Ex problems

[tom101]

So, the other day out of nowhere my ex boyfriend invited me out for dinner this Sunday. We have been apart for just over a year now and where together for a while. The brake up was a bad one. As he went off with another guy ( A friend of mine). Since then we rarely talk to each other, tho still have each other on facebook etc. Needless to say I was taken back when he asked if I would like to go out for dinner, and have a catch up.

He is coming to me. witch means he will have to spend 2 hours on the train here and 2 hours to go back. Also this is valentine's weekend. surely he should be with his boyfriend. It all seems like a lot off effort just to see me for maybe an hour. When he can just pick up the phone and call me.

I am really confused to why he is coming down to see me. As far as I know he is in a happy relationship. I have thought this over so much the last few days. I thought I would not have dinner with him as it just like I will be trapped at the table with him, and just cant walk away if he has just come down to be a dick. So I ask if we could just go for coffee. Witch he agreed to. I am just really worried about his intentions. There is only 3 things he can want-
1, he is just be friendly
2, he wants to rub my face in his "new life"
3 He wants to get back with me.

I was just wondering if someone might have an opinion on this? As I am out of ideas, and do not know how to play this when I see him.

[Straya]

So, the other day out of nowhere my ex boyfriend invited me out for dinner this Sunday. We have been apart for just over a year now and where together for a while. The brake up was a bad one. As he went off with another guy ( A friend of mine). Since then we rarely talk to each other, tho still have each other on facebook etc. Needless to say I was taken back when he asked if I would like to go out for dinner, and have a catch up.

He is coming to me. witch means he will have to spend 2 hours on the train here and 2 hours to go back. Also this is valentine's weekend. surely he should be with his boyfriend. It all seems like a lot off effort just to see me for maybe an hour. When he can just pick up the phone and call me.

I am really confused to why he is coming down to see me. As far as I know he is in a happy relationship. I have thought this over so much the last few days. I thought I would not have dinner with him as it just like I will be trapped at the table with him, and just cant walk away if he has just come down to be a dick. So I ask if we could just go for coffee. Witch he agreed to. I am just really worried about his intentions. There is only 3 things he can want-
1, he is just be friendly
2, he wants to rub my face in his "new life"
3 He wants to get back with me.

I was just wondering if someone might have an opinion on this? As I am out of ideas, and do not know how to play this when I see him.
well the only way to find out what he wants is to go out to dinner with him but if he wants any of the other things apart from the first then i would just get up and walk away from him

[Isabella_]

Maybe he wants to mend the broken bridge? Apologise and be your friend again?

If he wants sex don't, just using you

[DoodleSnap]

Maybe he wants to mend the broken bridge? Apologise and be your friend again?

If he wants sex don't, just using you
^^^This. Maybe he just wants to just be friends again? I don't know, and there is no point in me guessing. Just don't worry about it, and speak calmly to him about it over dinner, about what he wants going forward in the relationship. As long as you communicate with each other clearly, then you have nothing to worry about.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think you are right just to have a short less formal thing like going for coffee and not dinner.

I guess you just have to meet and see how things go.

[Vermilion]

So, the other day out of nowhere my ex boyfriend invited me out for dinner this Sunday. We have been apart for just over a year now and where together for a while. The brake up was a bad one. As he went off with another guy ( A friend of mine). Since then we rarely talk to each other, tho still have each other on facebook etc. Needless to say I was taken back when he asked if I would like to go out for dinner, and have a catch up.

He is coming to me. witch means he will have to spend 2 hours on the train here and 2 hours to go back. Also this is valentine's weekend. surely he should be with his boyfriend. It all seems like a lot off effort just to see me for maybe an hour. When he can just pick up the phone and call me.

I am really confused to why he is coming down to see me. As far as I know he is in a happy relationship. I have thought this over so much the last few days. I thought I would not have dinner with him as it just like I will be trapped at the table with him, and just cant walk away if he has just come down to be a dick. So I ask if we could just go for coffee. Witch he agreed to. I am just really worried about his intentions. There is only 3 things he can want-
1, he is just be friendly
2, he wants to rub my face in his "new life"
3 He wants to get back with me.

I was just wondering if someone might have an opinion on this? As I am out of ideas, and do not know how to play this when I see him.
Asked yourself these questions
Is he one to rub things in ?
Do you want anything to do with him still ?
If he wants to get back with you what will you say ? And I just wanted to say I'm sure the day was planned or it could be cos it's half term.

[benj2]

I am still free and single