Am I normal?

[amanda99d]

Sorry if this is too sexual but I only just lost my virginity 2 weeks ago to my bf and we have only had sex 3 times. And before that I could only get in 2 fingers. But yesterday we said we would experiment, so he started fingerng me and suddenly he had 4 fingers in me. I was surprised because it didnt hurt at all, and then he put his thumb in too so he used all his fingers, but then I stopped him because I didnt even think you could do that. He told me it was normal and that he had seen it before but when we had sex after, I dont think I was as tight as before.


I dont know if this is normal for my age? I cant ask my friends or anyone because im embarrased and we dont talk about that yet.

[Sardintroll]

Pretty much so! The more you get in there, the more wide you become, so...yeah.

[Isabella_]

Google 'fisting' I guess
But yeah no hymen stopping him/you now and you are obviously more into sexual things so it's not as scary so you relax
Don't forget we can squeeze a baby out of there from 12 or sooner I guess

[saxmatic16]

Well the vagina can stretch beyond our comprehension for example child birth. So yea you can fit a lot in there but there are certain exercises you can do to "tighten" yourself up again just look up kegel exercises

[Abbeys]

I can imagine in five years time when your having sex,guys will be saying.

I can't feel the sides!!!!!


:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

[Isabella_]

I can imagine in five years time when your having sex,guys will be saying.

I can't feel the sides!!!!!


:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

"Oh baby, I feel like I'm throwing a wiener down the corridor!"

[Lisa16]

Yes, it's normal cos you get used to it and you become wet too, what helps. You can practice kegel exercises to tighten your vagina.

[Abbeys]

Yes, it's normal cos you get used to it and you become wet too, what helps. You can practice kegel exercises to tighten your vagina.

I overheard my mum talking to one of her friends about this.

My mum's friend had pushed out three babies already and another one on the way and she said her husband was complaining he couldn't feel anything.

She went to the doc who suggested kegels.

She done the kegels for a while,tried squeezing/gripping her husband and he said it felt like sandpaper!!!

She did say she was a bit dry so that didn't help.

So the bottom line is.

Don't get it too big too quick!!!

:D:D:D:D:D:D

[Stephanie 15]

Omg sandpaper? I'm still a virgin but that sounds alittle scary.

[Abbeys]

Omg sandpaper? I'm still a virgin but that sounds alittle scary.

I'm sure you'l be fine.

My mum's friend,let him go in a little before she normally would,she was a bit dry,she knew she would be uncomfortable but she wanted him to feel good.

[amanda99d]

Google 'fisting' I guess
But yeah no hymen stopping him/you now and you are obviously more into sexual things so it's not as scary so you relax
Don't forget we can squeeze a baby out of there from 12 or sooner I guess

I googled that and is it a normal thing??? Like do people do it? Cause we almost did it

[Rania]

I googled that and is it a normal thing??? Like do people do it? Cause we almost did it

It may be normal but it's dangerous, the vagina is so sensible. So, getting his fingers there is not just too dirty and nude for a 16 yo girl, but you can easily get an infection .

[Elena_]

Sorry if this is too sexual but I only just lost my virginity 2 weeks ago to my bf and we have only had sex 3 times. And before that I could only get in 2 fingers. But yesterday we said we would experiment, so he started fingerng me and suddenly he had 4 fingers in me. I was surprised because it didnt hurt at all, and then he put his thumb in too so he used all his fingers, but then I stopped him because I didnt even think you could do that. He told me it was normal and that he had seen it before but when we had sex after, I dont think I was as tight as before.


I dont know if this is normal for my age? I cant ask my friends or anyone because im embarrased and we dont talk about that yet.

Woow , how lucky !! lol
I can only fit 2 fingers down there

[Daniella98]

I know you agreed on experimenting. But the fact that your boyfriend tries to fist you, no warning, already the third time you have sex is a bit extreme. I think he should cool down and you should talk about your ideas before one of you leaps into something wild and the partner is left in shock.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

The replies are good information and all I can add just be careful and don't go to far to soon, better safe than sorry, and you and your boyfriend should not try to copy what you see in Porn films.
Just don't over do things.

