love with her... I have dated girls before and I don't ever remember my heart feeling this way about anyone else....

The worst part is I don't want to wait it's killing me and I don't know why!
I know waiting for her is the right thing to do but im struggling to do so. I just want to make her mine already

[Hyper]

I'm not entirely sure if what I'm about to tell you is bullshit or not because I've never been in the ''friend zone'' and don't understand what the big deal is, if I meet someone I find attractive and discover that their interesting in other ways as well I just ask them out right away that way there's no chance of either of us wasting time (I don't mean it that pragmatically but basically that's what it is)

So having said that I think you should just go on with your life... Don't get a gf just to make her jealous that would be an asshole thing to do to whoever ends up being basically used by you, unless you have someone so willing to just pretend knowingly it's pretend...

And I'd keep reminding her that you like her as more than a friend, obviously don't do it every day and maybe back off for awhile if you just can't ''keep it cool'' when you are together but yeah

There is little you can do to make a person just suddenly like you in that way after you've known each other for awhile if she led you on before maybe she just has some internal conflict about going into a relationship so giving her some time could just resolve things on its own.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Yeah but even if we stay as friends im still going to be in love with her... I have dated girls before and I don't ever remember my heart feeling this way about anyone else....

The worst part is I don't want to wait it's killing me and I don't know why!
I know waiting for her is the right thing to do but im struggling to do so. I just want to make her mine already

I can understand how you feel but if you think there is still a chance then do not throw it by rushing. You can never know maybe she does not feel ready to commit.

[Abhorrence]

I've been friendzoned like twice. The first time I eventually broke through and dated the girl for over a year. She's my only real love I guess, she was perfect and the only reason it ended was because I wanted to become really popular in school and yeah it's a long story and it was years ago anyways.

The second time, I was kind of in love but kind of not. I definitely felt in love but now looking back I'm not sure it was. Anyways this girl would lead me on so much and then say no we're just friends. Then eventually I got tired of it and just outright said what I felt. She said that it would ruin our friendship if we dated. I understood and went about my life but seeing her everyday as a friend was annoying so I kind of drifted away for a while until my feelings disappeared - which they did. Fun story though, last year I kind of got back at her accidentally. When we were drunk we ended up making out and she ended up wanting to be with me but I ended up dating my best guy friend instead haha. She told me a few months later that she was so jealous and hurt. I kind of thought it was ironic really.

[Ryuun]

I'm not entirely sure if what I'm about to tell you is bullshit or not because I've never been in the ''friend zone'' and don't understand what the big deal is, if I meet someone I find attractive and discover that their interesting in other ways as well I just ask them out right away that way there's no chance of either of us wasting time (I don't mean it that pragmatically but basically that's what it is)

So having said that I think you should just go on with your life... Don't get a gf just to make her jealous that would be an asshole thing to do to whoever ends up being basically used by you, unless you have someone so willing to just pretend knowingly it's pretend...

And I'd keep reminding her that you like her as more than a friend, obviously don't do it every day and maybe back off for awhile if you just can't ''keep it cool'' when you are together but yeah

There is little you can do to make a person just suddenly like you in that way after you've known each other for awhile if she led you on before maybe she just has some internal conflict about going into a relationship so giving her some time could just resolve things on its own.

Yeah I thought it might of been an asshole thing to do. So I will just give her some time nothing more i can really do. Thanks

I've been friendzoned like twice. The first time I eventually broke through and dated the girl for over a year. She's my only real love I guess, she was perfect and the only reason it ended was because I wanted to become really popular in school and yeah it's a long story and it was years ago anyways.

The second time, I was kind of in love but kind of not. I definitely felt in love but now looking back I'm not sure it was. Anyways this girl would lead me on so much and then say no we're just friends. Then eventually I got tired of it and just outright said what I felt. She said that it would ruin our friendship if we dated. I understood and went about my life but seeing her everyday as a friend was annoying so I kind of drifted away for a while until my feelings disappeared - which they did. Fun story though, last year I kind of got back at her accidentally. When we were drunk we ended up making out and she ended up wanting to be with me but I ended up dating my best guy friend instead haha. She told me a few months later that she was so jealous and hurt. I kind of thought it was ironic really.


That is quite ironic haha but thank you i think ill just give her some space and see what happens