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Cognizant
February 18th, 2015, 01:39 AM
This is more or less just the story of my weird shift at work today.
Ok so at work today this kid came in to order a smoothie.
He was a bit interesting. I found him almost too friendly? Even the most bubbly customers that come in our stores usually just ask me how I'm doing, tell me the order, hand me the money and then I give them the change. That's usually the only interaction I'll have with them. But this kid, he was definitely more...interesting.

So he walks on in about 10 minutes till closing, and he seems very happy to see me for some reason. Again, I had no clue who this dude was. He ordered, gave him his total, and handed me his bus pass. I'm sure it was a mistake, but again, he seemed too friendly about it to me. I said "erm, this ain't VTA buddy." He laughed, said something I didn't quite catch and handed me his credit card. Since we ask for the order names, I discovered that his name was Max/Maxwell. I said thank you and he said thanks back. Since nobody else was in the store and my manager was in the back, I made his smoothie from him and he left.

Then around 5 minutes after we were supposed to lock our doors, he popped back in and he said "Hey, you must be (my sister)'s brother! She wants you to bring her back food." I was more or less surprised that he knew my sister well enough to chat with her. I was just like "Yeah, she isn't getting shit haha" and then he left again. Right after he left we locked the doors and finished closing the store. I texted my sister about it, asking her who that was. She confirmed it was Maxwell (lastname). I thought that would be the end of story, but nah. After I finished closing duties and got home, my sister asked me if I thought he was cute. I just thought to myself, oh god, I know where this is going.

Me:"He's ok I guess, why?"

Sis: "He's gay!" (my sister knows I'm bisexual)

Me: "Uhhhhh, ok? So?"

Sis: "..and he finds you cute - I don't know if I was supposed to tell you that but oh well hehe"

Yep, I knew she was going to say that. In all honesty, I don't think he's that attractive. I mean he's not ugly, but he's not the best-looking guy that I've seen at my school.
And just when I thought it could get any more awkward, I checked my facebook account and sure enough he sent me a friend request :\ I accepted it and he said to me
"If (sister) hasn't told you yet, it was I who came into Jamba Juice and asked you to give her food lol"

I just replied "hahaha yeah she told me." he said
"Haha, alright then" and that was the end of our conversation.

I doubt he's going to talk to me any more, but I really just am not interested in talking with him. I have a good feeling that he's either gonna flirt with me or ask me out, both of which are not really what I'm looking for; I have a girl that I'm interested in anyways.

So thanks for listening to my ramble about my shift at work. Now here's my question - should he chat with me again and he does start to flirt with me, how do I tell him that I'm not interested in dating - while being assertive but without crushing his spirit? I've never really been in the case where I've had to reject someone at the very beginning so I'm honestly not sure what to say or do.

Melodic
February 18th, 2015, 01:51 AM
If he asks you, say something like "I'm not interested in a relationship" or if you think he's easy going enough "I'm into in someone else at the moment".

Calliope
February 18th, 2015, 02:19 AM
Just don't be a dick about it, and you'll probably be fine. If he starts flirting, make it clear you're uncomfortable with it, or if he asks you out, say a nice white lie like "I'm flattered, but no thank you."
If you want to stop it before it really starts, you could always try to find a way to "casually mention" something about the girl you're into in a conversation with him, or a facebook status you know he'll see, so he knows he's not the one on your mind.
Well, that's my two cents. Good luck!

matt_tgr
February 18th, 2015, 07:46 AM
Ahhh don't you hate it when that happens? He probably won't ask you very soon and he'll want to chat with you. So you can:
A-not respond to his messages (which would kinda be a dick move, but would save you the trouble of awkwardly explaining why you don't wanna date him)
B- respond with very few wrods, and just don't try to engage into the onbersation (my personal favourite. He'll realize you're not that interested in talking to him)
C- just tell him you have a boyfriend or something (a.w.k.w.a.r.d)

fairmaiden
February 18th, 2015, 03:39 PM
You can tell him that you're better off as friends or that you're not ready for a relationship yet:)