[LucieP]

Ill second what everyone is saying, dont take things so fast and DONT try to copy porn. Porn isnt 'real' sex. Like everything you see on the media it's entertainment, not to be taken seriously.

Our vaginas are very flexible and can do amazing things including delivering a baby, but there's no reason to inflict that sort of crazy stuff on them.

[kailynr]

I know this thread got necro'ed slightly, but the topics are important. Thanks to the mods for allowing continued posts.

Agree so much with Lucie and Angie about not trying to copy actions performed in porn, particularly the professional stuff. Remember that those people are actors and actresses and there's probably all kinds of "magic" that goes on behind the scenes. Also agree with Daniella about the boyfriend being perhaps a little aggressive here -- yes, you may have agreed to experiment, but with experimentation, every step of the way should be communicated clearly. The goal is to have safe exploration, not to cause problems. Even if you talk about it one day, and agree to do it the next, make sure you're still both on the same page when the moment comes around.

The vagina is a tremendously flexible space. Just the changes it undergoes from the relaxed state to the ready-for-intercourse state are incredible. It is NOT out of the ordinary to be able to put three or more fingers inside, even early on. The elasticity is very dependent on your genetics and even more, it depends on how relaxed you are sexually during the time that you're "exploring." Having his fingers (and fist!) in there, and then going to intercourse directly afterward, it's very natural for him to not feel the vaginal walls as tightly around him -- the "snap back" is not instantaneous, even when we're young.

Never, *ever* force anything into yourself. You can damage the muscles and you can end up with little tiny nicks inside that can lead to infection. However, if you're relaxed and comfortable with the "full" feeling, there's not a thing wrong with enjoying it. All of us have a little different sexual wiring.

To keep the PC (pubococcygeous, for the technical among us LOL) muscles tight, Breana and Abbey have mentioned Kegel exercises. I'll throw my two cents in on that topic and say I practice those regularly, and the benefits are great and not limited to just vaginal toning. They strengthen your bladder muscles too, and that's a good thing in itself, because those muscles can be weakened quite a bit, particularly after childbirth or repeated vigorous intercourse. There is also some evidence that strong PC muscles can lead to stronger orgasms.

Anyway, sorry for the long post. Key points are to a.) be safe, b.) be safe, c.) be safe, d.) be gentle, e.) be considerate of each other's feelings, and f.) don't feel overly unusual in the flexibility you have. :)

[Abbeys]

I know this thread got necro'ed slightly, but the topics are important. Thanks to the mods for allowing continued posts.

Agree so much with Lucie and Angie about not trying to copy actions performed in porn, particularly the professional stuff. Remember that those people are actors and actresses and there's probably all kinds of "magic" that goes on behind the scenes. Also agree with Daniella about the boyfriend being perhaps a little aggressive here -- yes, you may have agreed to experiment, but with experimentation, every step of the way should be communicated clearly. The goal is to have safe exploration, not to cause problems. Even if you talk about it one day, and agree to do it the next, make sure you're still both on the same page when the moment comes around.

The vagina is a tremendously flexible space. Just the changes it undergoes from the relaxed state to the ready-for-intercourse state are incredible. It is NOT out of the ordinary to be able to put three or more fingers inside, even early on. The elasticity is very dependent on your genetics and even more, it depends on how relaxed you are sexually during the time that you're "exploring." Having his fingers (and fist!) in there, and then going to intercourse directly afterward, it's very natural for him to not feel the vaginal walls as tightly around him -- the "snap back" is not instantaneous, even when we're young.

Never, *ever* force anything into yourself. You can damage the muscles and you can end up with little tiny nicks inside that can lead to infection. However, if you're relaxed and comfortable with the "full" feeling, there's not a thing wrong with enjoying it. All of us have a little different sexual wiring.

