When is the optimal time to ask a girl out?

[Thatoneguy1314]

I have talked to her a couple times over the past 2 weeks. Nothing special, just a handful of short chats. I was wondering, would it be a good time to ask her out now? Or should I wait until I have had a real conversation with her? I have no experience with asking girls out, and I do not want to mess it up by asking too early, but I also don't want to wait too long and be stuck in the "friend zone".
There was a dance on last night, and while I didn't ask her to dance (complicated story, wasn't because I chickened out), but I did stay after and help clean up, where I talked with her and helped her with moving some things. I almost asked her then, but I thought it might be too early. But its not like she doesn't know who I am, but its also not like she has known me for months and we've chatted a lot either.... I just don't want to mess this up I have been hung up on this girl since the end of September and I finally worked up the courage to talk to her about 2 weeks ago. Also real quick, optimal first date ideas? I have been hearing a lot recently that movies are not good first dates if you don't know each other too well, and we really don't know each other that well... Was thinking either dinner at a nice restaurant, or neon bowling (that's pretty much it in my little town, other than a movie) Sorry for rambling along... Thanks for reading and responding!

[Gumleaf]

If feeling like it's too early is your only concern, I think you've known her long enough and talked to her enough to ask her out. I would go for it. If you've liked her for near 6 months, I think it's time to take the plunge. If you get a positive result, then great. If not you can start moving on rather than wondering for another few months about when a good time would be. Good luck.

[Thatoneguy1314]

Ok then I guess I'll go about it tomorrow at school... Thanks for the responses!

[JamesSuperBoy]

Good luck and have a back up plan if she says no. You cannot know what she may have already organized I think suggesting a few times when you are free is good.

[Thatoneguy1314]

Ok maybe not today, maybe tomorrow....

[Hyper]

Right time is when it feels right. Yeah ambigious I know... But waiting too long is never a good thing really so just ask her out when you are both feeling comfortable.

[Stephanie 15]

Just ask her! If you have already what did she say?

[Thatoneguy1314]

Ok a quick update, at school today I struck up a quick short conversation with her in between classes. I eventually asked her if she had anything she was looking forward to this weekend. She said, and I quote, "just on Saturday I'm going skiing with some friends". I feel like this was basically her saying I'm free Friday night and she wanted me to ask her.... But I still didn't. I'm going to try again I guess in a little bit.

[tret123]

Just ask her... She'll appreciate how you aren't scared

[Thatoneguy1314]

Anyone have a way to get calm? I swear, I was shaking for an hour before I talked to her, and about a half hour still after. I tried everything I could think of, getting up and walking around, deep breaths etc etc but I just couldn't calm down. I know this is pretty dumb and pathetic whatever but I can't help it.

[Pat the Bunny]

(Don't blindly believe the stuff I say, as I'm not experienced with this. All info comes from friends, other sources, and assumptions)

It's always easiest to ask at an event, like the dance. Is there another event where you will both be coming up. If so ask her then, but don't go waiting for months just for an event to happen.

As for calming down/looking confident, that's something you'll just have to learn to fake.

[onewingedangel666]

Anyone have a way to get calm? I swear, I was shaking for an hour before I talked to her, and about a half hour still after. I tried everything I could think of, getting up and walking around, deep breaths etc etc but I just couldn't calm down. I know this is pretty dumb and pathetic whatever but I can't help it.

This isn't pathetic or anything, i get the exact same way. My face gets red and hot and it rarely calms down until i'm away from the girl.

[Nico11]

Anyone have a way to get calm? I swear, I was shaking for an hour before I talked to her, and about a half hour still after. I tried everything I could think of, getting up and walking around, deep breaths etc etc but I just couldn't calm down. I know this is pretty dumb and pathetic whatever but I can't help it.

i don't have much to say, but if you don't say it soon, you're gonna be stuck in the frienzone and then you're gonna regret it. Trust me, never, i repeat never leave a chance like you have now. I'm 85% sure she'll agree for a friday night dinner.

[Thatoneguy1314]

Update, I asked her out and she had a reason not to on Friday and Saturday night.... Not sure what to do now I want to still pursue but i don't know how to from now on... I need to somehow get her number tomorrow as spring break starts on Friday and I won't be seeing her anytime after class tomorrow. Any ways to get it without it being awkward? By the way, I haven spoken to her since Friday when I asked her... Plus it's time to start asking to prom, and I know she's not going (yet). But I think I'm so far off of that... I can't waste a whole week next week (spring break) so I somehow need to get her number tomorrow any ideas?

[mopper]

You could message her on social media and just casually say (in a private message) "Hey, since you weren't available last weekend, could I get your number so we can set something up?"