Need advice regarding my crush

[Nightwheeler]

Hi,

This is a bit long and sorry, I can't provide a tl;Dr version. So anyone who helps me, please know that I appreciate it a lot that you took your time to read what I wrote.

Around December 2014 I broke up with my girlfriend because I had started talk with this another girl in my school and to be honest she was the first one Who actually made me forget all my problems and I never got bored while talking to her. I decided it was for the best to break up with my girlfriend when I like someone else more. It's not even like I liked this other girl for her body or something, my ex was better looking.

Before I continue, let's give names to my ex and this new girl before things get confusing. So lets call my ex "lily" and the new girl "robin".

So yeah, I broke up with lily cause I apparently liked Robin more for her personality. Robin has to be the most amazing girl I've talked to ever, way better than lily.

So, it's been a bit over a month I've been talking to Robin and we talk daily, for hours. If it's anything, we've exchanged over 20000 messages and along with that we also meet in school everyday and hang out. But wait, there are more complications.

We both trust each other a lot. I know every detail about her life and she Also knows every detail about my life. Including my past. This led to her telling me about a guy she had a crush on for like 10 months. She doesn't yet know I like her, I'm probably in the Friend zone. So the guy she used to Like rejected her in early January and she's still getting over it.

Idk what to do. I want to get out of the Friend zone, I'm really serious about her. But I think that if I take a leap and confess right now i would put her in a very difficult position if she doesn't like me back cause after what she has-been through she probably doesn't want to reject me and see me in pain. But then I don't want her to date me just out of pity.

I need tips on how long I should wait right now, and how can I get out of the Friend zone.

Any help is appreciated. Bbyee

[DoodleSnap]

Try to drop hints and "test-the-water", so to speak. If you feel the time is right, tell her how you feel in a fairly neutral way, and see how she responds. Either way, she will understand, and like you just the same, especially considering your honesty. You have nothing to lose - considering the strength of your relationship, she will still like you as a friend no matter what happens, and there is nothing wrong with that. Friendships are great, so don't feel that they are less than romantic relationships.

[Nightwheeler]

Try to drop hints and "test-the-water", so to speak. If you feel the time is right, tell her how you feel in a fairly neutral way, and see how she responds. Either way, she will understand, and like you just the same, especially considering your honesty. You have nothing to lose - considering the strength of your relationship, she will still like you as a friend no matter what happens, and there is nothing wrong with that. Friendships are great, so don't feel that they are less than romantic relationships.

I have a couple questions for you.
What do you mean by drop hints? Actually, how do I do that? I haven't been dating for long and am not really good in this stuff

What do you mean by telling her in a neutral way?

What honesty are you talking about?

And if I get rejected, it won't be awkward for her but it will be for me. Like it always is. Things just aren't the same when you get rejected by a girl, you try to avoid her.

[Jokuvaa]

I just experienced a friend zone crush and it worked out for the best even though I got rejected. I dropped hints and all that, even as I knew she was into another guy. Then I just went to her and told her I really like her, but I got rejected. We agreed to stay in the friend zone and I'm happy about it, even though it still hurts to see and talk to her knowing it won't lead to anything more serious. But I will move on.

My advice is to go for it. Tell her how you feel. Just do it and you won't regret later for not doing it. I promise you things will become clear and the both of you will know where you are at. Like DoodleSnap said, you have nothing to lose.

[DoodleSnap]

I have a couple questions for you.
What do you mean by drop hints? Actually, how do I do that? I haven't been dating for long and am not really good in this stuff

What do you mean by telling her in a neutral way?

What honesty are you talking about?

And if I get rejected, it won't be awkward for her but it will be for me. Like it always is. Things just aren't the same when you get rejected by a girl, you try to avoid her.
When I say drop hints, I mean that you should be slightly flirty with her, make jokes about it, and see how she reacts. When I say tell her in a neutral way, I simply meant that you should tell her calmly and straight-forward-ly, so as not to cause any confusion or make her feel bad. And finally, the honesty will be from you telling her the truth; people appreciate that. Look at the situation from her point of view - put yourself in her shoes, and you will see that there is no need to make it awkward, just act casually, and it won't be awkward, unless you make it so. Finally, if your nerves are getting to you, wiggle your toes and fingers, and find a quiet space and stand big, legs wide apart, and stretch out your arms like a starfish.