To keep the PC (pubococcygeous, for the technical among us LOL) muscles tight, Breana and Abbey have mentioned Kegel exercises. I'll throw my two cents in on that topic and say I practice those regularly, and the benefits are great and not limited to just vaginal toning. They strengthen your bladder muscles too, and that's a good thing in itself, because those muscles can be weakened quite a bit, particularly after childbirth or repeated vigorous intercourse. There is also some evidence that strong PC muscles can lead to stronger orgasms.

Anyway, sorry for the long post. Key points are to a.) be safe, b.) be safe, c.) be safe, d.) be gentle, e.) be considerate of each other's feelings, and f.) don't feel overly unusual in the flexibility you have. :)

Great post Kaily!

Abbey.

[THJKIGB]

It is perfectly normal. When I lost my virginity at the age of 14 to my boyfriend I was extremely tight. I also remember him when he would finger me back then that I would only allow him to use 1 finger most of the time because even when he inserted 2 in me it would hurt a little. I am very petite anyway, but after more than a year of having sex with him I am a lot looser. He can usually get 4 fingers inside of me now, but we have never tried his entire fist before.

[amanda99d]

I know this thread got necro'ed slightly, but the topics are important. Thanks to the mods for allowing continued posts.

Agree so much with Lucie and Angie about not trying to copy actions performed in porn, particularly the professional stuff. Remember that those people are actors and actresses and there's probably all kinds of "magic" that goes on behind the scenes. Also agree with Daniella about the boyfriend being perhaps a little aggressive here -- yes, you may have agreed to experiment, but with experimentation, every step of the way should be communicated clearly. The goal is to have safe exploration, not to cause problems. Even if you talk about it one day, and agree to do it the next, make sure you're still both on the same page when the moment comes around.

The vagina is a tremendously flexible space. Just the changes it undergoes from the relaxed state to the ready-for-intercourse state are incredible. It is NOT out of the ordinary to be able to put three or more fingers inside, even early on. The elasticity is very dependent on your genetics and even more, it depends on how relaxed you are sexually during the time that you're "exploring." Having his fingers (and fist!) in there, and then going to intercourse directly afterward, it's very natural for him to not feel the vaginal walls as tightly around him -- the "snap back" is not instantaneous, even when we're young.

Never, *ever* force anything into yourself. You can damage the muscles and you can end up with little tiny nicks inside that can lead to infection. However, if you're relaxed and comfortable with the "full" feeling, there's not a thing wrong with enjoying it. All of us have a little different sexual wiring.

To keep the PC (pubococcygeous, for the technical among us LOL) muscles tight, Breana and Abbey have mentioned Kegel exercises. I'll throw my two cents in on that topic and say I practice those regularly, and the benefits are great and not limited to just vaginal toning. They strengthen your bladder muscles too, and that's a good thing in itself, because those muscles can be weakened quite a bit, particularly after childbirth or repeated vigorous intercourse. There is also some evidence that strong PC muscles can lead to stronger orgasms.

Anyway, sorry for the long post. Key points are to a.) be safe, b.) be safe, c.) be safe, d.) be gentle, e.) be considerate of each other's feelings, and f.) don't feel overly unusual in the flexibility you have. :)

So do girls lie when they say theyre tight and can only fit 1 finger? :what:

[Legs]

I think you are totally normal. I lost my virginity to my Boyfriend on May 5th, 2015 and have only had sex 1 time. I have noticed since losing my virginity when I masturbate I can now get 2 even 3 fingers in my vagina. Before having sex I could only get 1 finger in my pussy when masturbating. I guess the more sex you do have the looser you get down there.

[kailynr]

Hi Amanda,

No, and I didn't mean to imply otherwise. Apologies if any are reading it that way. Everybody is different, and there are many things that can vary from girl to girl. The elasticity of the vagina, the amount of lubrication, the amount of willingness/ease/relaxation, the strength of the hymen, whether there *is* a hymen, whether it's been "broken" or not -- I could go on.

I'm not going to play gossip, but two friends of mine have, by their own admission, difficulty inserting anything more than the first two knuckles of an index finger, and another of mine can insert her whole hand. Like I said, it's individual.

Hope this clarifies my post. :)

[amanda99d]

Ok :)

[chloe999]

You sound very normal to me x don't worry about it x