Need advice

[maser196]

I have been talking to this girl for the last 14 months. I have had a crush on her the entire time and just found out she feels the same way. We had our first date yesterday and we kissed, made out, cuddled, and did other things. We both have admitted we love the other and want to be together. Shortly after dropping her off i recieved a text from her saying that she wanted to just be friends because she doesnt wanna risk the friendship due to a gut feeling that we wouldnt last long. Her past relationships have given this because they always ended up with her hurt and her losing the people because i have been there for most of the breakups. I have spent the last day trying to convince her that im not like that and that she needs to take the risk but she does not believ me.I am madly in love with her and have been for half a year now. I know she had a good time yesterday but she just doesnt want to risk the chance of me and her breaking up with the nasty breakups she has always had. Especially because she says im the cloest guy friend she has ever had and that she cannot lose meShe has always talked about wanting flowers from a guy because she has never recieved them and i planned to do that tomorrow, do i just drop them off or knock because i wouldnt know what to say? Do i give her what she wants and wait for another chance or do i keep trying? Any advice would be great because i cannot sleep at night and i cannot stop having break downs.

[CreativeUsername]

That's a tough situation. I think you just need to try and talk to her. But you need to make sure that if you break up you still want to be friends with her.

[Melodic]

I was in a similar situation before. The best you can do is be a good friend for her. If she isn't ready, she isn't ready.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I have been talking to this girl for the last 14 months. I have had a crush on her the entire time and just found out she feels the same way. We had our first date yesterday and we kissed, made out, cuddled, and did other things. We both have admitted we love the other and want to be together. Shortly after dropping her off i recieved a text from her saying that she wanted to just be friends because she doesnt wanna risk the friendship due to a gut feeling that we wouldnt last long. Her past relationships have given this because they always ended up with her hurt and her losing the people because i have been there for most of the breakups. I have spent the last day trying to convince her that im not like that and that she needs to take the risk but she does not believ me.I am madly in love with her and have been for half a year now. I know she had a good time yesterday but she just doesnt want to risk the chance of me and her breaking up with the nasty breakups she has always had. Especially because she says im the cloest guy friend she has ever had and that she cannot lose meShe has always talked about wanting flowers from a guy because she has never recieved them and i planned to do that tomorrow, do i just drop them off or knock because i wouldnt know what to say? Do i give her what she wants and wait for another chance or do i keep trying? Any advice would be great because i cannot sleep at night and i cannot stop having break downs.

Maybe she just does not feel ready for any relationship atm - but thats no reflection on you.

[bskaoalncnfjd]

That's though, just try to make her feel safe and good with you. ^^

[maser196]

I am worried that ill never get the chance of being with her and that she will just move on to another guy and make me her best friend to help her with her issues. she has a lot of family issues that i discovered more of at movies because she started crying and i had to help make her happy. I know if i was dating her that more of those issues could be prevented and that she would be happy but she refuses to believe me. She keeps telling me she would rather deal with heartbreaks than have a chance to date me and risk ours to cause us to stop talking but i wouldnt allow that and she wont believe me. She always says she cant risk our relationship endin the way her others have ended. I dont want to keep bugging her about it but i will be broken once she moves on to the next guy and i have to wait for them to break up just to be able to help her again and pick up the pieces of her life to put back together.

[maser196]

I was in a similar situation before. The best you can do is be a good friend for her. If she isn't ready, she isn't ready.

How do i escape out of the friendzone and prove im not like the others. She will just move on and get her heart broken again and again which causes me to be the protective and close best friend picking her back up for the next guy. This girl is the absolute love of my life for the past year.

[tasminsmith]

I have been talking to this girl for the last 14 months. I have had a crush on her the entire time and just found out she feels the same way. We had our first date yesterday and we kissed, made out, cuddled, and did other things. We both have admitted we love the other and want to be together. Shortly after dropping her off i recieved a text from her saying that she wanted to just be friends because she doesnt wanna risk the friendship due to a gut feeling that we wouldnt last long. Her past relationships have given this because they always ended up with her hurt and her losing the people because i have been there for most of the breakups. I have spent the last day trying to convince her that im not like that and that she needs to take the risk but she does not believ me.I am madly in love with her and have been for half a year now. I know she had a good time yesterday but she just doesnt want to risk the chance of me and her breaking up with the nasty breakups she has always had. Especially because she says im the cloest guy friend she has ever had and that she cannot lose meShe has always talked about wanting flowers from a guy because she has never recieved them and i planned to do that tomorrow, do i just drop them off or knock because i wouldnt know what to say? Do i give her what she wants and wait for another chance or do i keep trying? Any advice would be great because i cannot sleep at night and i cannot stop having break downs.

