View Full Version : When will it get better?
Celtics
February 22nd, 2015, 10:26 PM
So school is hell for me, I don't get bullied but I don't have friends. my old "friends" have done that behind my back to make sure of that. I haven't been to one high school party yet (Junior) I don't even bother going to lunch so I just go do random stuff until lunch is over. Everyone is two faced in this school, or think they're better than you. I just wonder when will all this shit ever end. I haven't been happy for years, and sunday nights are the worse part about it, getting away from it for two days to go back into it for 5 and its worse every week. (I summarized everything up)
RandAnonPers
February 22nd, 2015, 11:08 PM
Ahh, high school dramas. They never seem to end until you leave(which is true) First off, if your"friends" made you feel bad, then you shouldn't even dare to call them "friends" or even "ex-friends" for that matter.
secondly, High school will get better only if you try to. Just be yourself, rather than some random wanna be you. People should like you for you.
Third, try to find friends with similar interests. I personally like working with technology, so I have found a really nice group of friends in the school's robotics club. In previous years, i had enjoyed art, and i met dozens of friends in Art Club.
Finally, in reguards to friends, it doesn't matter the quantity of friends you have, but instead, you should value the quality of your friends. 1 really good friend is better than 30 people you will never speak to again after high school.
You will make it :D
Hyper
February 23rd, 2015, 11:55 PM
I know you're feeling bad and I know that how we feel and what makes us feel these things is purely individual
But to me it seems like your entire concept of happiness is based around other people. If it's like that you can never be happy.
Personally my life got a lot better once I was done with school... And it got even better once I started dealing with my own ''issues'' that I'd gotten from years of well short summary: bullshit.
It shouldn't matter how many friends you have as long as you are happy with the kind of person you are... All of these ''I'm not going to any parties'' or ''I don't have a gf/bf'' ''I'm not popular'' etc... Things are self-sabotage self imposed criticism that is born from the perspective of others in your mind. When you really stop and think about it ask yourself what is so bad about whatever you are feeling down about... It can be hard to truthfully answers these questions but once you can honestly admit what is bothering you about yourself and/or your life you can start dealing with it.
Maybe I can say that because I've never been one to feel a huge need for social belonging but I truly believe you should only value meaningful relationships in life at every age and environment.
School is a very temporary thing especially high school + you can always find friends or just ''acquintances'' through your hobbies/family. I know when you are in the present nothing feels temporary or trivial but you've got to realise that your life hasn't really even begun yet that isn't to marginalize what you're feeling or what's going on in general with your life it's just to tell you that you always have a future ahead of you that can be entirely different.
amgb
February 24th, 2015, 03:55 AM
Not having friends at school is a really lonely feeling. I'm glad you moved on from your old 'friends' who did things behind your back, they shouldn't have done that and I hope they don't do it again. Yeah, stay away from two-faced people. It's hard to try and be happy when you're feeling alone, I understand, and it would also be hard to have confidence in yourself to try and make new friends. Friends are most of the time the people who can keep us going when we're feeling low, and make us feel incredibly happy and worthy. I believe you will be able to find the right people who will respect and accept you. It's not easy to approach new people, but if you want new and strong, trustworthy friendships with others then I think you need to take that first step. Not an easy step, but I believe you can do it. Choose someone who you believe is a good person, introduce yourself. There are decent people out there. I also think you should talk to someone about your feelings, a teacher or a family member perhaps? I don't want you feeling completely alone. I hope you have at least one person who can support you in this~~
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