Friend Cuts

[ValentinClarke]

A friend recently told me that they cut, and I was fine with it. I told them that it's okay, and I told them where not to cut, so that they stay alive. They told me that they feel relaxed when they do it (with a steak knife by the way). They had trouble telling their mother, who started shouting at them. What do I do? I don't want to tell them to stop, because that won't work. But, I've been thinking about doing it, but I don't know where and how, so I haven't. But everytime they tell me that they have just done it, I feel weird, not shocked, Just accepting. Its weird.

[amgb]

I'm sorry to hear that your friend cuts..I do not think it's weird that you feel this way when he/she talks to you about it. I felt that way when one of my friends came out to me about it, so you aren't alone there. I understand SH is a terrible thing that we feel like we shouldn't but we need to do and it's not easy to stop, and I get how you don't think telling your friend to stop will work. Continuously telling someone to stop doesn't always work, for some people it does but for many it doesn't, everyone's different. I also see why he/she might have found it really difficult to tell his/her mother. Telling something like this to a parent is never easy, especially considering the fact of how different families hold different values and cultural beliefs which usually influence the way they'll react. I hope your friend has been okay, and I hope you've been okay too..I know you're thinking about doing it too and I know that even if I tell you not to I can't stop you, but at any time you feel like doing it I really want you to try and distract yourself first. Surround yourself with people and items, or do an activity. Rip up paper, draw on yourself, snap an elastic band around the area, hold ice. It's easier said than done but I want and prefer you to do the safer things. If you need to talk to someone to distract yourself, that's okay. If you need to talk to someone I'll be here to listen and I'll make sure I help you as much as I can~~

[JamesSuperBoy]

A friend recently told me that they cut, and I was fine with it. I told them that it's okay, and I told them where not to cut, so that they stay alive. They told me that they feel relaxed when they do it (with a steak knife by the way). They had trouble telling their mother, who started shouting at them. What do I do? I don't want to tell them to stop, because that won't work. But, I've been thinking about doing it, but I don't know where and how, so I haven't. But everytime they tell me that they have just done it, I feel weird, not shocked, Just accepting. Its weird.

I think with these things we can only react due the friendship and how we personally feel about any situation. So do not blame yourself for that. That is the same for thier Mother. It may not be even possible for you to help your friend apart from staying friends. Its okay to feel weird about things but you have been able to post here and that is good.

[ValentinClarke]

I'm sorry to hear that your friend cuts..I do not think it's weird that you feel this way when he/she talks to you about it. I felt that way when one of my friends came out to me about it, so you aren't alone there. I understand SH is a terrible thing that we feel like we shouldn't but we need to do and it's not easy to stop, and I get how you don't think telling your friend to stop will work. Continuously telling someone to stop doesn't always work, for some people it does but for many it doesn't, everyone's different. I also see why he/she might have found it really difficult to tell his/her mother. Telling something like this to a parent is never easy, especially considering the fact of how different families hold different values and cultural beliefs which usually influence the way they'll react. I hope your friend has been okay, and I hope you've been okay too..I know you're thinking about doing it too and I know that even if I tell you not to I can't stop you, but at any time you feel like doing it I really want you to try and distract yourself first. Surround yourself with people and items, or do an activity. Rip up paper, draw on yourself, snap an elastic band around the area, hold ice. It's easier said than done but I want and prefer you to do the safer things. If you need to talk to someone to distract yourself, that's okay. If you need to talk to someone I'll be here to listen and I'll make sure I help you as much as I can~~

Thank you so much for the advice for both me and my friend. Thank you for caring as well!







Also thank you to anyone who posts in this thread, I appreciate it.