if I was her I would find it sweet with the flowers like buy loadddsss but don't make her feel forced into anything

[commikid]

Hmm this is an interesting one, I personally would have a proper talk to her about everything when you are both together in person and in a good mood :) you don't have to jump straight into a full on relationship with her,, why not just suggest like an open relationship to start with and so she won't feel trapped into anything and then as time progresses if you are both faithful and happy at how things are going then you can close that door to make it more official? :)

[maser196]

Hmm this is an interesting one, I personally would have a proper talk to her about everything when you are both together in person and in a good mood :) you don't have to jump straight into a full on relationship with her,, why not just suggest like an open relationship to start with and so she won't feel trapped into anything and then as time progresses if you are both faithful and happy at how things are going then you can close that door to make it more official? :)

We talked and things then got bad. We argued and i kept bringing up about givin me a chance which got her upset and mad at me. Then her friend was texting me off a weird number and i threatened to call cops on it just for them to admit it was them and they both became pissed off. Ciera who is the girl im madly in love with has never been this mad at me and has never swore this much at me. I really blew it this time because now she doesnt want to talk to me at all. Her friend says i screwed up because Ciera never felt love with me and that i never asked ciera her opinion on her and me and that i never asked if she was upset which is everything i usually do. I tried to change stuff and instead i made it 100x worse by trying to think of me for once and not for her. Now i have to pay the extreme price of losing both of them until they can deal with ever talking to me again and will give me a chance if it ever happens. the friendships wont ever be close to the same anymore. We fought a week ago also but no fight has ever been like this one. I feel like a complete ***hole right now and cant believe myself.

[commikid]

We talked and things then got bad. We argued and i kept bringing up about givin me a chance which got her upset and mad at me. Then her friend was texting me off a weird number and i threatened to call cops on it just for them to admit it was them and they both became pissed off. Ciera who is the girl im madly in love with has never been this mad at me and has never swore this much at me. I really blew it this time because now she doesnt want to talk to me at all. Her friend says i screwed up because Ciera never felt love with me and that i never asked ciera her opinion on her and me and that i never asked if she was upset which is everything i usually do. I tried to change stuff and instead i made it 100x worse by trying to think of me for once and not for her. Now i have to pay the extreme price of losing both of them until they can deal with ever talking to me again and will give me a chance if it ever happens. the friendships wont ever be close to the same anymore. We fought a week ago also but no fight has ever been like this one. I feel like a complete ***hole right now and cant believe myself.

Least you know where you stand man,, she will get over it eventually because everyone gets over things eventually that's all part of life but it sounds to me that she is not up for a relationship of any sort with you at this moment in time so I'd just give her some space,, if she knows your intentions as she now does than she may come to think about things and change her verdict in the future buddy :) keep your chin up..

[maser196]

Least you know where you stand man,, she will get over it eventually because everyone gets over things eventually that's all part of life but it sounds to me that she is not up for a relationship of any sort with you at this moment in time so I'd just give her some space,, if she knows your intentions as she now does than she may come to think about things and change her verdict in the future buddy :) keep your chin up..

This girl is amazin. she may get hurt easily and may be stubborn but shes so damn amazing when she does it. Its been so damn long of her and me talkin and i just wanted 1 damn chance to show her we could do something more than be just friends. I shouldnt have listened to other people for advice about trying to get her to go past just best friends because i think i blew all future chances with her by not bein the person she fell for.

[commikid]

This girl is amazin. she may get hurt easily and may be stubborn but shes so damn amazing when she does it. Its been so damn long of her and me talkin and i just wanted 1 damn chance to show her we could do something more than be just friends. I shouldnt have listened to other people for advice about trying to get her to go past just best friends because i think i blew all future chances with her by not bein the person she fell for.

I know what your saying man and I symphasise with you because I've just come out of a relationship with a girl that cheated on me and she meant the world to me just like this girl does to you man but honestly man the only thing you can do is give things time and don't do anything silly.