Dealing with My Own Rejection

[Melodic]

So, I have an ex that most of you probably know of. He was the ex who chose a girl over me. This situation has continued for about 2 years. He leads me on usually by flirtatious comment (the last time we actually kissed and stuff), then suddenly a better girl comes along and he poofs until she breaks up with him.

I've recently tried building a friendship with him because he's actually a pretty decent friend, just a shitty guy for me to date. But once again.. he chose to cross boundaries.


Me: "I'm gonna take a nap"
Him: "Well too bad I can't come there to cuddle you and keep you warm :)"
Me: "I thought we were friends?"
Him: "Friends can't cuddle?"
Me: "No they can't"
Him: "Awe"
Me: "I'm gonna gonna go now.."
Him:"Ok bye :("


Since this happened, he's been blowing me off. I thought I stood my ground nicely. How do I handle this? I don't want to lose a friend but I feel I just did.

[Thaliacea]

I will you give you honest advice : Stay away from guys like him...

I mean , i know , when you create bond it is really hard to break it, no matter what. But , can you really be friends with him? I mean , from messages , yeah he wants to cuddle , but not like friends , that is obvious . And it is good that you stood your ground.

Now try to find someone new to chat , flirt or just do anything that will keep your mind off him.

I don't know your whole situation , this is very shallow advice , but i am not sure if you were together or maybe something like "open relationship" . Anyway , don't bother with him , and don't let those sad smilies get you :P Best of luck!

[Vermilion]

I would ask him what it is he wants with you a friendship or more. And if you haven't explain to him what you want do so. I know for pass experience I've miss interpreted my ex because it wasn't clear to me what she wanted. Boy's aren't that great at seeing what girl's want even when it's in front of them.

[CreativeUsername]

If he's a decent guy just talk to him. Ask him if he wants to be friends or more than friends. I'm in a similar situation myself. Sometimes the best thing to o is just talk, and like tom said, maybe there is some miss communication.

[Melodic]

Thanks everyone so far with the advice! :)