Relatinship with my bro

[Txfri1350]

So me and my bro used to be really close, now were not. He's 17 and im 15. What can I do so things aren't as awkward and were closer?

[Hideous]

Do y'all play sports? Ask him to hang out with you. Do you remember anything you both like to do? That'll help :)

[SethfromMI]

well what drove you apart in the first place? try to figure out and then from there try to correct the problem

[matt_tgr]

well what drove you apart in the first place? try to figure out and then from there try to correct the problem

Yeah, what Seth said. Try talking to him more, find mutual interests!

[amgb]

Why haven't you been close with your brother lately? Is there a specific reason?

Getting close to someone isn't always easy, especially if the other person's personality is fairly closed-off and introverted. I know it's probably not easy holding a conversation with your brother, but he's family and I'm assuming you guys see each other often if not every day so that's something that will increase your chances of being able to talk. As for the talking part, I'm sure it will be tricky but it can be done. He's your brother too so I bet you really want to be able to get closer to him. Maybe talk about simple everyday things to him? You could ask him how his day was, or discuss a recent event on the news, or comment about the weather. These are just a few examples to start with and I'm sure you'll be able to think up of so many more. As things progress the conversations will hold out longer and flow more easily, trust me. I don't think I've helped you very much, but If you need anything else feel free to post me a visitor's message on my profile and I will be happy to try and help~~

[Txfri1350]

well what drove you apart in the first place? try to figure out and then from there try to correct the problem

Ever since we moved things have been different. I don't even know what happened. Its really weird and it makes me feel awkward when I try and talk to him. His "Best Friend" lives right across the street and he is always spending time with him and completely leaves me out as if I'm not good enough for them.

[Txfri1350]

Why haven't you been close with your brother lately? Is there a specific reason?

Getting close to someone isn't always easy, especially if the other person's personality is fairly closed-off and introverted. I know it's probably not easy holding a conversation with your brother, but he's family and I'm assuming you guys see each other often if not every day so that's something that will increase your chances of being able to talk. As for the talking part, I'm sure it will be tricky but it can be done. He's your brother too so I bet you really want to be able to get closer to him. Maybe talk about simple everyday things to him? You could ask him how his day was, or discuss a recent event on the news, or comment about the weather. These are just a few examples to start with and I'm sure you'll be able to think up of so many more. As things progress the conversations will hold out longer and flow more easily, trust me. I don't think I've helped you very much, but If you need anything else feel free to post me a visitor's message on my profile and I will be happy to try and help~~

Its so weird, I don't know what happened.... I don't even know to start a convo with him anymore.

[Txfri1350]

Do y'all play sports? Ask him to hang out with you. Do you remember anything you both like to do? That'll help :)

We both play lacrosse. I have asked him and he says hes too busy or later... then it never happens. Im just outta options I guess

[collapsing_rain]

Maybe writing a letter with your thoughts and feelings and give it to him when he's more free?

[JamesSuperBoy]

Ever since we moved things have been different. I don't even know what happened. Its really weird and it makes me feel awkward when I try and talk to him. His "Best Friend" lives right across the street and he is always spending time with him and completely leaves me out as if I'm not good enough for them.


I have read your other posts on this but I quoted this one. House moves can be for a lot of reasons - maybe?

Now he is closer to a friend right across the street so spends time with him maybe its a kind of novelty thing but you dont say how long since the move.

Perhaps big bro is just needing time away - the letter idea is good think about that. I am the youngest of 4 so I know how it seems when older bros leave school and now have friends I do not know and they can say just drive off to movies and things.

[Drummer Ben]

It's what happens to everyone. Used to have a close relationship with my sister till she became a teenager and got a boyfriend. I don't really talk to her much anymore, she's kind of just there sometimes. She doesn't want me bothering her a lot of the times. It used to make me angry and sometimes still does but I learn it's all apart of growing up and becoming independent. Cherish the few times you still have together because pretty soon he'll be off to college, you'll be off to college, you'll both have your own lives, and won't see each other as much. Don't take it personal. Before you know it you'll be out of your house and won't talk to your parents as much. You'll find somebody you love and maybe eventually raise a family that you can love. Just know that you are not the only one who's going through this by any stretch of the imagination. You'll get used to this and begin to like the independence away from your family. Doesn't mean you'll never talk to them ever again, you'll just slowly talk to them and need them less and less.

[SethfromMI]

Ever since we moved things have been different. I don't even know what happened. Its really weird and it makes me feel awkward when I try and talk to him. His "Best Friend" lives right across the street and he is always spending time with him and completely leaves me out as if I'm not good enough for them.

that is tough man, if he even won't talk to you. I guess just keep trying and if he refuses, it is his lost