That perfect person?

[commikid]

So after being in a relationship for 2.5 years unfortunately I got cheated on and now Im left single again, the thing is I look around me and Im actually shocked as to what I see. Im a little bit older than a lot of the people on here as I've been on the site a few years and im now 22. My preference to the perfect person would be a girl that was normal body build to slim with no piercings out of the usual ears and maybe nose, no tattoos and no kids. The thing is this person doesn't seem to exist through anyone I know or anyone I've met in the last 2 month. does anyone else feel as though that perfect person just does not exist?

[Luminous]

I don't think there's a perfect person at all. I think one day you'll meet someone who you can love for all their flaws. But honestly, the kind of person you described is relatively common, maybe you need to expand your group of friends to a different type of people.

[Horatio Nelson]

I think having that whole concept is what's screwing you.

I have never had a preconceived idea of the kind of girl I want. I have no "type". But one day that one person will come into my life and she will be perfect. After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Don't force it, it will happen.

[onewingedangel666]

Each person has their own "perfect" person.
Some have found theirs and are happy
some have found theirs and aren't
some haven't found theirs

[fairmaiden]

Your preferences aren't exactly that hard to find, so don't worry too much about that. But what if your perfect person is someone who's slightly overweight, with piercings and tattoos?

My point is that it's not necessarily bad to have preferences, but the perfect person for you could easily not fit into those preferences, thus causing you to overlook them. It's not bad that you have preferences, but all I'm saying is that you should have an open mind when it comes to finding that ''perfect'' person.

[That's the Spirit]

Sorry to hear that OP, I am waiting for the perfect one to come along. I assure you that you'll find that special someone one day.

[Sordid Saint]

I feel the same OP, my perfect girl has come and gone. A lot of people say that if they aren't still with you or cheated on you in our case, or left you for someone else then they aren't the perfect one anyway. We will have to wait and see

[Meh Guy]

Well I mean with jobs becoming more and more accepting and the generations changing, your dream of a piercing free and tattoo free mate is gonna be hard to find. And of course the no kids thing is entirely different story...

All I'd say is don't lower your expectations just because you can't find someone. You may have to compromise on some things.. Like maybe a little tattoo or something, but don't just settle for something you're not okay with because you can't find anyone else.

[TheGentleHerbivore]

Try looking more into what you like in a person's personality, rather than their appearance. Because someday a person's body will go bad no matter what they do.
Focus on what will never fade, and that's a beautiful personality (cheesy as that sounds).

For instance if a guy said that he only likes girls with big breasts, no tattoos, brown hair and hazel eyes.
And the girl of his dreams comes along and she's a small breasted, black haired, blue eyed girl with a small tattoo on her wrist/ankle. But she's the sweetest, kindest soul you would ever meet.
Forever that relationship would be tainted by knowing he has those preferences. And she's never going to feel good enough.

Lets put this into perspective, lets say you were dating a girl and you found out she prefers tall guys, and lets say you were the same height as her or even shorter. You're never going to feel up to her standards and it's just going to keep messing with your head. You'll never feel good enough knowing that she wants something else, that you aren't exactly what she wants.

There shouldn't be a rulebook tied to your perfect person. Focus more on personality, because when you love someone for who they are, everything about them becomes perfect.
Don't let something as miniscule and whether or not they have a tattoo determine whether or not you'd be with them.

[commikid]

Thankyou everyone for all of your posts and responses, I can totally understand what some people are saying about having to compromise on certain aspects and not being so strict as to wanting someone with an exact appearance and I'm not really that's just a general guide but I'm a little scared to differ from those preferences too much because what if you find someone that does not match but they have a personality of gold but 3 years down the line that person comes along with the visual match as aswell as the personality. I couldn't ever cheat on someone (honestly lol) so I'm in fear of it not being the one :/

[Alexwellace]

Oh, the perfect person is out there.

She has a smile that is infectious. She makes you laugh, and you make her laugh, and it sounds like honey in your ear. She is smart and sassy, competes with you on the track and on paper. She is sexy and confident, with blue eyes that promise so much and lips so full of life.

She has a boy friend. The perfect ones always do.

[commikid]

Haha yeah they always do tend to have a boyfriend don't they :/ and yes you are right DanielLee5 personality is a big part of someone but then again it is so hard to preference a personality with there being so much of a variation out there and we only have the ability to name so many emotion we prefer and like but yet different people put them into use in such different ways

[SethfromMI]

no one is perfect. you got to learn to love people despite their flaws