Letting Girls Down Easy

[Jackrabbit7]

How do I tell a girl that like me its just not going to happen, but in a nice, indirect way? Like I want to stay friends but not go to the next level. She's so nice and I feel bad for her that I don't feel the same way. And telling her that would crush her. Its not like im leading her on, Im just a good friend, and she thought that ment more.

[dirtyboxer55]

next time she says hi just say 'bye' then never talk to her again. has never failed me.

[Thaliacea]

You can't be friends if she has feeling for you...

[JamesSuperBoy]

How do I tell a girl that like me its just not going to happen, but in a nice, indirect way? Like I want to stay friends but not go to the next level. She's so nice and I feel bad for her that I don't feel the same way. And telling her that would crush her. Its not like im leading her on, Im just a good friend, and she thought that ment more.

This is one of the hardest to answer its all about you and her - what has gone on in terms of a relationship dates etc. If nothing and its a case of her thinking and hopeing crush then an indirect way is maybe not the answer,

You just have to say and make sure she knows you want to stay friends she can decide the rest

oh timing can you get some support in this maybe one of her friends or family - I mean if she is upset or you etc it just takes the heat out of it, you know shoulder to cry on a hug etc.

[Melodic]

You're leading her on just by not telling her how you feel. As a friend, you should sit down with her and be honest. Tell her you don't feel the same but you don't want to lose your friendship. This won't be easy and she'll probably blow you off for a while. But just remember, it will hurt less for her if you tell her now then if she realizes herself later.

[maser196]

This sounds like a similiar situation im in but except im in her postion. If she is like me she will be heart broken and will wonder what she did to not be good enough. I just had the best day of my life with girl for her to tell me she didnt want to risk our friendship for a relationship. It devastated me and i still dont sleep more than 4-5 hours without waking up shaking.

[ImCoolBeans]

next time she says hi just say 'bye' then never talk to her again. has never failed me.

That is terrible advice.

Instead of treating her poorly like dirtyboxer55 is suggesting, just be honest with her, but remember that she is a person and has feelings. Don't be rude, but be truthful. She will appreciate honesty a lot more than playing games.

[Emerald Dream]

But just remember, it will hurt less for her if you tell her now then if she realizes herself later.

This is a pretty important, and accurate statement. I've always wanted other people to be upfront with me in their intentions or feelings towards a relationship (or not wanting one), friendship, or anything else. I know it may be difficult to have that conversation, but trust me - like Madie has said...it's better to know and be hurt upfront than to be devastated later and have your time and feelings pretty much wasted. Not saying anything at all is not going to make it go away.

[WengMan3397]

Be direct but considerate. Don't criticize or attack her. Be kind but leave no room for misunderstanding.

[Jackrabbit7]

You're leading her on just by not telling her how you feel. As a friend, you should sit down with her and be honest. Tell her you don't feel the same but you don't want to lose your friendship. This won't be easy and she'll probably blow you off for a while. But just remember, it will hurt less for her if you tell her now then if she realizes herself later.

You're right, I figured Id have to do this ~ ugh its just so messy
Thanks everyone for the advice