Please help me with a girl issue!

[USMC276]

Basically last summer, I met a really great girl. Extremely pretty and nice. i work as a lifeguard and she worked as a staff member. We go to the same high school together, but i just never knew her because she wasn't in any of my classes. Anyway, we were good friends at work. I didn't actually start liking until maybe late September because that's when i found out she broke up with her boyfriend. Well, this year I really didn't have any classes with her. A few times i was able to talk to her in the early school year, but as time went on, I kind of drifted away from her. It basically went on to just a few hellos in the hallway every month. At this point, i've hardly talked to her at all. It's been really bothering me and i was getting worried she didn't want to talk to me as much because I was being so quite. It's not just that we had so few classes, it's just that I'm a different more shy person at school. So anyway, today I tried to push my limits and talk to her and she just didn't seem interested to talk to me. I've been dreaming of having a great conversation with her but in the end, it just felt like she was saying, "screw you, I don't want to talk to you" in the most polite way possible. I'm going to be honest, as a 17 year old man, I've been crying a lot all day from the depression of my situation and disappointment of myself. What the hell can i do to fix this situation? I know she will be working again at the same place I am this summer, but even then I'm afraid she won't want to talk to me. Please, someone tell me what I should do? she genuinely seems to be near perfect to me. I made an account just for this. I just need advice. please

[Elysium]

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[Straya]

Basically last summer, I met a really great girl. Extremely pretty and nice. i work as a lifeguard and she worked as a staff member. We go to the same high school together, but i just never knew her because she wasn't in any of my classes. Anyway, we were good friends at work. I didn't actually start liking until maybe late September because that's when i found out she broke up with her boyfriend. Well, this year I really didn't have any classes with her. A few times i was able to talk to her in the early school year, but as time went on, I kind of drifted away from her. It basically went on to just a few hellos in the hallway every month. At this point, i've hardly talked to her at all. It's been really bothering me and i was getting worried she didn't want to talk to me as much because I was being so quite. It's not just that we had so few classes, it's just that I'm a different more shy person at school. So anyway, today I tried to push my limits and talk to her and she just didn't seem interested to talk to me. I've been dreaming of having a great conversation with her but in the end, it just felt like she was saying, "screw you, I don't want to talk to you" in the most polite way possible. I'm going to be honest, as a 17 year old man, I've been crying a lot all day from the depression of my situation and disappointment of myself. What the hell can i do to fix this situation? I know she will be working again at the same place I am this summer, but even then I'm afraid she won't want to talk to me. Please, someone tell me what I should do? she genuinely seems to be near perfect to me. I made an account just for this. I just need advice. please

theres no way to make her interested in you. if she has no interest in a relationship with you theres not much you can do

[the_override]

People tend to skip over the imperfections of others and look only at what they want to see. I sugjest thinking her over

[Body odah Man]

Sadly you can't make someone like you. They need to do it from themselves.

[TrentTheEeveeLover]

Why not add her on facebook (if you or here have one) then message her asking her what shes interested in. For myself i find it more easy to talk to someone online than in person until i know more about them. Hope you worl things out :).

[USMC276]

theres no way to make her interested in you. if she has no interest in a relationship with you theres not much you can do

What if she was interested at one point? Honestly, i felt as though she almost liked me in the beginning of the year. I don't just mean "like".

She didn't always seem so disinterested. I just don't know if it's that she was having a bad day or I just turned into a shitty boring person and she was interested in talking.

[USMC276]

Why not add her on facebook (if you or here have one) then message her asking her what shes interested in. For myself i find it more easy to talk to someone online than in person until i know more about them. Hope you worl things out :).

Well, I have her phone and Facebook. Facebook is awhile ago and I got her phone number by asking her if she could send a picture of a test to me.

i don't know what the hell to do. I'm depressed. I feel the pain most during my drive home from school. I can't take this. What's the point in texting her if she probably doesn't want to talk?

[Straya]

What if she was interested at one point? Honestly, i felt as though she almost liked me in the beginning of the year. I don't just mean "like".

She didn't always seem so disinterested. I just don't know if it's that she was having a bad day or I just turned into a shitty boring person and she was interested in talking.

i very much doubt she liked you like you think she might of if she lost interest that fast. i think you were seeing things that wernt there because of your feelings for her and she might of noticed that and didnt want to lead you on so she ended it right there and then

[USMC276]

i very much doubt she liked you like you think she might of if she lost interest that fast. i think you were seeing things that wernt there because of your feelings for her and she might of noticed that and didnt want to lead you on so she ended it right there and then

It's just that in like November where I kinda lost contact with her, I asked my friend (who's at another school who was friends with her at their elementary school) to text her and halfway through just mention me. He said after he mentioned me, she got kind of excited and said my name in caps and then added like 5 of the heart shaped emojis. I mean I know girls like to use emojis but I mean could that mean anything that she could possibly like me?

[DoodleSnap]

Learning to love yourself is important here. Try to understand that your worth is not based off of what someone else thinks about you, but what you do for yourself. She is likely going through a hard period of time post-breakup, so don't think that it is your fault that it is necessarily your fault that she doesn't want to speak.